Mischa101 Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 If you're a woman, what do you expect the man to do? If he doesn't do it, do you draw the line and cut him loose or do you try to keep him in order to see if you can get a relationship with him?
d0nnivain Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 I expect & won't tolerate anything other than: 1. polite 2. punctual (I understand about traffic call to say you are running late but not every time) 3. engaging meaning has something to day & is willing to hear my point of view. Is interested in what I have going on & is willing to share what's going on with him 4. conversational 5. generous . . . not in the materialistic way but will pick up the check, leaves an appropriate tip, shares of himself, has some soft of charitable bent. 2
scooby-philly Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 I'd love to hear this perspective from as many women as possible. Just getting back into the dating scene - never had a problem with the initial dates...but still it would be good to learn and hear things from you. Would you mind a sub-thread of what guy's expect?
road Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 I always tell my women when they ask does this dress make my butt look big, no your butt makes that dress look small.
Author Mischa101 Posted September 25, 2015 Author Posted September 25, 2015 I'd love to hear this perspective from as many women as possible. Just getting back into the dating scene - never had a problem with the initial dates...but still it would be good to learn and hear things from you. Would you mind a sub-thread of what guy's expect? I don't mind
scooby-philly Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 So here's my man's list of expectations: 1. Communication - even if you're not a big texter/messenger - a relationship relies on communication. 2. Clarity - early on, it's important to set ground rules, expectations, etc 3. Snobby - I don't deal with snobbiness, entitlement, vanity, etc. 4. Affectionate - I don't want someone who doesn't hug, kiss, show affection 5. "Needy" and " Space Filler" - look I mean, we all have needs. And we all need time for ourselves. But a lot of people are too far on one end of the spectrum or other. Have some hobbies, have some friends/family - we need to say good night and sleep next to each other each night, we don't need to do everything outside of work 24/7. The same way, I've met (and dated unfortunately) women (same rule applies to guys though) who are super busy and really just want a filler for when they have down time or to appear that they're in a relationship. Somewhere in between is the sweet spot. 6. Meanness, anger, etc - I've met a lot of angry women out there. Whether it's ghetto trash, spoiled suburbanites, doesn't matter - don't be angry, don't be jealous of others. 7. Be yourself. I hate fake people, or people pleasers, or kiss asses. Just be yourself. 2
rocketman122 Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 So here's my man's list of expectations: 1. Communication - even if you're not a big texter/messenger - a relationship relies on communication. 2. Clarity - early on, it's important to set ground rules, expectations, etc 3. Snobby - I don't deal with snobbiness, entitlement, vanity, etc. 4. Affectionate - I don't want someone who doesn't hug, kiss, show affection 5. "Needy" and " Space Filler" - look I mean, we all have needs. And we all need time for ourselves. But a lot of people are too far on one end of the spectrum or other. Have some hobbies, have some friends/family - we need to say good night and sleep next to each other each night, we don't need to do everything outside of work 24/7. The same way, I've met (and dated unfortunately) women (same rule applies to guys though) who are super busy and really just want a filler for when they have down time or to appear that they're in a relationship. Somewhere in between is the sweet spot. 6. Meanness, anger, etc - I've met a lot of angry women out there. Whether it's ghetto trash, spoiled suburbanites, doesn't matter - don't be angry, don't be jealous of others. 7. Be yourself. I hate fake people, or people pleasers, or kiss asses. Just be yourself. A lot of women are like this on OLD. they have friends family children activities and they want a convenient relationship of a guy who will take them out when they want a little attention/affection/entertainment. but "I stay here and you stay here and once in a while well get together when I want to be entertained." it will not go past this though. they obviosuly want monogamy but basically im being held to be used when they have free time. its always set days and no flexibility. and I knoiw what space is and im independent. hell I hardly go see friends or my mom or sister. but I dont mention it and im not a leech that needs to see my partner 5 times a week. 3 times is fine to me. 1-2 times a week is not enough.
bettermistakes Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Be consistent. Make it clear she is a priority. Escalate things at an appropriate pace. Make concrete suggestions about what to do on your dates and when, but give her the option to suggest alternatives. Also, show some actual romantic interest. I once tried really hard to date a guy but he just never made a move of any kind or gave me any kind of I'm into you vibe. And was surprised when I didn't want to spend any more time with him!
Nemetona Posted September 26, 2015 Posted September 26, 2015 Have a great sense of humour Pick up the bill when we go out Hold doors open Remember and care about the details Ideally have large equipment
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