Ami1uwant Posted September 26, 2015 Posted September 26, 2015 Why is paying for sex that big of a deal???? How is paying fir a prostitute any different than dating someone just to have sex with them then leave them? A guy spends 20 hrs courting/dating her plus date fists yo sleep with her vs paying $500/hr for sex?
Author SmartDude Posted September 26, 2015 Author Posted September 26, 2015 I think my total count is around 35 different sex workers. And I have absolutely no shame or remorse about this fact. I save their pictures so I can remember the times I had with each of them. Some were bad experiences, and I didn't save their pictures. Yes, it was about more than just the sex! It was the excitement of meeting a new person and learning a little bit about their life. That is what I will remember the most when I walk away from this. The women there were allies in a way. We all depend on each other, and that was the understanding. It was far removed from the abusive world of "hookers and johns", Instead there were "providers and clients". But it is so much different than a FWB to me at least. The lines are clearly drawn and that makes it so much more safe in a strange way. I actually prefer a good relationship with a sex worker over an ambiguous FWB relationship right now. There are many women who entered "the life" and have come away with a massive positive changes in their sexual self-worth and general self image. Some of them have had absolutely horrid experiences as well. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Experiences are subjective. There are even supportive communities comprised of men and female sex workers in online forums similar to this one. Recently there was a thread about how to exit "the life". Both the men and women know this can't last forever, and I have received support and advice from female sex workers on this topic. The female sex workers often share some of the same difficult issues as their male clients. But to top it off, one of these women actually saved my life. I had a scrotal mass that was getting larger over the course of about a year. I was trying to ignore it. Each time I visited this particular lady, she was absolutely insistent that I go see a doctor and have it checked out. Well it turned out to be testicular cancer. Had I waited much longer my life would be very different than it is today. 1
Ijustdon'tgetit Posted September 26, 2015 Posted September 26, 2015 I was listening to the radio the other day and they mentioned there being recent published studies by UCLA about men who pay for sex being more prone to violence such as rape as they have less empathy for women. Here it says: "Both groups tend to have a preference for impersonal sex, a fear of rejection by women, a history of having committed sexually aggressive acts and a hostile masculine self-identification. Those who buy sex, on average, have less empathy for women in prostitution and view them as intrinsically different from other women."
Author SmartDude Posted September 26, 2015 Author Posted September 26, 2015 I was listening to the radio the other day and they mentioned there being recent published studies by UCLA about men who pay for sex being more prone to violence such as rape as they have less empathy for women. Here it says: "Both groups tend to have a preference for impersonal sex, a fear of rejection by women, a history of having committed sexually aggressive acts and a hostile masculine self-identification. Those who buy sex, on average, have less empathy for women in prostitution and view them as intrinsically different from other women." What a lot of those studies do is take samples from the street-level prostitutues and johns. They examine data from crisis and rape centers, homeless shelters, drug treatment programs...etc. Not representative of the mid to upper level of sex workers or their clients in any way.
Heer Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 Hello everyone. Well my friend that turned to being escorts eventually turned out just fine because she went to therapists and she only told me about this secret. Since she was my roommate and she disappeared for days sometimes without coming back to dorm, this gradually became suspicious. She told me that she returns home but it doesn't make sense because they live across the country and going back every weekend seems improbable. It was only after a tearful return one night that she finally told me and I was shocked. I totally agree that it was a horrible experience and she would never do it again. I also swore that I wouldn't tell anyone because as far as I know, only me and her knows. I would never recommend it but honestly, there might be some girls out there that may actually enjoy it but I'm sure that they are boing kept safe.
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