QueenDeath Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 Since my recent breakup, I've been using OkCupid, until I disabled my account last night, main reason being in college and having to jungle that + school...no However, I realized when I did use it, went on a few dates with a few people and after that, my interest in these people are out the window. Same goes for people I would start texting, and then a few days later, I'm no longer interested. They can be the hottest person I laid eyes on and still lose interest quickly, and if I like something about them, lose interest. I used OkC for casual dating, nothing serious. I didn't *at least I think* use anyone as a rebound. I like to believe that I went through the stages of being the dumpee and all, but I don't know, it's just weird for me to lose interest in people so quickly. :x
menyou Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 Sounds to me like you just need a break from the dating scene. Focus on your studies and if you randomly meet someone, so be it. Just pull back on actively seeking someone out when you aren't interested from the get go. 2
h0000 Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 I think it's just because they failed to attract you, physically or not. Nothing unusual. 1
Ami1uwant Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 I think you are misnterpretng what interest is in someone vs the new car smell effect of its someone new you are talking to. 1
Zippy2000 Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 I ll help answer that for you. I ve dont internet dating and I m a veteran of up to 10 years and have been doing it since it was in its infancy. The reason why you are losing interest is because when you`re meet from the internet. There isnt the background or any kind of story how you built up your relationship. You could say its a forced meeting from social tool such as the net. So you dont have any connection with these people and you can therefore move fast and have no guilt as they are just people yopu have met with no close relationship with. I feel like this when I meet an attractive girl from the net only to find about a months later I lose interst because the curioustiy wears off and you find out about things you dont like about them. In your case you might be building up an expectation of them and when you get to meet them in real life. Your expectations dont match and you feel let down and loose interest. I used to try to get and meet someone online after about a week or two for online communication. That way my exoectations dont build up too high and them come crashing down. 1
scooby-philly Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 I didn't even date in HS/College - too nerdy and low self-esteem. Everyone needs a re-charge of their batteries once in a while. The best couples I know give each other space when needed and learn to understand that commitment doesn't wane - but the whole "honeymoon" phase comes and goes as people navigate life together. Honestly - just sounds like you're mentally forcing yourself to date right now. Relax. Just let it go...let it go... 1
d0nnivain Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 You are in college. You don't need OLD. There are plenty of people to date at your school. Look around. 2
casey.lives Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 college is about having fun!! it's about learning who you are and what life is and having a blast. 2
Michelle ma Belle Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 I agree with the post about you being in college which means you shouldn't need to be trolling for dates or hookups or whatever online. This is supposed to be the time of your life with plenty of dating options available right in front of your face if you just shift your focus and look around. Meeting people organically can be a game changer in some cases. Having said that I'm going to echo the post that said you probably just need a break from dating and put all that energy into your studies, for now anyway. Good luck. 1
thunder777 Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 people are so plugged into their smart phones & cyberspace identities these days that real life flerting & entwining is something most of us are incapable of but yes it sounds like your manufacturing love, instead chase a guy u might adore that u see throughout your days, instead of the cyberspace guys. show him a little attention/affection 1
smackie9 Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 I think you should just rely on real life interaction, and let things evolve organically. I don't see the attraction of using OLD, it's so impersonal. It's no wonder there is way more failure and discouragement, than success and satisfaction. 1
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