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4 Weeks Into No Contact, Man This Is Hard!


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Hey guys I've posted before about my break-up, here's a quick sum of what happened.

 

-Short term relationship (5 months), we were both crazy about each other at first.

-I decided we take a break for a while because we had some issues and she texted me the day after that she'll miss me etc; but after 3 weeks of no contact she became completely indiferrent. As if we were strangers.

- I decided to break contact when she wished me happy birthday only for her to tell me that she was never in love with me and that I wasn't what she expected.

- Did the standard begging and pleading and we even ended up insulting each other after a heated conversation.

- The following day I sent her an e-mail saying: I dont care about what you think of me but I didn't mean the things I said to you, it was all in the heat of the moment. I care about you, I "forgive" us and I want you to be happy no matter what or who you are with. She obviously never replied.

 

Now its almost 4 weeks after no contact and I'm struggling, one minute I'm angry and right after I break into tears. I'm a composer so instead of turning my break up into something creative I feel completely numb. The fact that I do all my work at home as well doesn't help at all as I'm stuck in a room which brings back all the beautiful memories. Show me some love guys :(

 

Also I've still got clothes at her place but I'm not sure what to do. Every time I mentioned that to her she was coming up with excuses to delay it. I even messaged a common friend that we have and she said that its not her business and I should talk to my ex. Not sure what to do.

 

Also a huge thanks to all of you guys, just by reading your stories and articles I felt a little better knowing there's many of us hurting:love:

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Yes it is hard and it may get harder before it gets easier!

 

Do not contact her at all ever. Do not attempt to reach her and get your stuff through anybody eles.

 

Spend time exercising and focusing on yourself.

 

Take care of yourself.

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Yes it is hard and it may get harder before it gets easier!

 

Do not contact her at all ever. Do not attempt to reach her and get your stuff through anybody eles.

 

Spend time exercising and focusing on yourself.

 

Take care of yourself.

 

Hi Ellie, thanks for your reply. I don't care about her at all I just want my clothes back, there quite a few and I like the shirts I've left there. Should I just forget about them? Also why do you think she is doing this?

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