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I'm a 20 year old guy who currently lives in AZ. I usually don't try out online dating but so far, I found this woman interesting. According to her self-description, she's a makeup and tattoo artist. She seems to love dark things as well and I find that very interesting about her. What I like about her even more is that she seems to be a simple lady (doesn't expect fancy things from me).

 

What's the best way to make my first message on POF to her, a huge attention grabber and increasing my chances of her getting to reply back?

 

Here's a link to her POF profile. [link redacted by moderator]

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She says a lot about her interests...she knows German...I looked at her profile no longer than 3-seconds...quit over thinking. Do you have an interest in common? Can you say something in German (if not, look it up, put some effort dude) and then make a joke about it. If she doesn't respond...maybe you weren't her type. Whatever you say, DO NOT SAY 'hit me up if you want to talk' or something along those lines. Keep it short, sweet and playful. Good luck! Keep us updated pleaseeee?

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If it doesn't work out send her over to England. I'd have a go on that.

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Do you know any local cover bands that play her type of music? Mention one that you have heard & ask her if she's ever seen them. After you get chatting perhaps you can get her to agree to go somewhere with you to listen to them play.

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She smokes often, admits to doing drugs and doesn't post a picture showing any part of her body below her neck.

 

Her favorite thing to do would be lie in bed with her partner watching a violent movie about murders.

 

No redeeming qualities no reason to even consider wasting time on her, but in answer to your question, a good first message would be:

 

"Get Help".

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She says a lot about her interests...she knows German...I looked at her profile no longer than 3-seconds...quit over thinking. Do you have an interest in common? Can you say something in German (if not, look it up, put some effort dude) and then make a joke about it. If she doesn't respond...maybe you weren't her type. Whatever you say, DO NOT SAY 'hit me up if you want to talk' or something along those lines. Keep it short, sweet and playful. Good luck! Keep us updated pleaseeee?

 

I only know maybe a very few German words. I speak Spanish good enough as my other language but that's different from her interests. We do have the same taste of music(I love Heavy Metal and many forms of Rock and Metal music). She seems pretty open-minded judging by the end of her description. As for guns, I used to go hunting with my father, uncles and cousins(last time I went hunting was almost 3 years ago since we're all more busy now with money budget problems.

 

Anyways, I'm just trying to spice up my first message to make it sound original enough to capture her attention. I have poor social skills. That's why I ask this question to give me a good idea on how to word my brief first message.

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She says a lot about her interests...she knows German...I looked at her profile no longer than 3-seconds...quit over thinking. Do you have an interest in common? Can you say something in German (if not, look it up, put some effort dude) and then make a joke about it. If she doesn't respond...maybe you weren't her type. Whatever you say, DO NOT SAY 'hit me up if you want to talk' or something along those lines. Keep it short, sweet and playful. Good luck! Keep us updated pleaseeee?

 

How does this sound for a first message; "Wow, you sound pretty awesome. Plus you're gorgeous. I'm big on traveling as well. It's fun to explore unfamilair ground and meet different people. One of my goals is to try to make it to every continent in my lifetime.

 

What's a favorite city/town you've visited?"

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How does this sound for a first message; "Wow, you sound pretty awesome. Plus you're gorgeous. I'm big on traveling as well. It's fun to explore unfamilair ground and meet different people. One of my goals is to try to make it to every continent in my lifetime.

 

What's a favorite city/town you've visited?"

 

Sorry but you lost me at "you sound pretty awesome". And "you're gorgeous"? Do you know how often we women hear that? The same lines over and over and over again. I might just start banging my head against the keyboard right now. All joking aside...Leave the two sentences out. How about you compliment the nose piercing? The green hair? STAND OUT. You want to flirt/tease a bit.

 

I am wondering what your next message would be should she reply. Let's say I'm her. "NYC". What is your next question? Because I'm pretty sure the conversation will die and that will be the end of that. Your goal is to get her to meet you, this is urgent bc ppl lose interest very quickly. The best dating website I've found is this one (nicknotas)...I've asked my male friends to read it because I am too nice of a friend to point out the mistakes they make with women.

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Im not sure if this is a serious post or not. The profile looks fake, seriously she says she has a cat called salem, plays video games and owns machine guns but goes to visit the columbine memorial.

And then the OP gives an example post that he must know is trite.

 

If it is real, then i would be worried about her lack of a body shot.

 

And OP tell me why you think that post of yours would stand out.

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Im just interested to know how many male posters here would find that type of girl attractive as a whole.

 

If you want to contact her maybe say "im an astronaut, expert in the dark."

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Im not sure if this is a serious post or not. The profile looks fake, seriously she says she has a cat called salem, plays video games and owns machine guns but goes to visit the columbine memorial.

 

Sounds legit to me. The part about the machine guns was obviously in jest, and it's followed by a wink. She sounds like she's really into death and violence and unfortunately that's almost too real nowadays.

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She often uses drugs, practices witchcraft, she participates in riots and is against any type of authority and owns several guns.

 

Are you looking to be on the 6 O'clock news?

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How does this sound for a first message; "Wow, you sound pretty awesome. Plus you're gorgeous. I'm big on traveling as well. It's fun to explore unfamilair ground and meet different people. One of my goals is to try to make it to every continent in my lifetime.

 

What's a favorite city/town you've visited?"

 

 

IMNSHO it's a terrible 1st message. You come across as a needy, fanboy suck up, not a real man.

 

 

Everybody likes to travel, especially on line. I wouldn't respond to you.

 

 

Nothing about your intro compels her to respond.

 

 

What can YOU teach her? Why are you head & shoulders above everybody else out there? Hence my suggestion that you mention a local cover band. . . especially if it's not one she knows . . . the lure of learning more may just pique her interest.

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Hey I didn't know nose rings can be moved around! Ha ha shows how little I know about body piercing...

 

I'm another who thinks there is something fishy about the profile. Let's not assume it is a female behind it. I don't think she's 20. In the main photo she looks over 30. Also, you don't just grab a "tattoo gun" and start doing it. You have to train, so I doubt she's 20. Plus, tattoo artists are talented in drawing but she does not mention anything in the visual arts in her interests.

 

Instead she's studying forensic science? You first need a bachelor's degree for that. But she is not in college? Not adding up...

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Also, you don't just grab a "tattoo gun" and start doing it. You have to train, so I doubt she's 20. Plus, tattoo artists are talented in drawing but she does not mention anything in the visual arts in her interests.

 

She is a special effect make up artist. She is artistic so yes she should be good at drawing. If she is good at drawing she could have been working in a tattoo shop as a designer-drawing artist and a tattoo artist would have taught her how to tattoo. There is no tattoo school. You need a mentor to teach you OR she could have bought a tattoo machine and tattoo hearts on her friends therefore considers herself a tattoo artist lol.

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Instead she's studying forensic science? You first need a bachelor's degree for that. But she is not in college? Not adding up...

 

She watches CSI .....

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How does this sound for a first message; "Wow, you sound pretty awesome. Plus you're gorgeous. I'm big on traveling as well. It's fun to explore unfamilair ground and meet different people. One of my goals is to try to make it to every continent in my lifetime.

 

What's a favorite city/town you've visited?"

 

 

This is the worst message you could have thought of to use besides using something with the word "rape" in it. Please don't say anything like that.

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She looks like quite the heart breaker.

 

If I was younger my first message to her would be: " You look like a dangerous bitch".

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She is a special effect make up artist. She is artistic so yes she should be good at drawing. If she is good at drawing she could have been working in a tattoo shop as a designer-drawing artist and a tattoo artist would have taught her how to tattoo. There is no tattoo school. You need a mentor to teach you OR she could have bought a tattoo machine and tattoo hearts on her friends therefore considers herself a tattoo artist lol.

 

Possible... possible... but my radar tells me something is off. Special effects makeup artist, yes, I believe that. You can tell this woman would look very different without makeup.

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She looks like quite the heart breaker.

 

If I was younger my first message to her would be: " You look like a dangerous bitch".

 

OMG LOL what's wrong with you?

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IMNSHO it's a terrible 1st message. You come across as a needy, fanboy suck up, not a real man.

 

 

Everybody likes to travel, especially on line. I wouldn't respond to you.

 

 

Nothing about your intro compels her to respond.

 

 

What can YOU teach her? Why are you head & shoulders above everybody else out there? Hence my suggestion that you mention a local cover band. . . especially if it's not one she knows . . . the lure of learning more may just pique her interest.

 

 

Okay, what sounds "needy" and what doesn't on the internet? Jesus, the vast majority of you ladies are so over-analyzing(Not offended by your comments or anything but I never knew women can be this analyzing, especially on the internet).

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Yes, we over analyze to weed out the bad ones. Women get tons of losers hitting on them online (not implying that you are in any way - just to clarify). Like Nike's slogan says, JUST DO IT! :)

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Yes, we over analyze to weed out the bad ones. Women get tons of losers hitting on them online (not implying that you are in any way - just to clarify). Like Nike's slogan says, JUST DO IT! :)

 

But how is over-analyzing my first two messages weeding out the bad ones? It was just a simple compliment that wasn't over-thought. That's all. I guess you could say this is why I've always been single since my senior year in high school and am happy to stay this way since all women(in my experience) will do is just cause me more stress with their over-analyzation along with their unstable emotions and then cause some financial problems with me.

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But how is over-analyzing my first two messages weeding out the bad ones? It was just a simple compliment that wasn't over-thought.

 

They are talking about weeding out the unimaginative and needy messages they receive. If you sent them your message, it would be looked at as a weed.

Bland complements, or indeed any compliments about their looks - they will get from all the guys with nothing better to say.

 

You asked for help standing out? They are giving it to you.

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Okay, what sounds "needy" and what doesn't on the internet? .

 

 

Telling her she's awesome & gorgeous right off the bat is sucking up in a sniveling way. She knows what she looks like. The fact that you messaged her tells her that you are attracted to her. You don't have to say it again. It really rings as needy & is highly off putting. Does anything about this chick's profile indicate to you that she likes vanilla anything?

 

 

I was thinking about it . . . don't ask me why because I really wanted it out of my head but I came up with this:

 

 

Guttentag (or however you say hello in German)

 

 

OK. You got me. That's all the German I know but I'd be open to learning more if I had a good teacher.

 

 

Like you, I am bi-lingual. Yo hablo Española (or however you say I speak Spanish)

 

 

Your profile indicates that you like to hunt. I have a great recipe for [insert your favorite game meat here]. Maybe I can be persuaded to share it with you over a stein of [insert favorite exotic German beverage here] while we listen to [insert band name here]. If we get that far, someday I may even make it for you.

 

 

I heard there is a cool Oktoberfest (or wiccan event or heavy metal band festival) going on at [insert local place and date]. I was thinking of checking it out. Any chance you might be there?

 

 

If not, how about a more conventional first meet like coffee or getting matching tattoos? (I'
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You've already started to get me under your spell. ha ha I'd like to meet you. [use an online translator to write that last sentence in German]

 

Good luck but be careful.

 

 

Even if my suggested words don't work for you, read my message side by side with yours. Which one could have been sent to anybody? yours Which one is unique & specifically tailored to her? mine Do you see the differences? Mine also suggests unique date ideas that speak to her stated interests

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