MrReborn Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 I'll keep this simple. We were both in relationships a few months back, we met in public and "clicked", and we can tell instantly that the attraction was there. We pretty much "friend zoned" each other so to speak due to us being in relationships, so we were friends. My ex broke up with me, and she broke up with her ex on the same weekend(what a coincidence right?). I asked her out on a lunch date which she accepted without hesitation. Everything was great and fun, but I didn't go for the kiss(I know I know ). I asked her out to dinner which is tonight(again, she's happy to do it), and I'm a little nervous about ruining our friendship so to speak. Even if things weren't going to work out, I would still want to be her friend, but NOT in the hopes of getting back together, or keeping her as backup(I'll move on). When you meet someone truly genuine out of all the crappy people out there, I don't want to risk losing someone like her. At the same time though, I don't want the attraction to fizzle over time and risk the opportunity. As far as being nervous, she's out of my league in terms of success, and she's quite a few years older than me(we're both in our 20s). I'm no where NEAR(huge emphasis lol) as successful as she is, but I am ambitious and have life goals. I just think to myself, why the hell is she into a guy like me when she can just go for some successful rich dude that's older than her lol? I perceive myself as a catch don't get me wrong, but I look at it from a realistic point of view.
menyou Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 Go out with her and enjoy her company and your dinner. You are thinking way too much into it.
mystikmind2005 Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 Well, as much as i understand this logic that a woman can be out of your league - it is illogical based on superficial reasons such as career. because smart guys who want a genuine loving relationship will not trust a woman who chose him because of his success/money Guys both rich and poor want women to chose them for the person they are, and decent women will believe in this too. So she chose you for who you are as a person, it doesn't get any better than that if you are rich or poor!!
Disconnect Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 There's no such thing as leagues; it's just stuff / junk in people's minds. Mostly men's. If she likes you, she likes you. There is chemistry, you enjoyed each other's company, you're both newly single. Quite an exciting time for you both! I hear ya on the whole losing a friendship thing. But mostly everyone in new relationships if they were friends first worries about that. All new relationships are a risk. But a beautiful risk.
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