Karimikui Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 I sent a text to my crush in the early hours of this morning that said "I can't stop thinking about you." Is that too forward? We've had one date and daily phone contact.
kendahke Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 How long have you two known one another and when did you two decide to start dating? and whose idea was it to start dating?
Author Karimikui Posted September 22, 2015 Author Posted September 22, 2015 How long have you two known one another and when did you two decide to start dating? and whose idea was it to start dating? We've not known each other long at all. After I sent him that message he sent a reply that said "I can't stop thinking about you either. I can't wait to see you tomorrow."
Siquijor Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 Very risky this early especially if the other person doesn't feel the same way. He may have texted backed saying the same but that doesn't automatically mean that he does.
kendahke Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 (edited) We've not known each other long at all. And how long is "not long at all"? 3 hours? 3 Days? 3 Weeks? 3 Months? When did you two decide to start dating and whose idea was it to date? After I sent him that message he sent a reply that said "I can't stop thinking about you either. I can't wait to see you tomorrow." Then I'd leave it at that for now. You've accomplished your mission. When it comes to feelings, it's best not to try to divine that through text. That's a face to face conversation topic. Edited September 22, 2015 by kendahke 1
Author Karimikui Posted September 22, 2015 Author Posted September 22, 2015 Very risky this early especially if the other person doesn't feel the same way. He may have texted backed saying the same but that doesn't automatically mean that he does. I think he does:D
Author Karimikui Posted September 22, 2015 Author Posted September 22, 2015 And how long is "not long at all"? 3 hours? 3 Days? 3 Weeks? 3 Months? When did you two decide to start dating and whose idea was it to date? Then I'd leave it at that for now. You've accomplished your mission. When it comes to feelings, it's best not to try to divine that through text. That's a face to face conversation topic. A few weeks. His decision to start dating.
Diezel Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 Be weary of love bombing too much, too early.
Author Karimikui Posted September 22, 2015 Author Posted September 22, 2015 Be weary of love bombing too much, too early. Surely nothing particularly bad can happen. Sometimes dating will progress to a long, happy relationship and sometimes nothing will come of it. But it's not a life and death situation and I would doubt he will physically harm me or have me arrested or something just because I've made it clear I really fancy him
d0nnivain Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 It's kind of cute but don't make it a weekly thing just yet.
Maggie4 Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 You ask the question because you doubt yourself? Well, it does lack a bit of finesse. But you should just be yourself.
Disconnect Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 (edited) I don't know if it's too bold, that depends surely on whether the other person is also bold or not? I don't think it was the greatest thing to do, esp. in the early hours, they probably thought you were drunk, and will wonder if you really meant it. Also a little bit soon in the relationship, comes off as a bit full-on, plus silly. Spontaneity and saying how you really feel can be cool of course. It's just depends on how open the other person is to that. Edited September 22, 2015 by Disconnect Typo
Siquijor Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 I think he does:D I'll take your word for it but it is a gamble. Fair play though if it pays off. Surely nothing particularly bad can happen. Sometimes dating will progress to a long, happy relationship and sometimes nothing will come of it. But it's not a life and death situation and I would doubt he will physically harm me or have me arrested or something just because I've made it clear I really fancy him Firstly, saying something like that can screw things up totally as it can come across as suffocating to the other person. Secondly, if the other person is a bad apple he/she could use that vulnerability as a tool to get what they want from you.
Author Karimikui Posted September 22, 2015 Author Posted September 22, 2015 I'll take your word for it but it is a gamble. Fair play though if it pays off. Firstly, saying something like that can screw things up totally as it can come across as suffocating to the other person. Secondly, if the other person is a bad apple he/she could use that vulnerability as a tool to get what they want from you. Well those are the possible negatives I suppose but I'm more optimistic than that. I've always played it cool when dating. But this time I'm being authentic and it feels great. I doubt he will feel 'suffocated' by just one text message letting him know I really fancy him. Anyway his immediate reply back was just as enthusiastic. I cannot wait for our next date
runningscared79 Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 It is fine if you're being honest I guess and you feel confident enough that the other person feels the same way. It sucks when you feel a certain way and your partner isn't on the same wavelength as you (what I'm currently going through). I hope it turns out to be awesome but do try to go slow so you can run this race together... if one gets too far ahead of the other... someone is going to lose...
Author Karimikui Posted September 22, 2015 Author Posted September 22, 2015 I am certainly having fun and loving every minute of the flirtation. He is very expressive and I find that sexy. I'm used to guys who are quite reserved. Since our first date we've spoken on the phone daily and we text each other all day. I'm sure some would see this as excessive but hey you only live once Typically in dating I am reserved and subtle to the point of probably appearing slight disinterested. Now I'm so into this guy that I'm flirting outrageously. Neither of us are young or naive though. I'm 38 and he's 42 1
Author Karimikui Posted September 22, 2015 Author Posted September 22, 2015 He just called me and I feel like this :love::D Yes, I have regressed to about 18 years old. In fact I didn't even feel as giddy as this when I was a teenager. Maybe I have lost my mind and will end up in a psychiatric hospital:p 1
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