Jc396 Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 Im on the 3rd week of no contact but I feel so bored right now. I just want to talk to someone but all my friends are busy right now. This is the first time I have felt the urge to contact him since I began no contact. I think it's cause all this this time I have been very busy with moving and hanging out with friends but now everything is starting to settle down and I'm getting depressed again. What do I do?
Draper Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 You talk to us. You do whatever it takes to not contact him because you know it will likely cause more hurt. I know how you're feeling, when things are quiet and there is nobody to talk to or distract yourself with. When I'm in that position, I turn to loveshack for strength. 4
scooby-philly Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 I agree, Jc396 - NC is a hard rule to follow. After 2 1/2 months and 1 1/2 of NC I still find myself tempted to search for her on Social Media. Despite her being a slut with children all over the place who lost my money on a business.... You have to start imagining your life with someone else. And do what you want to do in the meantime. There will be lonely times. There may be depressing times. But that's when you get on here, write till your right, and then comeback when you need it again. Everyone goes through it, you're not alone. 7+ billion people on the planet - you've got plenty of company in the NC and heartbroken club. 3
dyna85 Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 Don't let boredom be an excuse. You will be in a worse state than boredom should you give into this temptation. 2
thunder777 Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 imagine the broken up people out there right now what theyre going thru who have no idea about this forum or the no contact strategies so glad i found love shack 2
greenleaves54 Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 I feel you. I live in an apartment in a city where I don't know so many people, while my ex lives in a student hall in another city with lots of people around her all the time. I have plenty of time to sit here and miss her, but she probably got stuff going on all the time. She probably doesn't got any time over to miss me at all. However, I will NOT contact her. It will only make our positions even worse. I look forward to being single, and if anyone is going to come crawling, saying "I miss our conversations...." it's going to be her and not me!!!
Hipster_22 Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 but she probably got stuff going on all the time. She probably doesn't got any time over to miss me at all. If your relationship was serious she will miss you, no question. If someone means that much to you you cannot get over them so easily. She may not contact you to show it but believe me she will be missing you. if anyone is going to come crawling, saying "I miss our conversations...." it's going to be her and not me!!! Amen to that!!
Leaa Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 I'm in the same situation. Except he blocked me, so I have NO way of contacting him. So think of it like this, you have the opportunity..but you won't, you're too strong. Don't make the same mistake I made, don't send a text just because you're lonely, you will regret it. Every time I broke NC I would instantly regret it. He got so tired of me contacting him that he needed space and had to block me. It hurts more than doing it voluntarily. Take deep breaths, go for a walk, make some art. It'll get better!!
LoveIsMyReligion Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 Life isn't all about me me me. Your ex doesn't want you in his/her life then be a good person, disregard your feelings, and say okay if that is what makes you happy. Or, you can be selfish, ignore what your ex asked of you and keep pushing them away. http://i.imgur.com/L6t8cup.jpg
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