crazybestie101 Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 I have been in weird crush situation for 4 months and this is how it started. I shadow at doctor's office and i have huge crush on one of office worker ( No, he is not the doctor). At first it seemed like it was both ends, mostly started by him since he was giving me so much eye contact, would stare at me from across rooms. He would always greet me when i come in. He usually doesn't talk to lot of his coworker, he doesn't even greet them. I think he is very shy and keep it to himself. Sometimes , its like he makes efforts so we can be in one room alone and we can talk to each other.He just cant but to look at me and its gets awkward since we are around people. He smiles when he talks to me. But then on other times he is quite, doesn't initiate conversation and it almost seems like he has nothing to do with me. So i get all confuse. So i am not sure if i should make any move. Yes, he has told me about his life and family on first few times we were alone. But he hasnt ask for my number yet. I feel like since he is at work he is afraid to make a move, want me to initiate. He has given me many chances. But in my case, i am too scared to make move because i was given this opportunity to learn things not to involve in any kind of romance and this is totally not professional. i am just worried what everyone at doctor's office think if they were to find out this. I also feel that if i were to ask him out he might tell his co workers and it wont be great. So i am just stuck here.
Gloria25 Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 Well, you expressed some fears about co-workers and all that but if you two discuss and agree on how to act at work and stuff you just may be able to pull off no one knowing. I mean, you both seem quite and level-headed so I could see where you two can keep it quiet at work. But seriously, dating co-workers can get dicey cuz if (and it usually will) end then you gotta face that person at the job and stuff. Anywho, the co-worker thing is also ideal cuz you can spend time and get to know him w/o "officially" dating him. I mean, co-workers take smoke breaks, walks, lunch, water-cooler time together all the time. Then, once you feel comfy enough, ask him to join you after work for coffee or something. You don't have to "say" its a date cuz co-workers also do stuff all the time outside of work. But eh, my negative side says you're wasting your time. Shy or not, interested guys come out of their shell and approach women they actually wanna date. You may intimidate him or something and when a "3" comes around the corner, you're gonna catch him telling her she's got a pretty face and before you know it, he's marrying her and having kids and all that while you thought he was a shy little thing.
LilaMarie Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 You may intimidate him or something and when a "3" comes around the corner, you're gonna catch him telling her she's got a pretty face and before you know it, he's marrying her and having kids and all that while you thought he was a shy little thing. Ahahaha you made me laugh...but it's sooooooo true.
Revan32 Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 But eh, my negative side says you're wasting your time. Shy or not, interested guys come out of their shell and approach women they actually wanna date. You may intimidate him or something and when a "3" comes around the corner, you're gonna catch him telling her she's got a pretty face and before you know it, he's marrying her and having kids and all that while you thought he was a shy little thing. The reason he'd have no problem talking to the "3" may be because he has such a crush on OP that hitting up another girl is no problem for him. I actually do this all the time. If I have a crush on a girl I'll almost never ask her out. Just get too nervous about being rejected and feeling terrible about it for days afterwards. Instead I'll use that crush to help myself not care about getting rejected by other girls. After all, "who cares about that chick, its really Crush #1 that I want to ask out". I think OP should give some clear signs that she is interested and encourage him on a little. Girls have no idea how hard it is to put yourself out there, especially while at work where he's going to be in close contact with her regardless of the outcome. It has to be a 50/50 effort.
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