Wisecrack Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 If you read previously, I run an online blog showcasing my art. Picking up a fair following, one particular girl was so persistent I ended up getting in touch with her. Keeping my persona anonymous, the flirtation was back and forth. The more I stayed elusive, the more she kept trying to pry me open. It got to a point where she gave me an ultimatum; reveal myself/ who I am or off she walks. I told her I am not sure who I am or if I can live up to whom I've built myself up online. She told me to trust myself, that maybe who I am there is who I am actually. I haven't replied since. I guess the thing is, I'd rate her as that perfect 10; model-like looks, down to earth personality that clicks with me etc. I on the other hand am ethnically different. Average looks and I guess have taken a battering in previous relationships that I need to hide behind my blog to let my passion out. I need some advice
kassy Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 I'm a bit confused by the post... But why don't you just ask her out for a coffee or something? She seems to dig you, and vise versa, so what's there to lose? You might not hit it off in real life... True. But you might... More to gain than lose in my opinion
Author Wisecrack Posted September 21, 2015 Author Posted September 21, 2015 She doesn't know what I look like so essentially I am still a stranger. Intellectually and mentally we click but I just don't know. I guess it is my bad in hiding behind a veil I have built up.
kassy Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 I don't know why you are shooting yourself in the foot here... So she doesn't know what you look like... Then go for a date with her!!!! How on earth can you decide that she won't find you attractive... I'm not saying she will, I'm saying you have a hell of a lot more chance of it happening if you meet her than making the decision she won't for her. go meet her, have a great night with fun banter and enjoy yourself and see where things go from there. Let's not overthink this to the point of paralysis 3
menyou Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 You have nothing to lose as she said she'd walk away if you didn't meet. Take a chance on her walking after you meet. It just might be towards you! 1
Els Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 You can't possibly expect someone to continue being romantically interested in you if you don't even want to reveal your true identity to them... 1
Maggie4 Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 She seems a bit too pushy to me. Only do what is comfortable for you.
d0nnivain Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 Would you like to date her? If so at some point you have to come out from behind your keyboard. If you can't do that how do you think you can date? She doesn't want a relationship with her keyboard. She wants a flesh & blood person. Yes, she may reject you when she sees you but she's also done playing cat & mouse games on line. If you reveal yourself you may get her. If you don't she's gone anyway. OL is no way to have a life. You need people IRL. Stop hiding. 1
popcornpuff Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 I on the other hand am ethnically different. Average looks and I guess have taken a battering in previous relationships that I need to hide behind my blog to let my passion out. I need some advice It seems like you're worried that you won't live up to her expectations. Look, whether or not you meet her expectations is not gonna change if you reveal yourself today, next week, or three months from now...but she might not wait around that long. Go for it man!
Redhead14 Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 (edited) Cyrano De Bergerac hid behind Christian de Neuvillette while he was in love with Roxane. Get out from behind your blog and let her see the man who writes it. If she loves the writing, she may just love the man too. Edited September 21, 2015 by Redhead14 1
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