Gethardcandyhaha Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 There's this girl I work with at a hotel. One day after I had broken my ankle i was having a really hard time at work cleaning rooms, and she made a few beds for me. On that day for whatever reason I fell in love with her. I couldn't tell you why, but my guess is that I saw the good in her, I saw how big of a heart she has. And she just has the cutest smile with the biggest dimples! She's also an Apache which I think is really sexy and badass! And her eyes are so dark and mysterious, almost intimidating. She drives me wild. For the first week everytime we saw each other we would always smile really sweet and speak very softly to one another. If that's not love than I don't know what is. ... But than the weekend hit. I didn't see her for 4 days and I was miserable without her. My natural instinct when I hurt that bad is to close myself off and go cold. So by the time I saw her again I could barely feel anymore. But I know myself well enough, I knew the feeling was still there. I just had trouble showing it. And i dont like to be superficial and pretend. So after deeply regretting not asking her out before the weekend, I had committed to asking her out next time I saw her. When I finally saw her she was up in the cafeteria eating lunch, I went and sat across from her and she smiled at me and we said hi. We talked a little bit, then I asked her if she wanted to do anything later. She said, "I don't like to go out, IM A HOUSECAT!" she said the last part in like a high pitched but kinda happy tone. Like proud or something. That caught me completely off guard. I was absolutely sure she had mutual feelings for me and I had never heard of an answer like that before. I just said, "Oh." disappointedly. We sat in silence for a moment than she just got up and left. I finished my lunch and walked outside to smoke a cig, only to find out someone had literally just shot themselves in the head in the parking lot... Now I was really feeling like ****t. I thought deeply about what she had said and after some serious scepticism I decided that she was being honest and really didn't like to go out. So I spent the rest of the day trying to figure out how to spend time with her and thinking about the person who shot themself. So near the end of the day her brother(my friend who tells people I'm his brother) invited me to go hang out with him at the park. She came with him to the park and we hung out for a while and drank. The next day they invited me to a barbeque with their family. It was there that her brother told me that I was part of the family now. So for the next couple weeks we continued to show love for each other. But with everything that was going on there wasn't nearly as much passion and fire as that first week but we both just kept trying we kept on smiling and kept on meeting up for lunch. But in the third week i started to notice certain things. Like how when she was with her friends she would almost completely ignore me. And how every morning on her way to clock in she would walk by and not so much as look at me. It was the same at the end of the day when she would clock out. I question to myself, why? I I also noticed that she did not open up to me at all. With all the time we were spending together, as hard as I might try, she would hardly say a sentence to me. It was always a few politely or sweetly toned words. She never even asked me any questions either. The forth week. After another gruesome weekend of missing her. I came back to her only to find out her cousin had died. Not directly through her. But as she was telling one of her girlfriends as I was walking up to her table at lunch. Than her passiveness went to pretty extreme levels. Now when she went out of her way to have lunch with me when it wasn't even her lunch time I would try to talk to her and she would just stare at her phone txting and laughing at txts giving me a yea and uhuh or a smile occasionally. One day I said hi to her while she was with her friend and she just flattly said "SUP." as if I was a stranger. So I didn't say anything. I didnt sit with her. I just walked away and sat to eat alone. At this point I was REALLY frustrated with her. I wanted to talk to her about it but I could never get a moment alone with her. One day I was eating dinner with her and she said, "Tyler is mad at you." I asked why, cuz he's jealous? She said, "Yea, of our little joke." I was so hurt by this I couldn't even talk. So after a moment she just got up and left. I didn't see her for the rest of the night. The next time I saw her at work I walked right up to her and said, " WE NEED TO TALK." Later that day after I finished smoking I was walking away and noticed her behind me walking towards me. So I turned and walked back towards her, looked her straight in the eyes and said, "YOUR NOT A JOKE TO ME." She said , "what?" I pause for a moment and said, " The Other day you said we were a joke." "We?! What we? Your crazy!" "I Thought we had something!?" "Yea as a friend! ... Your crazy! "I never thought of you that way, since that first day!" "YOUR CRAZY!" She said once more as she hurriedly walked away. *=*=*=*=*===*=*=*=***=**==**=*=*==**==**=**===* So for the next few days she completely ignored me. I tried to go cold and shut her out. But than I noticed a few signals. Nothing major, but extremely minor. Like how she bought a red coat knowing that's my favorite color. And checking out at 2:43, knowing that's my favorite number. Little things like that. She even smiled at me the other day, but when I walked by her later that day she didn't even acknowledge me. She just looked straight past me at someone else and started talking to them. She's been sending me a barrage of mixed signals the whole way through. It's her weekend now, I havnt seen her in a couple days. Today is her 21st birthday. And I'm sitting here in my car writing this. I feel like I should be there with her. =**==*=*****=*=*=*****=====**=***==**=***=**=**=====*= Im thinking about going up to her next time is see her and I asking her what she Really meant by "our little joke" maybe it might have been something completely different than what I thought. Or maybe she will admit to it and confirm her feelings for me. Im also thinking about asking her if she really meant what she said that day when I confronted her about it. *=*=*===*==*=*=*=*=**=**=*==*==*=***==*==**===*=**= I have really strong feelings for this girl. I don't know if its too soon for this strong of feelings or not(about a month). Maybe I should tell her idk. But I really see this going somewhere if we could just work things out and get on the same page. Or maybe I should just cut it off now. Or just accept her as a friend? But idk if I could do that... ANY ADVICE IS MORE THAN WELCOME!!!!
TaraMaiden2 Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 You don't read signals very well... Could I ask how old you are? There is nothing here at all to suggest she has any feelings for you at all other than being a friend. There is no romance or sentiment of something more. You need to back off, and change course, because it's not going to happen, and the more you push your point, the more hostile she will become, and it will be a bone of contention between you and her, and you and her brother. And I really don't think you want to make her family mad. Especially as apparently, you're now 'family' too. Families don't have inner romances. You're her "brother".... 1
ThugLifing Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 I'm going to give you honest advice and I hope you listen to avoid future embarrassment. You have officially creeped this girl out beyond repair. The more you try to talk to her, the more creepy you look. This will keep causing her problems, you, and your work. You're making up things in your mind that are "signs" and it's f'ing weird. The coat thing, clocking out on your favorite number?! You are creeping me out and it sounds serial killer-ish. She only likes you as a friend. Period. And ever that was a nice way of her saying, "Please stop getting the wrong idea, you're scaring me." All you can do now is treat her like any other employee you work with. Stop staring at her, go about your normal life. I'm not saying this to be mean, but to prevent you from looking bad and/or getting beat up by her brother. Dude, all she did was something nice for you because she was being a nice person. You are NOT in love with her. You're immature. Your dating life is next to none, I'm guessing. You misread everything about this interaction. You asked her out and she turned you down hard. Move on and stop bothering her. Focus on women who feel the same way you do, slow waaay down, and stop coming onto them strong with the love BS. 1
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