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Just curious here...

 

Have you ever been in a situation with someone (a gf/bf, ex, etc.) where it was so painful that you literally ran away from them and/or the situation?

 

Like to the point where you moved out of the area, city, state, and/or country?

 

How did it work out for you? Did it make moving on easier? Did you have like in the movies where you find a new life, bf/gf, etc. and ride off into the sunset? Did you have to return to where the person who hurt you was? Were you able to move back stronger and better and/or as if they didn't exist at all?

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Never ran away. Usually makes it worse. My ex actually worked in front of my place. My parents were paying education and utilities so it made me actually stronger. No I've never run away from someone.

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Never ran away. Usually makes it worse. My ex actually worked in front of my place. My parents were paying education and utilities so it made me actually stronger. No I've never run away from someone.

 

huh?? Your ex worked in front of your place and your parents paid your bills and that made you stronger??

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Have you ever been in a situation with someone (a gf/bf, ex, etc.) where it was so painful that you literally ran away from them and/or the situation?

 

To just simply break-up with person considered running away?

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Sometimes I had to leave the room to cool off during a fight. I think everyone does that, though.

 

I've never physically run away to another city or state. Finding a new job, new friends, new place to live...seems like too much trouble to me. :bunny:

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huh?? Your ex worked in front of your place and your parents paid your bills and that made you stronger??

 

Having to deal with issues with my ex did. I am in grad school (in medical field) so don't exactly have time for a job. Thanks smart a#@. It made me face issues with my ex rather then running away. I've dealt with difficult things better because of it.

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I have never done this and I don't think it's very common. I live in one of the biggest cities in the world and by far one of the most transient; almost everyone moves here from somewhere else and moves away in a decade or so. Even here I have known very few people who moved due to a breakup. My boyfriend's ex-girlfriend moved after their breakup, but it's just a three-year stint in an area that's geographically much closer to her family, so it's not as dramatic as it sounds. I think in most big cities people come and go all the time, so there's no real way to tell how often it's solely because of a breakup.

 

I can see how a fresh start would be appealing if you have financial resources and no obligations, but overall it seems terribly impractical. I would think that unless you had a really compelling reason to be somewhere else, like a career move and/or family, it probably wouldn't end well.

 

Frankly, I think the whole fantasy of moving back and showing everyone how awesome you are is just that: a fantasy. Most people don't notice, much less care about our major life transformations.

Edited by lana-banana
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