iDrumKing Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 So over the past two days I attended a music festival. My mindset going into the festival was to have fun, meet a girl, and pursue whatever happens afterwards. I would drink and drink to get a buzz so I could become more "confident" when speaking to strangers, but it always wore off. All last night I would make eye contact with multiple girls, but I always never knew what exact signs to look for so I never approached. Nearing the end of the festival this gorgeous girl from out of nowhere approached me asking me what the football score was for a game going on.... I knew she could care less about the game because it was her ice breaker. I asked if she was with a group, what school she went to, and her name. With so much going on around me, I froze..... She stood around for a few more seconds, I guess for me to say something. I didn't know what to say, so she eventually brushed my arm and walked away. I'm so pissed at myself that an opportunity like that slipped away because I didn't know what to do. What can I do to get over it and what can I do in the future if this happens again? I didn't want to ask stupid things like "what's you're major?" or "where are you from?" Shouldn't the questions pertain to the situation? I mean we were at a loud and exciting concert.
LostOne1 Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 So over the past two days I attended a music festival. My mindset going into the festival was to have fun, meet a girl, and pursue whatever happens afterwards. I would drink and drink to get a buzz so I could become more "confident" when speaking to strangers, but it always wore off. All last night I would make eye contact with multiple girls, but I always never knew what exact signs to look for so I never approached. Nearing the end of the festival this gorgeous girl from out of nowhere approached me asking me what the football score was for a game going on.... I knew she could care less about the game because it was her ice breaker. I asked if she was with a group, what school she went to, and her name. With so much going on around me, I froze..... She stood around for a few more seconds, I guess for me to say something. I didn't know what to say, so she eventually brushed my arm and walked away. I'm so pissed at myself that an opportunity like that slipped away because I didn't know what to do. What can I do to get over it and what can I do in the future if this happens again? I didn't want to ask stupid things like "what's you're major?" or "where are you from?" Shouldn't the questions pertain to the situation? I mean we were at a loud and exciting concert. I was in your spot and here is what I did.... I screwed around! I tried EVERYTHING possible... 1 time I told myself I will act nice. The 2nd time I met a woman I acted like a jerk and like I was all that. I'd pick certain phrases to say and see how women react to them. Slowly, I started realizing what works, what doesn't... Think of it as a science experiment as school all over again/. This time you're learning about how to talk to women and get more comfortable with them. I share more of my experiences at Home - K3N's Relationship Advice
froz Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 Hey OP yeah these opportunities come and go in life. I guess it's taking them when they do come but don't beat yourself up about it for too long, you might miss the next one! Good luck to you!
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