Clairere Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 It makes no sense to me why someone would literally ask/tell you to contact them but not intiate anything themselves (not anymore). A guy that I am currently seeing and have been seeing for quite some time now, he was basically infatuated by me at the beginning. He would text me a lot and come up with these activities but then he realized that he was the only one doing so, it became a problem apparently. I was shocked to find out that there is another girl who he has history with although I'm not sure what they are currently going through since he has no clue that I am aware, I'm just stating it in case it would matter. We had our ups and downs of course nothing serious though. I know for certain that he likes me but at this point he has not done anything to prove that he is looking for a relationship (unlike before) maybe it's because I don't put much effort in to this as I should or maybe not. I took his wish and started to contact him more because I want this. He always reply, he does not say that he is busy but he does not intiate anything nor does he contact me as much as he used to. I assume that he is interested since he tells me to do this, then what's going on? I don't want to chase him or be clingy. There is nothing wrong in person. I am starting to suspect that perhaps he is more interested in the other girl and is keeping me on a string or he's just wants me to show interest in him.
Jacob_Duluoz Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 Did his texting get him anywhere with you? Like time together or the other things associated with a relationship? Do you ever initiate beyond texting?
Author Clairere Posted September 20, 2015 Author Posted September 20, 2015 Did his texting get him anywhere with you? Like time together or the other things associated with a relationship? Do you ever initiate beyond texting? His texting before yes. We used to make plans together. Do I ever ever intiate anything beyond texting not really. I did recently and he was up for it but I had to cancel because of work.
Jacob_Duluoz Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 If you want this guy, you should reschedule. Don't make him do all the work. Why do you think there's another girl?
menyou Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 His texting before yes. We used to make plans together. Do I ever ever intiate anything beyond texting not really. I did recently and he was up for it but I had to cancel because of work. You should not make plans unless you can keep them. That would drive me bananas. Give yourself extra time when it comes to possibly running late with work and make sure he knows there's a possibility you will have to push it back. You can't expect anyone to do all the work. Especially if you are likely to not be available.
Author Clairere Posted September 20, 2015 Author Posted September 20, 2015 If you want this guy, you should reschedule. Don't make him do all the work. Why do you think there's another girl? I probably should. Perhaps I'm overreacting but I can't help feeling a little doubtful about his interest since I'm the one doing the work now. The other girl is not a guess, I know for certain although I don't know what type of relationship they are sharing. He is seeing me.
Author Clairere Posted September 20, 2015 Author Posted September 20, 2015 You should not make plans unless you can keep them. That would drive me bananas. Give yourself extra time when it comes to possibly running late with work and make sure he knows there's a possibility you will have to push it back. You can't expect anyone to do all the work. Especially if you are likely to not be available. True. I won't make that happen again.
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