Smitten and Bitten Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 OLD features a high proportion of time wasters. At least IRL, you meet someone and hit it off and make dates, it's real. On OLD you're trying to do that but 90% of everyone is just there to entertain themselves and friends, have fruitless conversations, boost their ego and wait for someone out of GQ magazine to message them... That has been exactly my experience so far.
Oregon_Dude Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 Online dating kills that, because men are mostly about hump n dump. I wouldn't put up " looking for a relationship", because it can't be forced. Guys have become so cheap nowadays, don't want to.pay as they feel its "waste of money" or whatever bs. They want instant gratification. No more.learning about someone getting to know them, building passion. No wham, bam, thank you ma'am. I just recently.met a guy from online and it was traumatising, he lied about everything about himself. U know what? Online dating is mostly.about lying. Lying about how you look, how you act, being satisfied. I mean this one guy was obsessed about how I looked, yet he was creepy disgusting. I'm literally an angel and he was a troll. It's really sad. I can't wait to leave North America so badly.Uhhhh.... you are dating all the wrong men online. Angel.
Zippy2000 Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 And then it got weird! Someone added a song to the vid. lol
losangelena Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 OLD features a high proportion of time wasters. At least IRL, you meet someone and hit it off and make dates, it's real. On OLD you're trying to do that but 90% of everyone is just there to entertain themselves and friends, have fruitless conversations, boost their ego and wait for someone out of GQ magazine to message them. Furthermore, I've noticed OLD women have requirements and are dating to an agenda, whereas IRL connections are mostly about authentic holistic interest. I don't know if this is because OLD women are demonstrating why they're long term single, or if it's because OLD is by nature a data-driven experience where people look for qualifiers. Oh man, this hasn't been my experience at all. If I was interested in meeting, I would never beat around the bush. Either he was asking by the 3rd or 4th message to meet up, or I asked, or we stopped talking. One guy said it was the fastest he'd ever organized a date. In my opinion, plenty of people doing OLD are actually looking to do the D part—that is, DATE!
LilaMarie Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 I agree, I agree. I think online daters are usually introverts and usually a waste of time. I am also defective, yeah!
Omei Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 Someone on here brought up the hypothesis that online daters have a much higher likelihood of being narcissists or have other emotional/personality issues as to compared to what is out in the "non online" population. What are your thoughts on this? More likely to run into the "less normal" individuals online? From my experience, this is true.a I found it to be true I guess on paper they would be great in person clearly depressed or unstable or just flat out lazy, and the rest want hookups or are ppl with such huge goals and careers that theyre looking for a woman thats too perfect. Idk my experience isnt good I stopped online dating after a year of trying.
Coraline Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 Online dating has provided MASSIVE advantages in the dating scene. It's simply a tool. Some people will misuse it, some won't. But the benefits have spoken for themselves. I agree. It's a tool. It's better to approach the initial interactions of online dating, less like dating and more like an introduction service. In my experience, it is very difficult to know if you will click with someone until you meet them in person. I've met people from Match and Zoosk, and overall, I know within the first 5 minutes whether or not that person is worth my time. (And that's after I thought they seemed okay on chat or text or email!) You get a much larger pool of people to browse through, so yes there are a lot of narcisicts and oddities, but there are also some great people out there.
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