I dont get it

[Nadine123]

Hello everyone

 

Sorry if my english is not clear it's not my first language but Ill try my best

 

I dated a guy for a year, I loved him alot and did everything I possibly can to make it work. He's a bit older than me he's 39 and i'm 24. From the beginning he made it clear that he would never want to get married or have children, something I didnt understand but chose to ignore it.

 

There are alot of suspicious behavior taking place. He would freak out whenever I held his phone (to make a call or something) and never bought me to his place. His excuse was that he lives with someone and that guy doesnt allow him to bring girls over. Also, a couple of people warned me from him and said that hes not a good person. I also noticed that towards the end, he would only text me whenever he wants to have a sex. He was also really mean sometimes like telling me to change subjects because what im talking about is boring.

 

I broke things of when after we had sex, he completely ignored me for two days. I tried talking to him about things before but he never gave straightforward answers. What hurt me the most is that he never tried to send me a text, call me, or even wish me a happy birthday which was a week later. Nothing he completely dissapeared.

 

I traveled to Europe for a month, didnt hear anything from him and then a day after I come back he texts me. By texting me i mean on my phone, facebook, from strange number, simply everywhere. Next day he came infront my house, parked there for five hours because he wanted to talk. I didnt go meet him because I was a bit surprised. He continued texting the next day and didnt at all after it (it's been 3 days).

 

The truth is that I love him I really do. Should i give this another chance or was everything he did when i came back a lie? Maybe he was just trying to feed his ego? Please help.

 

Thanks

[mightycpa]

Should you get back with him? Read what you just wrote, and you tell us:

 

 

• 15 years older
  
• no marriage
  
• no kids
  
• secretive
  
• not a good person
  
• wants sex, nothing else
  
• mean
  
• thinks you're boring
  
• disappeared
  
• stalker
  

 

The only thing you should ever say to this guy if you ever hear from him again are those magic words "Leave me alone".

[Nadine123]

Yeah you're right and that's exactly what I replied back to him.

 

I guess Im just wondering why he's doing all of this now? Is it normal behavior for him to do all of this and then dissapear again? and why would he randomly just contact me after a month> I just find this very strange. Maybe this is just what I need an answer for.

 

I wont text him again or reply to his texts but anyone have an idea why he would do this?

[ExpatInItaly]

Why is he getting in touch again?

 

Probably because his wife is out of town and he wants sex.