Maharishi Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 "Hey, so, I would like to meet you again...Can we plan for it? :)" What's the catch? [i'm quite cynical about dating]
Author Maharishi Posted September 20, 2015 Author Posted September 20, 2015 OP, what's the actual question? my question is "what's the catch." But then I guess some men can simply be communicative, functional, interested and stable. And that his message simply means what it says.
Author Maharishi Posted September 20, 2015 Author Posted September 20, 2015 Also he says: "This week I am free Wednesday and Friday. Any chance that you are too?" Does that mean he's expecting me to meet him both Wednesday AND Friday if I am free?
losangelena Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 my question is "what's the catch." But then I guess some men can simply be communicative, functional, interested and stable. And that his message simply means what it says. Haha, why don't you try leading with that thought first? Give a guy a chance; don't be questioning the motives before things barely get going. Remember, dating should be FUN. 1
losangelena Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 Also he says: "This week I am free Wednesday and Friday. Any chance that you are too?" Does that mean he's expecting me to meet him both Wednesday AND Friday if I am free? No girl, Jesus, pick one. I mean, if you go out Wednesday and like it enough, I GUESS you can go out on Friday, too. 5
Author Maharishi Posted September 20, 2015 Author Posted September 20, 2015 Haha, why don't you try leading with that thought first? Give a guy a chance; don't be questioning the motives before things barely get going. Remember, dating should be FUN. Yeah, I am VERY wary of men now. That's a shame but inevitable to a degree given how ridiculous the behaviour of men I've dated recently has been. But if I was completely cynical I doubt I'd even have gone on a date with this new guy.
ExpatInItaly Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 I have no idea how his question could be interpreted as having a "catch". He wants to go out with you again. Period. Be careful, or your cynicism will sabotage your dating experiences. 4
fitnessfan365 Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 I don't see the issue and I think you're looking for trouble where there isn't any. All the guy did was say that he'd like to see you again and asked when you're free. If you want to see him again, this is a GOOD thing. Sometimes taking things @ face value is the best way to go. 1
Redhead14 Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 "Hey, so, I would like to meet you again...Can we plan for it? :)" What's the catch? [i'm quite cynical about dating] I also don't understand the question. He's asking you for another date, offered two options. If you like him, pick a day and let him know. This is way beyond cynicism. What's the catch? That doesn't make sense to ask. It sounds to me as though you are so surprised that a guy would ask you for another date that you are questioning his wisdom. Do you feel you are unworthy of having a guy be interested in seeing you again. This is not about cynicism, it's about confidence. If you like him, go out again with him. Don't sleep with him until he has become consistent with seeing you and communicating. Enjoy the time spent with him one date at a time. 1
losangelena Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 I agree, Red, this is beyond cynicism. I don't know how positive or productive an experience you can have if you're constantly wary and suspicious of the men you're interacting with, and second-guessing everything they say and do, and your response to it. It sounds tedious, exhausting and just un-fun. I'm curious OP, how did you get this way?
Author Maharishi Posted September 20, 2015 Author Posted September 20, 2015 I agree, Red, this is beyond cynicism. I don't know how positive or productive an experience you can have if you're constantly wary and suspicious of the men you're interacting with, and second-guessing everything they say and do, and your response to it. It sounds tedious, exhausting and just un-fun. I'm curious OP, how did you get this way? I think it was watching Breaking Bad that fried my head and turned me into a cynic.
Author Maharishi Posted September 20, 2015 Author Posted September 20, 2015 I also don't understand the question. He's asking you for another date, offered two options. If you like him, pick a day and let him know. This is way beyond cynicism. What's the catch? That doesn't make sense to ask. It sounds to me as though you are so surprised that a guy would ask you for another date that you are questioning his wisdom. Do you feel you are unworthy of having a guy be interested in seeing you again. This is not about cynicism, it's about confidence. . Every guy I've dated in the past year has asked me out again, it's nothing new. My post was partly tongue in cheek. I've also encountered two losers in the past month and my "what's the catch" question is me wondering how come this guy is behaving so "normally" compared to the other two.
anna121 Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 If you are free on Wed/Fri, and want to see him, tell him which date is better for you and go from there. I mean, I'm sorry but this isn't rocket science. If anything, he is being breathtakingly straightforward. 2
Redhead14 Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 I think it was watching Breaking Bad that fried my head and turned me into a cynic. TV and dating don't mix well . The best way to not be cynical, is to STOP being cynical . Just go out with guys, enjoy the time as best you can, in so e cases, and see how they maje you feel then.
TunaCat Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 OP he wants to see you again and he wants you to pick which day is better for you. Wednesday or Friday. Tell him which day is better for you and then let him know that you are looking forward to seeing him.
Author Maharishi Posted September 20, 2015 Author Posted September 20, 2015 OP he wants to see you again and he wants you to pick which day is better for you. Wednesday or Friday. Tell him which day is better for you and then let him know that you are looking forward to seeing him. that would be just a tad overly keen
Celeste.Carol Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 You claim to be Ivy League, but by all your really apparent questions you seem to be really low, really low on the street smart sense scale. Some possess both and it is highly regarded. The guy said he was interested in another date and wanted to seal plans. That is the easiest maneuver to figure out not physics. Edit: Some with street smart sense are overly competent than those with credentials. There was no slight intended.
Yummm Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 that would be just a tad overly keen Are you for real? No, he wants to see you again and you are saying that you do too, why is it too keen to express that? Be honest, it will work wonders. 2
Charlie Harper Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 Easy, he is telling you he is having fun and likes you and wants to see you ASAP..thats all there is to it.... simple. If you second guess everything life will pass you by... just saying´
losangelena Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 Are you for real? No, he wants to see you again and you are saying that you do too, why is it too keen to express that? Be honest, it will work wonders. I agree. Why not appear keen? Guys have to do the brunt of the heavy lifting at the beginning and I think it helps them to know that the woman they're dating is also interested/invested. Telling him so won't make you look weak and/or needy. Perhaps these evasive tactics are part of why you're having such trouble with men.
ScienceGal Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 There is absolutely nothing unclear about his message. He had a nice time and wants to see you again, and is even letting you know his availability. It doesn't sound like you're ready for dating. You might want to work on your issues first. 1
losangelena Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 I think it was watching Breaking Bad that fried my head and turned me into a cynic. Well somehow I watched that show and didn't, hmm ... 2
fred123 Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 Is possible he asked you out as a friend?
Author Maharishi Posted September 20, 2015 Author Posted September 20, 2015 Is possible he asked you out as a friend? Anything in life is possible
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