bluefeather Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 Try going up and saying "hi." You don't have to say much, just reaching out with one word like that would be a lot to the right person. I've picked up on shyness in girls who wouldn't talk much and pursued conversation after they said hello.
Author hotpotato Posted September 19, 2015 Author Posted September 19, 2015 How can shy quiet girls have the same success as social butterflies? Backstory, guy just said he never liked that i was "shy and bashful." This is Wesley Snipes dude, for those who may remember.
jen1447 Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 You don't seem shy. You were pretty forward with giant penis guy weren't you? 3
Author hotpotato Posted September 19, 2015 Author Posted September 19, 2015 You don't seem shy. You were pretty forward with giant penis guy weren't you? lol true I'm asking why this guy thought I was shy and bashful. I guess I can be quiet sometimes. 1
Author hotpotato Posted September 19, 2015 Author Posted September 19, 2015 Im really not much of a social butterfly tbh.
bluefeather Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 How can shy quiet girls have the same success as social butterflies? Backstory, guy just said he never liked that i was "shy and bashful." This is Wesley Snipes dude, for those who may remember. I don't think I can best answer that question, because I am usually an introvert. What is "success as social butterflies?" Having lots of guy friends? I am not really attracted to extroverts, though sometimes they come my way, fluttering around. I don't like to chase them. I like to search for pretty sounding crickets or light bugs. Crickets make music and then they get quiet when you go near them. It's a fun game to be able to find someone and say, "I totally caught you being beautiful!" Light bugs will light up when there's darkness and only for a few seconds at a time. You have to try hard to catch them, and when you do, it is really worth it to hold a piece of light in your hands, that not many people get to experience. I do not understand why you would want someone who does not like these qualities in you.
Author hotpotato Posted September 20, 2015 Author Posted September 20, 2015 When i said successful as social butterflies, i mean moving into relationships more easily and not being seen as reserved. Imo one doesnt need to do much more than exist to have orbiter guy 'friends.' I dont know of most guys,want to try hard. I think that was what Wesley Snipes giy was getting at. Most guys are probably used to women being more social butterfly-ish. Im not trying to date this guy, but extroverted, outgoing people are seen as more likeable generally speaking.
Author hotpotato Posted September 20, 2015 Author Posted September 20, 2015 Any shy girls out there having luck?
Jacob_Duluoz Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 One can be a social butterfly with lots of friends and events and not move into relationships easily. There's a big difference between forming platonic bonds and moving to romance. I am in a relationship with a social butterfly who can be very shy and bashful with me while at the same time having a packed schedule. I think this is a question of emotional intelligence and the willingness to take risk rather than approaches to socialization. Have you considered alcohol? ;-)
Maharishi Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 One can be a social butterfly with lots of friends and events and not move into relationships easily. There's a big difference between forming platonic bonds and moving to romance. I am in a relationship with a social butterfly who can be very shy and bashful with me while at the same time having a packed schedule. I think this is a question of emotional intelligence and the willingness to take risk rather than approaches to socialization. Have you considered alcohol? ;-) I really don't think alcohol is the answer. Many men will find shy girls quite endearing.
Author hotpotato Posted September 21, 2015 Author Posted September 21, 2015 One can be a social butterfly with lots of friends and events and not move into relationships easily. There's a big difference between forming platonic bonds and moving to romance. I am in a relationship with a social butterfly who can be very shy and bashful with me while at the same time having a packed schedule. I think this is a question of emotional intelligence and the willingness to take risk rather than approaches to socialization. Have you considered alcohol? ;-) Id have to spend my life drunk lol Im just naturally more reserved. 2
kilgore Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 Id have to spend my life drunk lol Im just naturally more reserved. I always found introverts more intriguing
madjac74 Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 I always found introverts more intriguing Do you drive a creepy white van? 2
Els Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 I agree that outgoing people in general tend to have more dates, but 'more' doesn't always equate to 'better luck' relationship-wise. All it takes is one, so if you have 5 people interested in you who are mostly compatible with you, you're more likely to 'get lucky' than if you have 50 people who aren't.
popcornpuff Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 I've always liked shy girls better, tbh. Probably because I'm somewhat of an introvert myself. They can find success dating! 1
Shining One Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 There are several shy girls within my social circle who are rarely single. One of them has never been single for more than a month since she turned 20. My girlfriend is quite shy too.
loveflower Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 There are several shy girls within my social circle who are rarely single. One of them has never been single for more than a month since she turned 20. My girlfriend is quite shy too. so, guys just chase them and do all the works of pursuing?
Shining One Posted September 22, 2015 Posted September 22, 2015 so, guys just chase them and do all the works of pursuing?Yes. Most of them have never approached a man in their lives.
Author hotpotato Posted September 22, 2015 Author Posted September 22, 2015 so, guys just chase them and do all the works of pursuing? Most of the guy who approach me are like 80 lol
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