wlh22 Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 (edited) So long story short... I dated this girl long distance for about 6 months and both of us thought it could be something serious (and since it was long distance, we were clear from beginning that it would have to be something serious like engagement, marriage etc.). When I started talking about engagement, she started sort of showing hesitation and dragging the discussion. But she never clarified what her issue was and kept saying she wants to be with me. In any case, when it started not making any sense, I ended things saying she doesn't seem ready for commitment and she was young so we were just at diff stages of life. And she didn't make any effort to stop me. I felt hurt but I had to move on with me life. After 2-3 months she comes out of the blue and tells me how sorry she was and how it was the biggest regret of her life to let me go and if I give her a chance, she wants to be with me for life etc. I was shocked. but I as happy (because I always told her we had excellent compatibility and I know I am a fantastic guy). In any case, I talked to her and after feeling she genuinely meant everything she said, I decided to give her a chance but take things a bit slow. She was very happy. We kept talking every day / night (long distance... uggggg) sending kisses etc on messenger. But one week when I met her in person recently, she just behaved a bit odd, sort of like pulling away or showing signs of lack of clarity. It bothered me and I confronted her. And essentially she sort of never called me back / never answered my calls after that day. And within a week she deleted my number and blocked me on facebook. It was extremely painful and equally confusing. I called her a week after and told that it seems she made the decision to end things but didn't even bother to inform me. She said she didn't know what to say as she was the one who asked me to give her a chance, and had talked about being with me for life, and then she just didn't feel "it". and gave me the "you didn't make any mistakes, it's all me" It has been a very painful experience.... maybe she is genuine but then her unstability has really caused me a heartbreak... How weird can someone be to come asking to give a chance and then walk away without really a reason I don't know why I am writing this to be honest but it has been one month since I last had a contact with her and I still feel weird about this entire episode... can someone help me please? Edited September 19, 2015 by wlh22
EO422 Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 So long story short... I dated this girl long distance for about 6 months and both of us thought it could be something serious (and since it was long distance, we were clear from beginning that it would have to be something serious like engagement, marriage etc.). When I started talking about engagement, she started sort of showing hesitation and dragging the discussion. But she never clarified what her issue was and kept saying she wants to be with me. In any case, when it started not making any sense, I ended things saying she doesn't seem ready for commitment and she was young so we were just at diff stages of life. And she didn't make any effort to stop me. I felt hurt but I had to move on with me life. After 2-3 months she comes out of the blue and tells me how sorry she was and how it was the biggest regret of her life to let me go and if I give her a chance, she wants to be with me for life etc. I was shocked. but I as happy (because I always told her we had excellent compatibility and I know I am a fantastic guy). In any case, I talked to her and after feeling she genuinely meant everything she said, I decided to give her a chance but take things a bit slow. She was very happy. We kept talking every day / night (long distance... uggggg) sending kisses etc on messenger. But one week when I met her, she just behaved a bit odd, sort of like pulling away or showing signs of lack of clarity. It bothered me and I confronted her. And essentially she sort of never called me back / never answered my calls after that day. And within a week she deleted my number and blocked me on facebook. It was extremely painful and equally confusing. I called and told her that it seems she made the decision to end things but didn't even bother to inform me. She said she didn't know what to say as she was the one who asked me to give her a chance, and had talked about being with me for life, and then she just didn't feel "it". It has been a very painful experience.... maybe she is genuine but then her unstability has really caused me a heartbreak... How weird can someone be to come asking to give a chance and then walk away without really a reason I don't know why I am writing this to be honest but it has been one month since I last had a contact with her and I still feel weird about this entire episode... can someone help me please? She is too embarrassed to tell you that she doesn't want to be with you/does not want to hurt your feelings. Sorry man. I think it is time you leave it alone. Take it from me. I am a huge mess. Sort of like your situation but not really. Listen, let her go. Y'all should move on. It is over. She can't tell you that because she is too hurt that it happen. But she does not feel the same anymore, get your closure from me. Trust me. Please do not text her anymore, she will just feel worst and will further block you. Your closure is her blocking you. For further note: NEVER talk about engadgment that early..NEVER...just wait u til both parties are comfortable about it...really get married and all that should not be talked about until it's ACTUALLY ready to happen years down the road after you dated for awhile
d0nnivain Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 She may have been in love with the idea of being in love. When you were just somebody on the other side of an electronic device, it was all hearts & flowers but when it got "real" when she met you in person she realized this wasn't what she wanted. She was talking to somebody about being engaged after having only "known" long distance for a measly 6 months. In the future, do not discuss engagements or even living together with people you have not been dating steadily in person for at least a year
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