Gaeta Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 Many of the men I've dated at some point have lift me off the ground !! I hate it. They think it's funny, I don't. I am curious to know what it means. Is it some left over instinct from when we lived in caves and men threw women up on their shoulders? No joke!
Art_Critic Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 Maybe they were checking to see if you are a spinner I haven't a clue, I've never lifted a woman up on a date unless we were naked Could be that they are trying to show they are bigger, thereby can control you... Next time just tell them to leave their hands off you...
rocketman122 Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 I used to carry my ex to the bedroom many times. its romantic I think. I know she liked it. and would also hold her standing up for sex. are you tiny? short/thin. they might see you and think "wow, I could put her on my cock and spin her like a helicopter propeller" 2
Author Gaeta Posted September 19, 2015 Author Posted September 19, 2015 I used to carry my ex to the bedroom many times. its romantic I think. I know she liked it. and would also hold her standing up for sex. are you tiny? short/thin. they might see you and think "wow, I could put her on my cock and spin her like a helicopter propeller" Geez really ! I'm short 5'3'' but I am not a light weight!
Toodaloo Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 Gaeta - its to show you how masculine and strong they are and that they are manly and eat testosterone for breakfast. Just laugh it off and if they do sling you over their shoulder a well aimed kick to the balls should prevent all future shenanigans. Note to self - get back on that diet. Agh who am I kidding I am off to get a mahoosive bar of chocolate... 2
losangelena Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 I am by no means a tiny thing. I dated a guy once, we went out three times. At the end of date three, we were saying goodbye by his car, and by that I mean we were making out. Well, he proceeded to lift me up off the ground and wrap my legs around his waist, then walked me over to the hood of his car. I already really liked him, but that instantly turned me on and made him like, 125% more attractive. Even writing/thinking about it now gives me a funny feeling "down there." So, I dunno! I can see how it might be tiresome if it happens all the time, but for me, maybe because it had never happened before, it made a huge impact. I am still sad that one didn't work out. We're still friends though! 3
MrMeh Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 Just make sure you tie some weights to your body next time. They won't believe how dense you are when they can't lift you up. 1
Siquijor Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 I've never lifted up a woman on a date. Perhaps it's a Montreal custom.
xxoo Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 He Tarzan, you Jane. Even men I'm not dating have picked my up off the ground It can be appealing in the right context (a hot kiss, an emotional hug goodbye from a friend), but it is oh-so annoying when they are simply trying to exert their will over yours. are you tiny? short/thin. they might see you and think "wow, I could put her on my cock and spin her like a helicopter propeller" As if that would be appealing? I really don't get the "spinner" thing. 1
Toodaloo Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 I really don't get the "spinner" thing. I tried it once and ended up kicking the poor sod in the face... The black eye coming soon after the broken ribs spelled the end for that one sadly... Can't think why can you???!!! 4
PrettyEmily77 Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 5'2, fairly small, have often been lifted up - by my bro mostly, he's 6'2 and still finds hilarious 25 years on... Some of my male friends have done it as have a ouple of BFs; I try to dodge it when I see it coming, which is very rarely... would def put me off coming from a guy I've just met or started dating.
fitnessfan365 Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 I am by no means a tiny thing. I dated a guy once, we went out three times. At the end of date three, we were saying goodbye by his car, and by that I mean we were making out. Well, he proceeded to lift me up off the ground and wrap my legs around his waist, then walked me over to the hood of his car. I already really liked him, but that instantly turned me on and made him like, 125% more attractive. Even writing/thinking about it now gives me a funny feeling "down there." Definitely not surprised that it turned you on. The natural order is for women to be the "prey" and men to be the "hunters". But everything today is about neutral gender roles in dating and many guys lack the natural instinct. It's funny though. You really liked the guy and even now you get turned on thinking about him. But you never saw him again after that date. I think my GF has always craved masculine behavior. But she's felt safer being a dominant type A. So she dates guys that let her make the plans, initiate all the affection, and take charge in bed. After all, if everything is on her terms, she controls what happens to her. But then I came along, and was the first guy to handle her properly. So she feels safe in being vulnerable and feminine. There are times when she still fights it, but breaking through trust issues takes patience.
losangelena Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 Definitely not surprised that it turned you on. The natural order is for women to be the "prey" and men to be the "hunters". But everything today is about neutral gender roles in dating and many guys lack the natural instinct. It's funny though. You really liked the guy and even now you get turned on thinking about him. But you never saw him again after that date. I will admit that it made an impact, for sure. Just to be pedantic and correct you, I actually HAVE seen him again, more times than we had when we were dating. I never saw him again in a romantic capacity, but we decided to be friends. We're both active on Yelp, and have seen each other at social functions, and have gotten together for coffee a few times one-on-one. Strangely, he is very good friends with my ex's gym partner. You can bet it was something of a shock when I realized that. I would be open to dating him, and have signaled to him that I am single again, though I'm not betting on him to do anything about it. It's disappointing, but that's fine, and I can be friends with him without pining away. Anyway, sorry for hijacking your thread, Gaeta! Back to the topic at hand ...
bubbaganoosh Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 Have a friend that's 6'5" 260 lbs and he's married to a tiny native American lady whose 4'10" and 92 lbs. Half the time her feet never hit the ground. He was always picking her up. He said it made it easier so she didn't have to always look up and he look down so he always picked her up and he said the added bonus was he always got a freebie handful of her butt. She didn't mind and he didn't either so I guess it depends on the people. 1
jen1447 Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 I think it's just a way for them to get their hands on you Gae.
organizedchaos Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 Many of the men I've dated at some point have lift me off the ground !! I hate it. They think it's funny, I don't. I am curious to know what it means. Is it some left over instinct from when we lived in caves and men threw women up on their shoulders? No joke! It's him being a man. On date 1? Inappropriate. On date 5+? It's him showing his alpha side. Enjoy it. Go with it. Let him take the lead.
Ami1uwant Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 They want yo easily see eye to eye with you....
circlesinfinity Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 Many of the men I've dated at some point have lift me off the ground !! I hate it. They think it's funny, I don't. I am curious to know what it means. Is it some left over instinct from when we lived in caves and men threw women up on their shoulders? No joke! They are playfully picking at your height.
Art_Critic Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 As if that would be appealing? I really don't get the "spinner" thing. It's an Thai thing...at least the idea of the girl being a spinner... Urban Dictionary: Thai Basket
kilgore Posted September 26, 2015 Posted September 26, 2015 Many of the men I've dated at some point have lift me off the ground !! I hate it. They think it's funny, I don't. I am curious to know what it means. Is it some left over instinct from when we lived in caves and men threw women up on their shoulders? No joke! That's odd and not ok
Grumpybutfun Posted September 26, 2015 Posted September 26, 2015 I'm a large man and I'm a lifter....I mean no disrespect nor am I exerting control...I just like her closer to my eyes so I can look into them... G
Guyouthere Posted September 26, 2015 Posted September 26, 2015 Many of the men I've dated at some point have lift me off the ground !! I hate it. They think it's funny, I don't. I am curious to know what it means. Is it some left over instinct from when we lived in caves and men threw women up on their shoulders? No joke! Yes. Your name Wilma by any chance? Let me ride Dino. ;p
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