natashalove Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 My cousin lives in Scotland and the guy she likes, currently lives in LA. He is actually a British citizen and has most likely moved to LA, temporarily on work basis. He lives in a rented place as of now but it's like uncertain whether he ll be back to England or reside in LA. So, she's really unsure what she should do. His entire family lives in Yorkshire and before he went to LA, 3 months ago, he was living in London. She is sort of confused whether she should move to UK or US . What should be her plan and where should she go ???
Siquijor Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 She wants to emigrate just on the basis of "liking someone" ???
ExpatInItaly Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 I think she doesn't need to be considering an international move at all for a man with whom she doesn't have a relationship. That's ridiculous. I see this time and again on these forums, people who are considering making a huge life change on the basis of a half-baked relationship. And I always repeat the same things..having emigrated myself, I can tell you (or her) that it's no small feat. It needs to be carefully considered and well-planned, with a solid back-up plan in place in the event it doesn't work out in the new country. She can't exactly just pick and move to the US when she feels like it; there are many legal/financial/bureaucratic criteria to meet first. Does she realize this?
Author natashalove Posted September 19, 2015 Author Posted September 19, 2015 I think she doesn't need to be considering an international move at all for a man with whom she doesn't have a relationship. That's ridiculous. I see this time and again on these forums, people who are considering making a huge life change on the basis of a half-baked relationship. And I always repeat the same things..having emigrated myself, I can tell you (or her) that it's no small feat. It needs to be carefully considered and well-planned, with a solid back-up plan in place in the event it doesn't work out in the new country. She can't exactly just pick and move to the US when she feels like it; there are many legal/financial/bureaucratic criteria to meet first. Does she realize this? She knows the criteria but is willing to do whatever it takes to get to him. what should be a good plan? Please describe
ExpatInItaly Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 She knows the criteria but is willing to do whatever it takes to get to him. what should be a good plan? Please describe Tell her to forget a plan unless and until they have some type of relationship. Trying to emigrate for a random guy without having any relationship is ludicrous. Sorry. How old is she? I think she has no idea what this type of move involves. If she is set on losing her damn mind, tell her to consult an immigration lawyer for the US to find out what she needs to do and how much money she needs as a UK citizen to obtain the pertinent visa. I think she's in for a big surprise. She can't just fly to the US and expect to be permitted to stay. If she has no job offer already in place with an American employer, she can pretty much forget about it.
nic05 Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 I've seen this happen to friends and family twice over. Firstly my sister moved to Australia to be with a guy she'd known for a week, it lasted 10 years they had a good run. I'd say that was pretty much lucky it lasted at all considering not they barely knew each other. Secondly I know a guy that's planning to move to LA to be with a girl he knew a month and has a LDR with. It totally depends on the relationship they have know. And certainly if someone is planning to move to another country it should be for reasons other than just being with a guy.
Siquijor Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 She knows the criteria but is willing to do whatever it takes to get to him. what should be a good plan? Please describe Have they ever met in person? That might sound a silly question but it wasn't mentioned in your original post. Also, does he like her?
Maggie4 Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 Move to UK or US? I thought she's already moved to UK (Scotland)? Or is her stay in UK temporary? If she is looking for some place to migrate to anyway, then why not the US, if she can get a visa.
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