QueenDeath Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 After being on here for sometime and reading about breakups. I finally realized something that's actually quite scary...the fact that a relationship can be going 6 years or so and then someone dumps you....which it is quite understandable, won't lie. If it involves cheating, abuse of some kind, fine, but things that could have been worked on...like...instead of working on it, they decide no, enough, and just throw in the towel. No matter how long you've been with someone, it doesn't seem as if the amount of years you're with them...it doesn't mean they'll stick around which is quite scary because I think if someone's with you for that long it's like their saying they'll be with through thick and thin but no. The whole thing is scary and but easily to accept. But still so scary... 2
Liono84 Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 Yup.. But that's part of life. All great things come with great risks. When you love someone and open yourself up and they love you back, it's an incredible feeling. The risk, though, is if it ends, you will be in great pain. But that reward far outweighs the risk. The reward of having a potential future with someone you love for an entire lifetime outweighs the risk of being in pain for several months if they dump you. The only positive I can take from my situation is to say at least I wasn't engaged, married or married with kids. That would be devastating in my opinion. 1
Samuel_22 Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 After being on here for sometime and reading about breakups. I finally realized something that's actually quite scary...the fact that a relationship can be going 6 years or so and then someone dumps you....which it is quite understandable, won't lie. If it involves cheating, abuse of some kind, fine, but things that could have been worked on...like...instead of working on it, they decide no, enough, and just throw in the towel. No matter how long you've been with someone, it doesn't seem as if the amount of years you're with them...it doesn't mean they'll stick around which is quite scary because I think if someone's with you for that long it's like their saying they'll be with through thick and thin but no. The whole thing is scary and but easily to accept. But still so scary... Husbands and wives sometimes live for 20+ years and they suddenly decide, they don't wanna be each other...so 6 years is a blessing...yeah but you can never say, you have to go for it, and take pot risk...enjoy your life, and when it is over, well it is over...you can't help it
Jc396 Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 The feeling is devastating I know cause my boyfriend of five years decided to dump me. It's scary to think that this happens. I was one of those who never thought we would break up. It almost feels as if your coming out a divorce. You pretty much need to to relearn who you are cause you have had someone with you through everything for so long. I don't even remember who I was before him.
casey.lives Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 I knew of a couple who were constantly "working through things"/"not giving up" and constantly postponing the inevitable. Sometimes the relationship goes toooooo far and it should have ended sooner. That's a sad reality too. 2
adiamond Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 It's scary, but it's worth it! Being vulnerable and opening your heart is vital to being in a loving, long lasting relationship. That being said, don't just throw your heart out there and hope for the best. Be smart in the person you choose! Make sure he's on the same page with you, every step of the way. Sometimes you just have to take a risk, for a reward and I've been hurt twice already, but I'm a hopeless romantic and someone will love me the way I deserve one day!! 1
Hipster_22 Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 I think the biggest/most common reason as to why they don't stick around is because when things start to go south they are not willing to talk things through, not properly. This was the case with me, I was always asking her what she truly wanted and asking if we could talk things through and get everything out in the open but she was never willing to. I don't know why, we would talk about everything else in the world but just not us when there was a problem. She would always just paper over the cracks and not properly fill them in (although that is the way she deals with, genuinely, every single problem in her life). Over time this just leads to more and more problems and arguments and eventually they leave you. The only way you can sort things out is talking about it, locking it away (like she does) does absolutely nothing. I just wanted to talk about everything and it really upset me that she didn't want to. 1
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