gatorsuperman Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 My ex dumped me 1.5 years ago says she lost feelings for me, we were together for 3 years. She was confused, so we kept hanging out but when I found out she was dating other guys, I blew it and got super jealous. When I found out she started to get serious with one, I told her to call me if she decided she wanted to give me a 2nd chance, but I couldn't be friends with her because I loved her too much. She cried and said she hated me for not wanting to be her friend. Few weeks go by and she starts texting me again, saying she wants to meet me for coffee but doesn't want me to get my hopes up. I say yes but it never happens despite us talking, after a couple months I find out she has been seeing the guy the whole time. Once again we get into it and I tell her that I can't do the friends thing because my feelings are too strong and I hate feeling jealous and hurt all the time, it's not who I am. I tell her to call me if things don't work out for them and she'd like to see me again but otherwise we can't be friends. Few weeks go by again, she texts me that she forgot the password to our photobucket account with pics of us so she had to reset the password. She said she was feeling sad from studying so much that's why she was looking at the pics (even though she has a boyfriend). After talking a few times she made it clear that we could start talking and see what happens. After a few weeks of talking, she finds out she may possibly have to move for work, so she wanted to meet for coffee to say goodbye (hadn't seen each other in a year). So we have coffee last week and it was great, had good chemistry still. After, she found out she doesn't have to move, but she still has the boyfriend. Why would a girl who dumped a guy, keep trying to "be friends" knowing he can't do friendship and she has a boyfriend? She knows how I feel, just trying to figure out how she feels.
road Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 Many reasons: She is a serial dater Serial cheater Ego boost, needing to see how many men she can keep in her orbit Block her number.
kendahke Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 Stop telling her call me if she decided she wanted to give me a 2nd chance and I tell her that I can't do the friends thing because my feelings are too strong and I hate feeling jealous and hurt all the time, it's not who I am. I tell her to call me if things don't work out for them and she'd like to see me againBecause that's not what you want. You want her to call you when she is well and done with the dude she dumped you for. But seriously? You dont' want that, either. She dumped you. It doesnt' matter how mad she gets about you not allowing her to use you as her emotional tampon because she misses that little thing you two used to do and she cant' conjure it up in dude. That. Doesn't. Matter. Anymore. She's laying under dude, not you and she's making absolutely no move out of that position. Meeting for coffee, etc.,--LAME. She's got a man. Doesn't matter how "confused" she was (no she wasn't. Anytime someone tells you "I'm confused", there's someone else who has, at the least emotionally and at the most sexually, put it to them and they didn't want to resist) You are now seeing: she is with you, doing with you what she did to you behind your back to get with dude. How she feels is that new dude is still growing on her, she remembers little things you and she used to share and she realizes she can't share them with dude, so she calls you because she knows that you've got hope. Psychotic hope. The kind of hope that will lead you through some real misery before you let go of this and let her be with the person she's put you through hell to be with.
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