Serenaa Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 Me and my ex boyfriend broke up last year in February (he dumped me). We were together for nearly three years, his family don't approve of us being together. I stopped all contact with him, blocked him of every social network. I also blocked and deleted his number. He told his friend in July about us breaking up and everything, I ignored it because he had a new girlfriend and I didn't want to get caught up in his drama and I wanted to move on. Fast forward, 16 months (July 2016) he spoke to me which I responded to purely because of how long it's been since we broke up. I'm not expecting to be the best of friends, there's nothing wrong with being civil. He was just asking be if I hate him and he spoke to me to see how I was and if I hated him. After that conversation, I didn't speak to him again. Now in September, he spoke to me again and was remorseful of what he did to me. He said he wanted to meet up and asked me if I love him. I agreed to meet up (stupid I know) and we didn't actually meet up, thankfully. He was being really flirty saying if I'm going to kiss him and he was asking for kisses etc. I told him I was willing to forgive him and take him back on two conditions which he agreed to. He also asked how many guys I've been in a relationship with since we broke up. Now I'm back to square one, where he's ended things with me again. So I blocked him off everything and told him to block and delete my number few times.He STILL hasn't done this. He claims he's moved on but I don't think he has after this. He said realistically we can't be together. Never mind, I'm getting a new number next week so I'm not too bothered by that. Do you think I should tell his sister because then she will tell their Mum? They'll both screw and hopefully get him to stop contacting me again. What do you think I should do?
olaf90 Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 man this seems so difficult, me and my girlfriend broke up not so long ago and it's hard to go through, I think you should contact his family and explain what's going on and that it's bothering you.
Author Serenaa Posted September 19, 2015 Author Posted September 19, 2015 man this seems so difficult, me and my girlfriend broke up not so long ago and it's hard to go through, I think you should contact his family and explain what's going on and that it's bothering you. Me and him broke up officially last year in February. He dumped me so I stopped all contact. Yet he was telling his friend in July about our break up etc? No one knew we were together. He wanted me to forgive and take him back, but he says realistically we can't be together. I know we can't be together because of his family so he either needs to leave me alone and move on or stand up to his family. He was asking me how many relationships I've been in since we broke up and if I love him etc. He wanted to meet up aswell. I just want him to leave me alone now, I'm fed up. I told him to block and delete my number which he hasn't done
olaf90 Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 Well you're in a different situation to me, my girlfriend left me because we had too many problems in our relationship, and she said she needs time and space to breathe and focus on herself? what do you think that means? anyway i know what you mean, block him off tell him you don't need him, and surround yourself with good people, don't let him get to you, this would be the worst thing, don't think about him and do something fun to take him off your mind, if he doesn't leave you alone then contact his family and explain to them, say you want to move on and live your life
Author Serenaa Posted September 19, 2015 Author Posted September 19, 2015 Well you're in a different situation to me, my girlfriend left me because we had too many problems in our relationship, and she said she needs time and space to breathe and focus on herself? what do you think that means? anyway i know what you mean, block him off tell him you don't need him, and surround yourself with good people, don't let him get to you, this would be the worst thing, don't think about him and do something fun to take him off your mind, if he doesn't leave you alone then contact his family and explain to them, say you want to move on and live your life Maybe she doesn't want to end things officially with you? As in, she just wants a little break atm to have time so she can breath and focus on herself. After she's done that, she'll come back to you? But don't sit around waiting for her to come back, it's not healthy I agree, I'm starting University next week so I will be proper busy anyways. Why do you think he hasn't deleted and blocked my number? Surely, if he's moved on him deleting and blocking my number will not be a problem for him. Also on Wednesday that's the day he ended things with me again. He said it's not his fault he realised it's a mistake. He also said he's being realistic and that we're not planning to get married so no point in being together. After he said that I flipped at him, he didn't reply for half an hour so I blocked him. Then after an hour I unblocked him, which he must have seen. So after being unblocked for half an hour he messages me. Today, I asked him at 08:00ish to block and delete my number which he still hasn't done. He just now said that he's moved on, was bored and just wanted sexual things off me which I know is a lie because he could have asked me to meet him on his day of (Tuesday) then dump me lol. I wish he would just be with me and stand up to his family or leave me alone and move on.
olaf90 Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 He seems a bit immature, honestly girl you can do better than stress over his silly ass! I don't like boys like that who always push girls over! Don't let it get to you, because it will hurt you, if he's over or not over you don't let him get back in (my opinion) because he will just do the same crap...Give yourself time and a break away from him, don't think about him, block him for good, and say you don't want anything to do with him, unless you love him then try again? I'm really lost too at the moment, I can't cope sometimes, or sleep at night! I want to message her or call her but she will say "I need time" or "leave me alone" which kills me you know? I miss her, i just want to spend time with her and cuddle her because she's my treasure, and she always was! I'm sorry that i'm talking about my problems but I need somebody's help and advice, I posted a thread but nobody has seen it yet, I want to help you as well! She was very angry at me, and she said she doesn't love me anymore, but I know she does, I want to change for her and give her a beautiful life, do you think giving her a break and letting her fix herself is good? and should I do the same? Anyway good luck in starting the university! Don't let him get to you because you'll just stress over it and it won't be good for you
Author Serenaa Posted September 19, 2015 Author Posted September 19, 2015 He seems a bit immature, honestly girl you can do better than stress over his silly ass! I don't like boys like that who always push girls over! Don't let it get to you, because it will hurt you, if he's over or not over you don't let him get back in (my opinion) because he will just do the same crap...Give yourself time and a break away from him, don't think about him, block him for good, and say you don't want anything to do with him, unless you love him then try again? I'm really lost too at the moment, I can't cope sometimes, or sleep at night! I want to message her or call her but she will say "I need time" or "leave me alone" which kills me you know? I miss her, i just want to spend time with her and cuddle her because she's my treasure, and she always was! I'm sorry that i'm talking about my problems but I need somebody's help and advice, I posted a thread but nobody has seen it yet, I want to help you as well! She was very angry at me, and she said she doesn't love me anymore, but I know she does, I want to change for her and give her a beautiful life, do you think giving her a break and letting her fix herself is good? and should I do the same? Anyway good luck in starting the university! Don't let him get to you because you'll just stress over it and it won't be good for you I agree, he's really immature. He needs to figure out what he wants and stick with it. Either stand up to his family or move on. I do want a break from him because I'm worried he'll do this again and we'll keep going around in circles. I do still love him, that's the pathetic part I don't think you should contact her, that's the best way to play it. Wait for her to contact you and see what she wants. The best thing to do atm is NC. In anger, people say things they don't mean. I've said plenty of things I don't mean, I'm sure you have aswell. Thank you
olaf90 Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 I am sorry if i didn't help too much, I just think you should follow your talents and passion for stuff if you have any. If you still love him, take some time off to let him grow up and make better decisions and thank you for help I'm just really scared of her finding somebody else too, it's worrying me, but she said she doesn't need that and she just wants to find herself and fix herself up
Author Serenaa Posted September 19, 2015 Author Posted September 19, 2015 I am sorry if i didn't help too much, I just think you should follow your talents and passion for stuff if you have any. If you still love him, take some time off to let him grow up and make better decisions and thank you for help I'm just really scared of her finding somebody else too, it's worrying me, but she said she doesn't need that and she just wants to find herself and fix herself up Maybe this will be time where he chooses to either cut all contact with me or stand up to his family. Do you think he loves me? If she still loves you she won't find someone else. I think you need to have faith because look at my situation. Me and my ex boyfriend broke up 19 months and didn't speak for 16 months yet he still hasn't moved on. If it's meant to be, she will come back. He still hasn't blocked and deleted my number after me telling him to do so.
devilish innocent Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 You can't control what he does. You can only control what you do. If you want him gone from your life, then stop contacting him. If he is still able to contact you, then ignore all of his messages.
casey.lives Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 some people collect people in the process of dating them. don't take it to mean anything wonderful. It's just OCD. They collect everyone.
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