Leaa Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 Long story short - my boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me last month. We still talked every day and we were trying to work things out. Things were going REALLY well and then one day I asked him to hangout and he said no, i asked him the next day and he said no, the day after that I asked if he was ok and he said "I just want to be left alone. We aren't dating and I don't want to get back together anymore. please leave me alone". Of course, i didn't leave him alone, being the over thinker i am, i overrated and asked him to explain himself. He read my message but wouldn't answer, i kept asking him just for an explanation. Finally, he said "I've already explained. We fight too much. You didn't let me see me friends enough.I can't stand it anymore. You won't leave me alone now so I have to block you on everything. i have no choice. sorry. bye" I feel so hurt and have absolutely no way of contacting him. This past weekend we slept together, he said he loved me and he said he wanted to get back together. And now this.
d0nnivain Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 You need to start accepting that it's over. To sleep with you & tell you that he loves you gave you false hope. Unfortunately his real feelings are that he wants out. Take this time to focus on your loss & your healing. 1
quattrob Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 You know when you sleep with someone, people say stuff they don't mean right? People say nice things when they "feel" good at that moment. Accept that it's over, stop harassing him, you've done enough of that. He told you exactly why because you left him no choice. And you're still thinking of way to contact him? Just leave him alone.
thejabberwocky Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 I'm sorry this is happening to you. He is a jerk for giving you mixed signals, but he clearly wants to be left alone. You have to accept this. Block him right back so in case he unblocks you, you won't have to hear from him. Start a 60 day No Contact detox right this second. Anything you want to say now can be said after that. But hopefully you'll have emotional clarity and maybe you won't even care to say anything. Plus, he'll probably miss you and be shocked that you really did leave him alone! It's a win win. He wants to be left alone? You show him what it's really like to be without you!
Oregon_Dude Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 he'll probably miss you and be shocked that you really did leave him alone! It's a win win. He wants to be left alone? You show him what it's really like to be without you!Wishful thinking. He won't be shocked, he'll be glad. It's tempting to think people miss us like crazy, but really, they don't. Out of sight, out of mind. OP, I'm sorry this happened. Sometimes there is no rhyme or reason to heartbreak. Focus on rebuilding your life as a single person who enjoys her own interests and life. Grieve for a while, then get back on the dating horse.
mightycpa Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 And that's why when someone breaks up with you, you take them at their word and disappear. 1
realmly Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 Long story short - my boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me last month. We still talked every day and we were trying to work things out. Things were going REALLY well and then one day I asked him to hangout and he said no, i asked him the next day and he said no, the day after that I asked if he was ok and he said "I just want to be left alone. We aren't dating and I don't want to get back together anymore. please leave me alone". Of course, i didn't leave him alone, being the over thinker i am, i overrated and asked him to explain himself. He read my message but wouldn't answer, i kept asking him just for an explanation. Finally, he said "I've already explained. We fight too much. You didn't let me see me friends enough.I can't stand it anymore. You won't leave me alone now so I have to block you on everything. i have no choice. sorry. bye" I feel so hurt and have absolutely no way of contacting him. This past weekend we slept together, he said he loved me and he said he wanted to get back together. And now this. Our stories sound very similar, I also kept asking my ex what I had done wrong. And he was telling me the same things "leave me alone, I've already explained things to you for the past two years. Your time is up and so is my patience etc." It's your best bet to accept it and try to move on now. It's a hard process and I'm still struggling, but there is not much you can do now.
Harradin Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 He did you a huge favour by blocking you on everything. Now find TaraMaiden's no contact guide on here and follow it to the letter. 1
Mana15 Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 He did you a favor, since now you have kinda been forced into NC. He obviously needs his space and you needs yours, as well. You need time to heal, not to obsess over him.
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