classic question of crush and love :)

[justanickname]

Hello,

 

To be honest, I have never considered myself to be in "love" before. I have a lots of crush when I was in schools, and for one or two first working years, but yeah, I don't think I ever in love (yet), and so far never been in a relationship either.

I have seen many people here with many experiences of dating, and in a relationships and so on. I wonder, really, how do you know when it is a crush, a flash emotion/feeling or when it is love?

 

Thanks for any ideas.

Cheers.

JANN

[PegNosePete]

When you don't have to ask that question ^^

[Ami1uwant]

There is no magic code...each person is different...so not everyone reacts the same.

[PaperCrane]

For me, it's when I really start to see myself admiring the girl. Not just the way she looks or anything like that, but when they really strike me as someone I respect. Someone I want to help realize their dreams and when their needs become equal to mine.

[justanickname]

@PegNosePete: haha, clever reply. But yeah, it sounds like a mind-game, you know when you know. Still, tricky to me though.

 

 

@Ami1uwant: yeah, each one is different, so I wonder how it goes for each. I would like to hear some thoughts of how people here experience that and this. Really.

 

 

@PaperCrane: to be honest, I am not clear about your view. Did you mean when you start admiring a girl, you are in love with her? Well, may be I experienced a little bit different in some cases, my crushes sometimes were those I admired, and this created their attraction to me. But unfortunately, with time this disappeared (I meant the attraction, not the respect).

[Lovelypearl]

In most cases, a crush might develope into love. A crush just has to deal with admiration while loves deals with everything about the person. When you fall in love, you won't be able to stop thinking about your lover.

[Buddhist]

If you have sex with them and then lose the feeling, it's a crush.