LookAtThisPOst Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 There was a woman I had dated a few times that I went out with. When we first met, she was really culddling up to me, but when we would kiss good night, she'd only do a dry peck on the lips. I was cool with it the first time, but after about the 3rd or 4th date, I was wondering why she was doing this. It pretty much became awkward when she invited me over to her place to have dinner and watch TV. But she would sit with the the dog between us, but would have her hand on my knee while watching. When I tried to go in for some contact, again, dry peck. When I went home, I tried to go in for a long kiss...again, she'd quickly peck me on the lips and that's it. When I brought this up with her by saying, "I gues you're not into long kisses good night" she said, "I like to take things slow." Yeah that was pretty much it, but never in my life I had experienced such a cold display of affection when it comes to kissing. Do you think "Taking things slow" was her real reason for keeping contact to a minimum?
kendahke Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 We can't know. We aren't her. But at about the 5 date mark and she can only offer dry grandma pecks? I'd say she's glacial, not taking things slowly. It's up to you if you think this is a wise investment of your time. Do you have the patience and discipline to wait her out? She just might be really lousy at being affectionate or she doesn't like it. (you checked your breath, right?)
Maggie4 Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 Happened to me with a guy I really liked, but your situation may be completely different. I'm just saying we can't jump to conclusions. I would only give him dry pecks, and the reason was he had really really bad breath. Not only that, but his saliva was really thick and gooey. I didn't know him well enough to tell him that, and he seemed sensitive, like he would feel hurt, so I just took it slow. And then we faded out. It's too bad.
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted September 18, 2015 Author Posted September 18, 2015 (you checked your breath, right?) Yep, I make sure to keep my breath in check before going, keep a double dose of mints handy as well. his saliva was really thick and gooey Well, you cannot realize how thick someone's saliva is until you give them a longer, wet kiss. She didn't even make an attempt. 1
jen1447 Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 Did you have any kissing fails early on? A woman's who's underwhelmed by some lip action early will tend to peck while she sorts out her thoughts and feelings about it.
central Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 Two things come to mind. Either she's highly repressed when it comes to any real intimacy, or you DO have bad breath (maybe gingivitis, as it seems that some who have this can't detect their own condition; mints and mouthwash really don't help for more than a minute or two). 1
Toodaloo Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 Yep, I make sure to keep my breath in check before going, keep a double dose of mints handy as well. They aren't those horrible stinky ones are they? Altoids? Fishermens friends are also not a "guy who wants to snog"'s friend... Just checking? Didn't belch in her face? Cock your leg and fart at her??
stillafool Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 My Gawd she sounds boring. If I were you I wouldn't try kissing her again.
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted September 18, 2015 Author Posted September 18, 2015 Did you have any kissing fails early on? A woman's who's underwhelmed by some lip action early will tend to peck while she sorts out her thoughts and feelings about it. Not sure what you mean by "kissing fails early on", the issue I'm posting about was every incident of kissing. This was all her. This gave me the idea she, as another poster stated, repressed or has intimacy issues.
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted September 18, 2015 Author Posted September 18, 2015 Two things come to mind. Either she's highly repressed when it comes to any real intimacy, or you DO have bad breath (maybe gingivitis, as it seems that some who have this can't detect their own condition; mints and mouthwash really don't help for more than a minute or two). Nope on the mouth issue, I'm pretty much conscious of my breath, even brush my teeth and my tongue prior to meeting with her. Even my dentist confirmed this. Not sure why posters keep on insisting the bad breath thing.
jen1447 Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 Not sure what you mean by "kissing fails early on", the issue I'm posting about was every incident of kissing. This was all her. This gave me the idea she, as another poster stated, repressed or has intimacy issues. I mean if let's say you went in for a good snog on the first date and underperformed. That might make her reluctant to try again until she sussed it out.
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted September 18, 2015 Author Posted September 18, 2015 I mean if let's say you went in for a good snog on the first date and underperformed. That might make her reluctant to try again until she sussed it out. I never went in for a good "snog" (whatever that is, lol) on the first date.
jen1447 Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 I never went in for a good "snog" (whatever that is, lol) on the first date. Ok so all you've ever had are these little dry pecks?
kendahke Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 Not sure why posters keep on insisting the bad breath thing. because honey, that dragon can slay... just eliminating some causes for her behavior (but I think she's just glacial and repressed)
kendahke Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 I never went in for a good "snog" (whatever that is, lol) A snog is an amorous kiss in British English slang.
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted September 18, 2015 Author Posted September 18, 2015 Ok so all you've ever had are these little dry pecks? What does the title of my post say?
jen1447 Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 What does the title of my post say? Maybe she doesn't want to kiss bc you're too defensive. 1
xxoo Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 You know how you feel when you really want to give someone a passionate kiss? She's not feeling it.
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