ilovemusic3 Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 I've been on these sites for a few years, and there was never that many guys talking to me, but there always was some people, and now there is pretty much nobody talking to me even though I haven't changed my pictures or profile. What should I do?
Zippy2000 Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 Its happened to me too but found it its because of the "dating pool". Its gets harder as you get older. Im 41 now but back int he day when I was on and off doing OLD i had much more replies when I was 30. What age are you?
Toodaloo Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 I've been on these sites for a few years, and there was never that many guys talking to me, but there always was some people, and now there is pretty much nobody talking to me even though I haven't changed my pictures or profile. What should I do? You have already told us what the problem is. Time to shake it up. New pictures that are recent and showing you having fun. New bio saying what you have been doing recently and what you want to do, ambitions, hobbies, lifestyle etc... There will be men on there that like you have been on there for ages and who will think that your just sitting stagnant and not doing anything. Shake it up! Renew it! Refresh it! Heck, I refresh mine a little bit every couple of weeks. Every time I do I get new people checking me out. New conversations start etc... 3
ManyDissapoint Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 Men don't really care so much that your photographs are showing you having fun. That's what women want to see. Men just want to make sure you're good looking and not overweight. 1
Toodaloo Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 Men don't really care so much that your photographs are showing you having fun. That's what women want to see. Men just want to make sure you're good looking and not overweight. And they are not several years old... New pics! Shake it up! 1
Gaeta Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 Same pictures in a few years?? It's time for a new profile with updated pictures. Also get off of there once in a while. If your profile has been on there non stop for a few years people don't see you anymore. The same way you don't see the advertisement on the side of the page you got used to it. When I go online I see those same profiles that have been there for 3 years. They have never updated their pictures, I don't talk to them. 1
Lois_Griffin Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 When I was online dating on and off for a few years and CONSISTENTLY saw the same profiles with the SAME pictures in them over the course of 3 or 4 years, I didn't even take them seriously. I KNEW those pictures were old and God knows HOW long they were being used before I'd gotten there. If they couldn't even be bothered to update their picture in 4 years, then they weren't worth my time. 3
Vintage79 Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 You may get a few of the new sign ups contacting you, but realistically, it's what everyone else has been saying, and those people that know you've been online for a while, start thinking that there is something wrong with you (either no one likes you/wants you, you have unrealistic standards, don't want to commit, etc.), so it's a very easy pass. Truthfully, this will happen even if you change your pictures and they find out who you are...it's important to take breaks (i.e. 3-6 months) from a dating site if it goes stagnant, just so you can let the majority of people on the site refresh and so people think that you were out of the pool...
usernametaken Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 Yep. After that amount of time, it's time to create new profiles with new user names, profiles, and descriptions. If a profile has been on and stagnant for a significant period of time, nobody gives it a second look. 1
Author ilovemusic3 Posted September 19, 2015 Author Posted September 19, 2015 I'm 26, and I have changed up some of my pics over the years, but I feel there's no point in taking new pics because I really still look exactly the same in all the pics I have from years ago. I know you're saying to change things up but I don't know what else I would write, my personality and likes and dislikes haven't changed. And I don't want to take a break because this is the only place I have to meet guys. And aren't new people always joining?
Ami1uwant Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 Problem is your match settings....if you restrict them you will eventually run out of people. Another issue is the same people on OK are Aldo the other dating sites.
Otter2569 Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 Ive been on OLD for several years and I have rarely had a problem. I go on and off depending on the relationship or occasionally just take a break. I ALWAYS have updated pics and i always update my profile. I see women that have been on there for years with the exact same pics and exact same profile. Its a HUGE RED FLAG. I wont even give you the time of day. In fact I wish I could post a warning to other guys about you. Invest in yourself and update your pics and update your profile....you are not fooling anyone!!! 2
Gaeta Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 I'm 26, and I have changed up some of my pics over the years, but I feel there's no point in taking new pics because I really still look exactly the same in all the pics I have from years ago. I know you're saying to change things up but I don't know what else I would write, my personality and likes and dislikes haven't changed. And I don't want to take a break because this is the only place I have to meet guys. And aren't new people always joining? CHANGE your PICTURES, period !! It's a matter of 5 mins to take new pics and putting them up. It's not a matter of you looking the same, people do NOT know you are looking the same. If they have seen the same pictures for a couple of years you give the wrong impression!! People think you only keep these up because there the only picture you look good in. Not changing pictures for 2-3 years = lazy to everyone around. Also, alternate dating site. Spend a month on POF then delete your profile and go spend a month on okcupi, then delete and go spend a month on match, then delete and go spend a month on POF again. Each time you will go back on a dating site you will get tons of messages.
Toodaloo Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 I'm 26, and I have changed up some of my pics over the years, but I feel there's no point in taking new pics because I really still look exactly the same in all the pics I have from years ago. I know you're saying to change things up but I don't know what else I would write, my personality and likes and dislikes haven't changed. And I don't want to take a break because this is the only place I have to meet guys. And aren't new people always joining? Doing the same thing and expecting a different result is like banging your head against a wall. I bet you do meet men elsewhere you just don't talk to them or notice them. OLD is just one of many methods to meet people. Change it up. You have both men and women here telling you to and yet your insisting that it got to be better to leave it as it is even though its not working???
Jj66 Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 Change your pictures and keep your profile up to date. Here is why. I was on a few years ago, then I had a two year relationship. When I rejoined there were some of the same women that had been on before with the same pictures. I don't even know if their profiles had been updated because I didn't even click on them this time. And at least on ok Cupid, when you update your profile it's shows up in the recent activity feed. That's how the woman I am currently dating found me. She saw an update in the activity feed, thought it was hilarious, and decided to contact me. 1
Author ilovemusic3 Posted September 20, 2015 Author Posted September 20, 2015 But the thing is, the reason I don't feel the need to change my pics is because the new guys won't know that the pics have been up for years, and the guys that have also been on for years I either have already talked to, or they weren't interested the first time they saw me, so who am I changing things for?
Author ilovemusic3 Posted September 21, 2015 Author Posted September 21, 2015 Because they're either new people or I've already talked to them.
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