Spanish eyes Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 Hi everyone, I am in a happy relationship with a bisexual man. We are not young, not married and have no children in common. Most of the time it is fine but just occasionally his bisexuality throws me a difficulty. I have been very open minded about finding solutions but at times it takes a while for my emotions to catch up with what my mind can see is good sense. We are both committed to staying together although we don't have to. I would like to hook up with others who understand the situation for mutual support. What I don't want is to hear from people who had a gay or bisexual partner who they were unhappy with and who they subsequently broke up with. If I wanted to leave I would have. Is there anyone out there?
Clarence_Boddicker Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 I haven't seen much on here, but the term you need to search for is: mixed orientation relationship or marriage. Usually that involves a gay man married to a straight woman. There's a few sites & forums that deal with that subject.
craw Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 I thought I considered myself open minded until I found out a cute guy is bi. Anyway, I've edited thisnpost because I was being wayyy too bias.
blackcat777 Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 Dan Savage writes about this. I believe what he recommends is finding another committed couple with a similar situation to occasionally deal with physical needs as they arise, because it's easier to keep sense of boundaries. But don't take it from me. Read Dan Savage!
poly0329 Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 My fiance is bisexual. We ( i guess him technically) are actually in a polyamorous relationship, where he is with another man he'd actually been with since before me (long story short, he started a relationship with me, didn't tell me he was bi, with another guy, nothing). He loves me just as much as he loves this other man. For him it is hard, because he is having trouble with the idea he loves two people. I have no desire to be with anyone else, and the other man my fiance is in a relationship with wants his own wife and kids some day, theres just something abotu them that they can't give each other up, they've tried before. My fiance thinks that I"m just being too nice, but I do love him, and I want him to be happy. I also know that I can't rely on one person to make me happy for the rest of my life... so why should he?
deadelvis Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 I'm a straight male who has usually dated bi women. I've always allowed them to have sex with other women. It's never been an issue or caused any problems. I think when people have bad situations like "my partner left me for someone of the same gender" it's because they tried to stifle or repress their partners bisexual nature. I think if you can handle it, you should allow him to do his thing with other men and consider it a partially open relationship. That's always worked well when dating bi women, but I realize it's a slightly different dynamic. However, if I had forced my previous partners to be 100% monogamous, and denied them the opportunity to sleep with people of their same gender, I think it would have encouraged them to cheat or caused serious issues in the relationship. Have you considered finding a bisexual male that you could both share? I tried that (with bisexual women obviously) in past relationships and things went well for all parties involved.
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