NTB Posted May 16, 2005 Posted May 16, 2005 NC was broken awhile back and i can't seem to get it back on track and i am worse for it more now than ever. thing is, why call me to tell me she wants to be with me and tell me that she loves me but with that same breathe tell me she is seeing somebody new. the girl is tearing my heart to shreds. i just don't understand it.........she wants to get back together but she is seeing someone already and for about 10 minutes i said great we can get back together but then that feeling came over me like "what are you thinking? she is seeing somebody else already and they have gone out on more then 4 dates" ............so i have to ask myself does she really love me? she can't if she is seeing somebody new? hell i can't even think straight because i am so in love with her but still she is dating already so it must have not been all love for her man my head is killing me anybody have a hangover cure i don't think i will make the day
outdated Posted May 16, 2005 Posted May 16, 2005 Wow, you and I are in the same boat. See my thread "ex keeps texting me arrgg" for my situation. She and I are both seeing other people, but she always texts me and sends me cards saying she doesn't understand why we're not together and how she will never be over me, but yet we are seeing other people. I don't understand it. Maybe they don't want us to move on, maybe they're just stringing us along, maybe they've convinced themselves that even though they love us, it could never work. I don't know. You gotta move on, there's nothing else you can do. Maybe she'll come back someday but you can't plan on it and it's painful to hope for it. Good luck and remember, there's someone else in the same situation and we know its sucks and is confusing. Keep on keeping on brother.
Author NTB Posted May 16, 2005 Author Posted May 16, 2005 sometimes i think that she doesn't want me to move on but why go through all this i mean i had NC on lock no calls no nothing i didn't even send smoke signals i was going for out of sight out of mind even tho the out of mind didn't go as planned, then she had to call me and like an idiot thinking i could handle i picked up. ever since i picked up i can't get back NC on track and she keeps calling me with all this i still love you stuff...........but my big question is how can you love me so much but still be seeing somebody new??? i just don't get it
DCPolo Posted May 16, 2005 Posted May 16, 2005 She may or may not still love you, but you'll never know until you initiate NC again. You see, its quite possible she's stringing you on, keeping you as "Plan B" should the new relationship fail. Or, she could be sentimental and having a hard time letting go of something that WAS important to her. Niether of these indicates that she wants to be with you again, and will probably fade with time. However, if she really DOES love you, then initiating NC will make her come back. If she doesn't, she isn't in love with you anymore. Its hard, but its the only way to really discern her true intentions. You have to stop taking her calls, answering her texts, etc. and wait. I suggest heavy, heavy drinking during and after this peroid.
Author NTB Posted May 16, 2005 Author Posted May 16, 2005 I suggest heavy, heavy drinking during and after this peroid. i have already taken this up but have a killer hangover today i feel so sick but i figure if i drink another beer i might be able to even out my head or just pass out.
Marshbear Posted May 16, 2005 Posted May 16, 2005 I think women do this because they want to hang on with the comfort of your relationship. It's the unknown that scares most people. When they start a new relationship it is unknown and they need that comfort from you for awhile. It is hard to let go completely so we hang on longer than necessary to show that were not monsters and unfeeling cads. This will pass but the dumpee needs to put their foot down at this time and do NC for their own sanity. The ex is selfish for their reasons so you need to be selfish for your reasons...
dogood4urself Posted May 17, 2005 Posted May 17, 2005 Dude, I have totally been there and it sucks....I would suggest to NOT HEAVILY DRINK, that **** is a depressant and It will only make you long for her more, I would suggest treating yourself to the things you like and hang out with friends. I think you really need to put your foot down in this situation. You may love her, but you need to love yourself more. As much as it sucks that is what you have to do....start by setting your boundries with her. She seems like my ex...insecure and selfish... maybe she is not intentionally trying to f*** with you, but she is, and you are the only person who can stop that from happening. If you really want to get back together with her, make sure that she is sure of her decision and that she is not making it out of desperation. Hang in and stay strong.... Set the NC back on full force....just know that you are not the only one going through this....
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