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I'm not talking about someone who is sure they moved on. I'm talking about someone with not completely bit a bit if GIGS I EMPHASIS A BIT. Someone who is confused about the future but says they love you and want to be friends and also not counting out another shot on the future. What are the stages during no contact?

 

 

Also I know females go througu a party/ random hook up Stage when is this? I'm strict NC and it's bee three weeks with no contact from her part however one of our mutual friends from her side sent me a friend request the other day but I blocked her. What is she thinking? I've completely gone off the map, all she has is a profile picture and cover of me no news nothing

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Stage 1: F*ck everyone that wants to f*ck them (which is everyone)

 

Stage 2: Date one of them.

 

Stage 3: Date another one. Break up with them.

 

Stage 4: Repeat stages 1-3 ad infinitum.

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Stage 1: F*ck everyone that wants to f*ck them (which is everyone)

 

Stage 2: Date one of them.

 

Stage 3: Date another one. Break up with them.

 

Stage 4: Repeat stages 1-3 ad infinitum.

 

This is exactly why I refuse to initiate contact it makes me sick to my stomach

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Yep.

 

Pretty soon it won't make you so nauseous to imagine your ex getting tag-teamed by a line of awaiting men, while she screams in ecstasy.

 

So, you got that to look forward to.

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Yep.

 

Pretty soon it won't make you so nauseous to imagine your ex getting tag-teamed by a line of awaiting men, while she screams in ecstasy.

 

So, you got that to look forward to.

 

That actually turns me on lol

Wish I could watch

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Things will never be the same.

 

If you made an effort and she refused to work on things wash your hands and walk away.

 

I would rather be a single man with pride than a spineless one with a girlfriend.

 

Edit: this guy is a creep

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Who cares sex is just sex we had an emotional connection. We are broken up I couldn't care less if she slept with a hundred guys the only thing about that is the insecurity she muSt have to sleep with that many guys which I won't be cool with. But hypothetically she gets drunk and has a threesome who cares I don't own her, she broke up with me it's not like she did it while we were committed. I wouldn't judge her on it. She's a very sexual girl I already faced it that she will indeed be having sex with other men and she usually dates a couple guys at once before she commits but when she does she's 100% faithful

 

 

 

I rather someone explore their options and get it out their system and be happy in a relationship then to get in one and cheat because they weren't ready.

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Well if its GIGS or whatever then the stages probably start while you're still together.

 

They start to think like 'hmm, I could be out with all my single girlfriends right now..".

Then they finally decide to dump you.

Then they go live their life seeking some sort of fulfilment (sex, whatever) that they'll never get.

Then sometimes they get tired of being the party girl.

Then they remember that they walked out on a good man.

Then they come crawling back to you.

 

And hopefully the man they run back to has the courage to tell them to shove it up their ass.

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Well if its GIGS or whatever then the stages probably start while you're still together.

 

They start to think like 'hmm, I could be out with all my single girlfriends right now..".

Then they finally decide to dump you.

Then they go live their life seeking some sort of fulfilment (sex, whatever) that they'll never get.

Then sometimes they get tired of being the party girl.

Then they remember that they walked out on a good man.

Then they come crawling back to you.

 

And hopefully the man they run back to has the courage to tell them to shove it up their ass.

 

What if I got back with her then dumped her when she was in honeymoon Stage again wouldn't that be more of a punishment lol

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What if I got back with her then dumped her when she was in honeymoon Stage again wouldn't that be more of a punishment lol

 

Hahaha, yeah it would be. It also might be a lot harder on yourself though :p

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A better question would be how gullible do dumpees become that they would actually believe that stuff?

 

If a dumper says (s)he loves you, but gets rid of you anyway, then there are only two possibilities:

 

You are a totally ****ed up person, so much that even love won't even conquer your faults.

 

or

 

(S)He is lying to you.

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A better question would be how gullible do dumpees become that they would actually believe that stuff?

 

If a dumper says (s)he loves you, but gets rid of you anyway, then there are only two possibilities:

 

You are a totally ****ed up person, so much that even love won't even conquer your faults.

 

or

 

(S)He is lying to you.

 

 

I was a total ****ed up person. Lol

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Having just read another post right on point, I'd add that there is a third possibility:

 

They are lying to themself AND as a result, to you too. Maybe that's why they are so convincing. They actually believe it.

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So Hypothetically if I grow out my hair and wear a mustache and legally change my name and the way I talk nd walk and attract her I have a chance is what your basically saying

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Well if its GIGS or whatever then the stages probably start while you're still together.

 

They start to think like 'hmm, I could be out with all my single girlfriends right now..".

Then they finally decide to dump you.

Then they go live their life seeking some sort of fulfilment (sex, whatever) that they'll never get.

Then sometimes they get tired of being the party girl.

Then they remember that they walked out on a good man.

Then they come crawling back to you.

And hopefully the man they run back to has the courage to tell them to shove it up their ass.

 

This is what my situation is (or seems to be) , and if she comes back, you can count on one guy telling her to shove it.

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my ex is already in the Party mode. And when we were dating she said "oh, i used to be a party girl and smoke and drink almost every weekend. But i have grown past that stage".

 

Then she dumps me.

 

"Yeah i am going this weekend to party again! I even bought some tobacco because i always want to smoke when i am drunk. YEAH :DD"

All she does is brag about handsome men, parties etc. But says "i haven't had any sex in two months!"

 

I don't get women. I really, really, don't.

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