Author rainrhonda Posted September 18, 2015 Author Posted September 18, 2015 I have trusted him too soon and too fast, and now I'm uncomfortable with all of it. He got what he wanted and I am just the stupid girl who let it happen. He isn't embarrased, he is just done and thinks I'm just the easy girl in town. And not someone he could stay with. I have screwed up bad. Story of my life...if the pace didn't matter to him, I would have heard from him by now. I'm ready to assume this hopeful pairing has failed.
losangelena Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 Well, it's possible, but you're still not sure. I know it's hard, but please try and not put the blame all on yourself! It takes two to tango, and you're not "stupid" or "easy" and you haven't "screwed up bad." This situation MAY not be recoverable, but I cannot stress this enough—you can come back from this. Use this for next time. Say, "I want to conduct myself differently next time," and do just that. Yes the situation sucks (if that's truly what's going on; and you don't know yet), but your attitude is what is most troubling. One can make a stupid mistake and not be stupid. Please remember that. 1
Celeste.Carol Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 I have trusted him too soon and too fast, and now I'm uncomfortable with all of it. He got what he wanted and I am just the stupid girl who let it happen. He isn't embarrased, he is just done and thinks I'm just the easy girl in town. And not someone he could stay with. I have screwed up bad. Story of my life...if the pace didn't matter to him, I would have heard from him by now. I'm ready to assume this hopeful pairing has failed. What? It takes two to tangle. I cannot stand that men will see a woman as too easy, when they themselves are too. A double standard and delusional. 1
Author rainrhonda Posted September 18, 2015 Author Posted September 18, 2015 Agreed. But still no word so now I am just getting concerned if I should hold his ticket for tomorrow or call a friend. I will text him about it first but if he doesnt respond fast enough his ticket is gone. I feel p'd off at him this morning
kendahke Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 Agreed. But still no word so now I am just getting concerned if I should hold his ticket for tomorrow or call a friend. I will text him about it first but if he doesnt respond fast enough his ticket is gone. I feel p'd off at him this morning I think you should contact him about confirming your date on Saturday. If he acts weird, then that's when you tell him "have a nice life" and cut him out of your life. You care about you: don't torture yourself with speculation. Get the information you need to make an informed decision. 1
Author rainrhonda Posted September 18, 2015 Author Posted September 18, 2015 I have asked him about tomorrow, and if he is ok. Been a few hrs ago. And nothing. I'm getting dumped and I have to sit here at work another 2 hrs until I can go home and cry.
Oregon_Dude Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 I have asked him about tomorrow, and if he is ok. Been a few hrs ago. And nothing. I'm getting dumped and I have to sit here at work another 2 hrs until I can go home and cry.Couple things. Any man who will ignore you because HE has penis problems, is a flat-out LOSER. Secondly, you've only been dating a couple weeks. Why are you so emotionally invested? I would advise you to toughen up a bit before pursuing dating in general. This guy is a f*cking idiot. You lost nothing here. YOU are the prize. 2
Author rainrhonda Posted September 18, 2015 Author Posted September 18, 2015 Couple things. Any man who will ignore you because HE has penis problems, is a flat-out LOSER. Secondly, you've only been dating a couple weeks. Why are you so emotionally invested? I would advise you to toughen up a bit before pursuing dating in general. This guy is a f*cking idiot. You lost nothing here. YOU are the prize. But at this point I am guessing the incident has nothing to do with this. Just something has made him decide he doesn t like me anymore. I am emotional because no one ever wants to keep me. No one thinks I am a damn prize. I'm never.good enough. If l was a prize I wouldnt be hurt by every guy I give a chance to.
Oregon_Dude Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 I am emotional because no one ever wants to keep me. No one thinks I am a damn prize. I'm never.good enough. If l was a prize I wouldnt be hurt by every guy I give a chance to.I'm sorry you feel this way. I wish you felt better about yourself. I would suggest counseling (I myself am in therapy) in order to better your self-esteem. Until you do so, dating is going to be continuously painful for you, as it is comprised of lots of rejection... rejection which you CANNOT take so personally, as it often has nothing to do with you. 2
Maharishi Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 I have asked him about tomorrow, and if he is ok. Been a few hrs ago. And nothing. I'm getting dumped and I have to sit here at work another 2 hrs until I can go home and cry. So sorry this is happening to you. He is a complete prick.
sid3 Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 i think this guy is doing you a favor by showing you just what a douche he really is. The fact he's likely embarrassed for getting off so quick is secondary, his lack of class on how to treat a lady, even if he thought you were too easy is what makes him a complete loser. 3
Author rainrhonda Posted September 18, 2015 Author Posted September 18, 2015 I got so upset at work that I had to leave early. We did all just shy of having sex, then he barely said a few words to me the next 2 days, and nothing today, and is blowing off plans for tomorrow. The next text I send will not be nice. And he can kiss my arse. So that's that. 1
SSM3 Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 Hey, PE happens to all blokes in their lifetime and if they say it doesn't they are not being honest. A few months ago I was having sex with this girl and I PE'd within 1 minute of entering her. I brushed myself down and within 15 minutes I was back on the job. It's abit odd that he has gone quiet. I would call him up and ask him what's what.
sid3 Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 I wouldn't bother sending a text. Just move on with your life. That's too bad you had to leave work early. I'm no Dr Phil but it seems like you're letting this guy(douche) get the best of you. Screw that. Caulk it up to a lesson learned. I'm not sure what that lesson is but I'm sure you know what I'm saying. Don't let some chode dictate how you feel about yourself. 2
Author rainrhonda Posted September 18, 2015 Author Posted September 18, 2015 Hey, PE happens to all blokes in their lifetime and if they say it doesn't they are not being honest. A few months ago I was having sex with this girl and I PE'd within 1 minute of entering her. I brushed myself down and within 15 minutes I was back on the job. It's abit odd that he has gone quiet. I would call him up and ask him what's what. I have no replies to my last 3 texts. So I don't think he is going to be answering any calls. He needs to be the one calling. Screw him. 1
Celeste.Carol Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 Please take the upper hand. You asked him how he was and he ignored you. Last text: I value myself and I value my time. A simple reply would have been cordial. Good Luck and Take Care. Then, let him chase you if he comes to his senses and was not a douchebag.
lana-banana Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 No, don't respond at all. You have your answer. The PE might have been embarrassing but he would not have blown you off if he were still interested. Keep your dignity and delete his number.
Author rainrhonda Posted September 18, 2015 Author Posted September 18, 2015 This is so disappointing and sad. I never dreamed he was really capable of this. Sure I thought about it, but still didn't believe it. He kissed me before he left, and looked just as happy as I felt. He did text good morning the next day. But it slowly went downhill from there. And I just wish I could understand.
losangelena Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 I'm sorry you feel this way. I wish you felt better about yourself. I would suggest counseling (I myself am in therapy) in order to better your self-esteem. Until you do so, dating is going to be continuously painful for you, as it is comprised of lots of rejection... rejection which you CANNOT take so personally, as it often has nothing to do with you. This is exactly what I said. Dating is hard knocks. I had to meet 29 other guys before I met my ex-BF of a year. In the end, he rejected me, too. That's 30 men who either rejected me, I rejected, or were victims of mutual apathy. Dating is hard. Opening yourself up to hurt and rejection is hard. I personally don't think it's that you're not a prize, OP, but that these men are incapable of seeing what a treasure you are. Take it from me. It's hard to date someone who feels like they have nothing to offer. My ex thought he was a total screw up and unworthy, but because of that he didn't value our relationship the way he should, and it ultimately crumbled. You getting to a place where you value yourself will help those around you as well. I'm sorry you chose to leave work early. This man is not worth your tears and emotion.
kendahke Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 I have no replies to my last 3 texts. So I don't think he is going to be answering any calls. He needs to be the one calling. Screw him. If that's how you really feel, then put him on block. "Used to didn't know him", you know? Take back the power you're giving him over you.
Author rainrhonda Posted September 19, 2015 Author Posted September 19, 2015 If that's how you really feel, then put him on block. "Used to didn't know him", you know? Take back the power you're giving him over you. If he called which I dont think he will, it wouldn't be enough anyway. I am peeeed off. I would just enjoy ignoring him the way he did to me. If he wants me back that bad, phone call isn't enough. He would have to man up way beyond that. But this isn't some kind of 80's teen love story movie, so its not going to happen.
Zippy2000 Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 Im sorry to hear about whats happened but why are people trying to explain a man`s absence by saying he`s embarrassed? EMBARRASSED? I don`t buy it. He`s thinking he`s had his fun, felt he "conquered" you and crossed out another notch on his bed post. I once dated a new girl who I got nervous with. It was my first time with her and......er.......I got a bit limp but she was so sweet about it. She did the right thing by texting me and wanting to see me again as if nothing happened but inside me, I felt less of a man. By texting me and wanting to see me again it put my confidence back in and went back to bed with her and knocked her for six! She said after our session "What a diffence to the first time we dont it". She instilled the confidence back in me. This is what Im saying. He`s NOT embarrassed. He he liked you enough he would have come back and PROVEN he doesnt make any mistakes prematurely and he at least jump to the chance to prove hes a proper man. Sadly, no! He`s had you. You gave away the good and now the ship has sailed.
losangelena Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 Im sorry to hear about whats happened but why are people trying to explain a man`s absence by saying he`s embarrassed? EMBARRASSED? I don`t buy it. He`s thinking he`s had his fun, felt he "conquered" you and crossed out another notch on his bed post. I once dated a new girl who I got nervous with. It was my first time with her and......er.......I got a bit limp but she was so sweet about it. She did the right thing by texting me and wanting to see me again as if nothing happened but inside me, I felt less of a man. By texting me and wanting to see me again it put my confidence back in and went back to bed with her and knocked her for six! She said after our session "What a diffence to the first time we dont it". She instilled the confidence back in me. This is what Im saying. He`s NOT embarrassed. He he liked you enough he would have come back and PROVEN he doesnt make any mistakes prematurely and he at least jump to the chance to prove hes a proper man. Sadly, no! He`s had you. You gave away the good and now the ship has sailed. Yes, it's easy to say that NOW. When OP first wrote this, it had only been the day after the incident, so the jury was still out as to whether or not he'd come back around. Now that she's tried to make contact, to no avail, it's clear that something else was at play. Regardless as to WHY this dumbf*ck dropped contact, OP need not swing all the blame back onto herself and think that something is "wrong" with her. 1
sid3 Posted September 19, 2015 Posted September 19, 2015 Agreed. Definitely a dumb****. He could have spent a measly few seconds and came up with something lame as opposed to just ignoring and disappearing. Not that is much better over all, he chose to show no respect whatsoever. That's weak. 1
Author rainrhonda Posted September 19, 2015 Author Posted September 19, 2015 Yes, we all basically gave him benefit of the doubt in thinking this was just embarrasment. I still texted him the next day as if nothing was different. There was no reason for him to think I didn't want to see him again. Even though he dropped off and out by Thursday, I still gave him a chance yesterday to ask about weekend plans, and to ask if he is okay because I had oddly not heard from him. And none of that to him, was even worth responding to. So we know now, embarrassment is not the only excuse, or even acceptable enough for this. By the end of last night, I was livid. I told him thanks for blowing off plans today, and he's not a man, he is a coward, and he really f!&*d up. So if he ever thinks he can recover from that, he better be prepared to bring me flowers everyday for a month and kiss my butt to the moon and back, before I would even think of wasting one more second on this loser. I was not able to find a friend to use my tickets today. So I sitting here on a lovely day with nothing to do. I would give him a black eye if he showed up at my door.
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