How do i encourage my cousin to go out if she's having major issues with her husband

[MiaMckenz]

My very very close cousin just found out that her husband has been entertaining/communicating with other women and she's heartbroken. I don't really understand how she feels because I haven't experienced what she's going through, but I just want her to get better. This weekend is the 40th birthday of one our close cousins (we're both the God mothers of her twin daughters). We've been planning her birthday dinner for about 3 weeks now, but she just found out about her husbands actions this week. I basically want her to feel better and i want to encourage her to go to our cousins birthday dinner this saturday. She's close to our cousin who's turning 40 and this is such a milestone birthday for her. I think that her going out may take her mind off things for awhile. I don't know if i should encourage her to go, and if i do, how to do that? Or just leave her alone? Thoughts please

[d0nnivain]

She's not going to feel better any time soon. However, you should encourage her to go be with people who love her & will support her. Assure her that she is welcome at the birthday. She can have whatever mood she likes and she won't drag everyone else down. Make sure you allow her the freedom to feel whatever she's feeling -- hurt, mad, sad . . .whatever

[healingsoul]

I can understand why your cousin is so heartbroken. It can be so emotionally painful in many ways when you find out that your husband has been communicating to another woman. I think this weekend’s birthday party would be a nice time for her to be with family and loved ones in a safe place. What harm do you think could come from simply encouraging her to go? She made need someone to talk with and enjoy the time with her cousin and possibly see her god-children.