preco Posted September 17, 2015 Posted September 17, 2015 Hi all I will tell my current story and some thinks that are helping me to move. The girl that I wanted to ask to Mary me in 1 month after 2,5 years of being together has dumped me. From my currently point of view it looks like G.I.G.S. It happened 10 days ago. For the background story I saw that something is wrong tried my best to fix the relationships how ever for that you need 2. No wishi washi thinks I had a feeling she is seeing some one else and even new who he was how ever not proof ,that changed 10 days ago when I found him waiting in the car and confronted him whats he doing there. He basic told me "What the problem can we not go and have coffee together ?" So I call my ... and with a lot of ugly words ask question. Finally she hangs and sends and viber message that we are definitely finished and we break up. Then after 2 hours she send and explanation message what she is been doing the whole day. A lot of B.S. What heart me the most then was that a week ago she told me the we are finished but the next day 7 in morning she was back crying that she is sorry she wants to be with me. So I gave her a second change. I was dumped 2 times in a week. It heart like hell. After 5 days I send an SMS apologizing for my words stating that she meant something to me and I could not be cold. I wished her the best. Fas forward today we have seen each other in work how ever for me its NC and that means she is thin air till I'm not healed completely. So basically I ignored he and that was a big shock for her. Now it does hurt but not so much or better its funny it hurting so light. Basicly that it also the reason why I'm writing my story maybe it will help some of you how it helped me. Thiks that I did: NC She is thin Air if we meet , don't look at here don't ask nothing she doest not exist. Burned, destroyed gave away all thinks that I had from here. Each day, each moment when it was heartig saying my mantra (The pain, the suffering, the cruelty, the betrayal is going away I'm happy, I'm bold, I'm assured) To give a perspective how much I'm doing this mantra on the 6th day I said it 27000 times. I was hiking that day for 9 hours from those I have been crying 4 hours and each step saying my mantra. I'm also writing it each day for 30 - 50 times. Visualisation if an image pops in to my mind about something that we did or something that was great: I take the image, remove the collor, ad graines to it, move it far away as possible and then burn it. Do it and you will see how good it is. Speak with friend, family strangers, Cry how much you want. Listen to music that heal you for me its this: Go some where where is quit be with your self and your feelings, your mind, you have to go true it not over or round Spoil your self, go for vacation what ever you want you can have (If you have the money for it.) Know you will get over this and you will be a lot stronger then before. I know now that I don't want here to return to me it hurts but I need to heal. And she is the one who has to be removed from my presence. Maybe big maybe she will come and maybe I will give here a change thats a big maybe and something that doesn't interest me at all. I'm 32 she is 23 the guy that she is currently with is 39 or 40 don't now is divorced and has an 8 year old child. The best he is a collogue of me and he new we ware together. And he was smiling when we ware meeting and he was with here. (Will never trust him) I'm not saying I'm over it just now I fill a lot better and positive then a have read in some stories after only such small time. I hope some of the advice will help some of you. Richard PS: "preco" means "why" in English
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