thejabberwocky Posted September 17, 2015 Posted September 17, 2015 I'm super depressed after my breakup after being with him for 6 yrs. I'm trying to fill the time until it hurts less. I'm trying to remember what I did after my last breakup (high school boyfriend, we were together 2 yrs, he cheated) to feel better. One thing I did was reread the entire Harry Potter series. I'm definitely going to do it again. It's such an encompassing story, it's very distracting from your real life. I thought it'd be fun for us to make a huge list of all of our breakup rituals that we can all refer back to when we're feeling weak! What do you do to feel better after a breakup? Let's get this list started!
Author thejabberwocky Posted September 18, 2015 Author Posted September 18, 2015 This is totally depressing. No one has anything they do that makes them feel better after a breakup?! We're all just sad and miserable with nothing happy or distracting to do?
Unlucky_I_Guess Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 After I got through the wallowing in misery phase I started working out religiously. So far it's working out great; I'm in the best shape I've been in years, the endorphin rush helps decrease the bad times and when I'm working out I put all my concentration on it...thus, no thoughts of her.
thunder777 Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 yeah being at home activities might not help gym & all its classes (yoga, pilates) will help immensly maybe even church? im not religious but i like hearing the choir singing & its free help others on here, whenever u get cravings/withdrawels do u have tinder where u are? it helps to make new friendships or to be courted by other boys write journals or list highlight of your days and great things u achieved bike riding
sbk24 Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 Hi jabberwocky, Thanks for your input on my thread. It is good to see a different perspective. Tbh I am really struggling too at the minute but as mentioned earlier but hitting the gym has really helped. I have gained weight that I am looking a lot better, just my mind is still messed up.
mightycpa Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 Running a few miles every day. Listening to music. Understanding my emotions by writing. Drinking and smoking pot with my friends. Playing bridge. Banging new girls. men are simple 2
Seth0194 Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 I joined Meetup and found some events in my area, I have only been to one but have another set for tomorrow. Great way just to meet people. I have hit the gym hard 5+ times a week, I have lost 42 pounds in three months (but most of that has come from after my BU in August) I feel good and making the push to lose another 20 pounds. I have started a date night with my daughter, we watch Netflix make dinner and just goof off, I have grown real close to her these last two months, she was real tight with my ex, and she was just as hurt when it was over. I have been trying some different things, I took a road trip by myself one weekend, was nice. I ended up thinking alot about the ex but it was my first real trip alone in 4 years and was a big part in helping me say " I can have fun by myself." Started watching Dexter and the Heroes on Netflix, two shows my ex hated but I liked and never had a chance to watch them. I went out on two casual dates, expecting nothing. I am not ready yet but still met some nice women and I came to terms I am a bit rusty. All in all do anything but stay busy, build a puzzle, watch a season of a show you put off, play video games, hit the gym (great way to meet people and work on your health) go for a ride, go to the movies, go taste some wine, go shopping, anything helps, I promise. I try to find the positive in all I can and though I miss my ex and the reason we broke up seems small to me now, it is what it is, two things have come out of it that has made me better. 1)- My relationship with my daughter has grown soooooo much, I can say she is my best friend and the bond we have I do not see it ever being broken. 2)- I have started taking my health back, it has been 5 years since I was in this type of shape a couple more months and I will be in the best shape of my life. Good luck and know we are all here for you.
Author thejabberwocky Posted September 18, 2015 Author Posted September 18, 2015 Thanks guys! I've been working out 3-5 days a week but I don't feel like it helps me that much. My ex was a trainer so it reminds me of him. BUT I like being in great shape, so I'm not going to stop. The idea of using Tinder or going dates at all makes me feel really sick
thunder777 Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 you are not going to completely move on until u go to sleep one night with a new persons arms around you you will wake up and think wow its over, the relief you feel will be unbelievable a friend told me a querky thing "the quickest way to get over someone, is to get under someone" tinder has some very negative issues in society, but you need to apply energy into your next adventures. put some pretty photos up and just lets boys do their best to compliment you all day, they have to do all the work anyway its far better than sitting in an empty corner ruminating about an ex and digging your hole deeper, thats never coming back u must force yourself to apply your energy to new friendships, they are not gonna be the same heights as with your ex, but how can they be, new friendships are at their beginnings, they are not 6 years old defacto relationships
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