milwaukeeguy53214 Posted September 17, 2015 Posted September 17, 2015 Hello, just wanted some opinions. My girlfriend and I have only been together three months. It was a very quick and passionate beginning. We're in love. It's very intense. But here is the "rub". two years ago she developed this relationship with someone online. He lives overseas. She video chats with him almost daily. They love each other. He is married for over thirty years, unfortunately his wife has been ill for more than a decade. In a nutshell they professed their feelings and love and she "promised" to be with him if possible if/when she passes. Knowing all this I went ahead with the relationship and we fell in love with each other, deeply. I have even video chatted with the "other" man. He seems by all accounts a good person. It would be easier if he was a jerk. It would seem our relationship is temporary and she tells me "it" may never happen with this other man. I have never loved someone so intensely, so deeply. So it is hard to let go. Intellectually I should not have continued or even began our relationship. But my heart told me other wise. I feel that I would rather love and lose someone with this kind of deep passion and intensity than to not have at all. Thoughts? Thanks,
kendahke Posted September 17, 2015 Posted September 17, 2015 Wow, she's messy. I personally wouldn't deal with someone who is obviously involved in an ongoing emotional affair. Doesn't matter how many oceans separate them. She is involved on a daily basis, emotionally, with this man. And if she's doing that to him behind his back, no telling what she'd do to you behind your back. That overseas stuff needed to end when the two of you decided to go forward. You chatting with the guy is just plain messy.
DrReplyInRhymes Posted September 17, 2015 Posted September 17, 2015 Hello, just wanted some opinions. My girlfriend and I have only been together three months. It was a very quick and passionate beginning. We're in love. It's very intense. But here is the "rub". two years ago she developed this relationship with someone online. He lives overseas. She video chats with him almost daily. They love each other. He is married for over thirty years, unfortunately his wife has been ill for more than a decade. In a nutshell they professed their feelings and love and she "promised" to be with him if possible if/when she passes. Knowing all this I went ahead with the relationship and we fell in love with each other, deeply. I have even video chatted with the "other" man. He seems by all accounts a good person. It would be easier if he was a jerk. It would seem our relationship is temporary and she tells me "it" may never happen with this other man. I have never loved someone so intensely, so deeply. So it is hard to let go. Intellectually I should not have continued or even began our relationship. But my heart told me other wise. I feel that I would rather love and lose someone with this kind of deep passion and intensity than to not have at all. Thoughts? Thanks, Have some respect for yourself, she's smitten by some other man, Get yourself a new woman you love just as much; arguably a much better plan.
Tobin Posted September 17, 2015 Posted September 17, 2015 It "may" never happen with her and the other guy. I couldn't live like that. But since you can, you better try to win her over so she'll pick you over him when the time comes. His wife is ill, you better get cracking you don't have much time.
Author milwaukeeguy53214 Posted September 17, 2015 Author Posted September 17, 2015 Thank you for the replies, it is appreciated. Lots to consider. Thank you.
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