How often is too often?? (Thinking about Ex)

[Bo34]

I'm at the 2 month mark of my breakup. (Ex dumped me).

I've gotten better since the first month. I don't get emotional when I think about her like before but the thought of her is still constant throughout the day for me. Why is this??? When will this stop?? Is this normal? It's hard to explain what's going on in my head but it goes something like this;

 

I think about all the good times we had together.

I think about the last few weeks and how things changed before the breakup.

I think about what she's doing, what she's up to.

I think about when and/or if she'll come back.

I think about if she lied to me and if she had another guy in the wings.

I think about what type of cold bitch she became.

I think about what I have to start doing to improve myself. I've made a list but haven't yet started it. The reason being is I'm still preoccupied with reading what others are going through too and comparing that to my situation.

 

 

The first month I stayed home on the weekends and was severely depressed. Now, I look forward to the weekends and going out with friends. I'm more social and eager to go to events. These are all positive signs, and I def believe I have to be busy to get my mind off of her. But during the hours of work, and anytime when I'm home, I have these thoughts, and there non-stop. I can't control them. The only time I really don't think about her is whem I'm at the gym or when I'm out with friends on the weekends. I don't know if what I'm experiencing is normal or if I need help?

Edited September 17, 2015 by Bo34

[Bo34]

I would also like to mention that I haven't broken NC since the breakup. So no set backs. I've also deleted her number and all forms of social media.

[disbelief]

its normal man , im 2 months as well and it just takes time. i haven't been no contact due to our child so its can definitely be worse! head up , you'll be fine.

[thejabberwocky]

Don't give in to those thoughts. Every time my mind slips to my ex, I think NO, and think of something else. It still happens, but do not give in and allow your mind to play out the fantasy of "what if" or relive the past.

 

Eventually it will go away. It's normal, but if you allow yourself to dwell on those things, you could be stuck, still obsessed with her, for years.

 

The mind is a powerful thing.

[MINDSHIFT]

i think its normal, well i ****ing hope so. im the same i just think about her non stop i actually find it hard to concentrate on anything without her popping up. Im hoping not looking at her social media will help me.