Nanako Posted September 17, 2015 Posted September 17, 2015 I ended my relationship and I know I did the right thing, but why do I keep having hopes or why do I keep missing him? I'm living in another country and he's a foreigner as well. The only language we have in common is japanese and although we are not fluent we managed to have an awesome time together UNTIL arguments started happening. Arguments were always started by him for some reason or another. I didn't mind being the one always trying to make things better, to calm him down, to fix whatever needed to be fixed until I realized he wasn't willing to do the same thing for me. He would instantly give up on me the moment I didn't know how to handle the situation or him and it started to weigh on me, a lot, because it made me feel extremely unappreciated and alone in a one-way relationship. Of course I tried to talk to him about it and although some changes were made, we would never discuss it clearly. And towards the end, when he had to move back for a while to his country I really felt I was being tested: he would say he would call me at x hour and he would leave me waiting. He would text me to call him and wouldn't answer my calls until the next day with some stupid excuse so I ended it. He's got some valid trust issues but I don't think that's a valid excuse to treat people like that. I know he's not going to call because he's extremely proud and makes me really sad the idea of not seeing him again but definitely I'm not calling. So what now?
FakeBatman Posted September 17, 2015 Posted September 17, 2015 I ended my relationship and I know I did the right thing, but why do I keep having hopes or why do I keep missing him? Arguments were always started by him for some reason or another. I didn't mind being the one always trying to make things better, to calm him down, to fix whatever needed to be fixed until I realized he wasn't willing to do the same thing for me. He would instantly give up on me the moment I didn't know how to handle the situation or him and it started to weigh on me, a lot, because it made me feel extremely unappreciated and alone in a one-way relationship. He's got some valid trust issues but I don't think that's a valid excuse to treat people like that. So what now? You did the right thing but still feel the emotional burn from ending the relationship which is natural for anyone human. It's good that you recognize his trust issues - does he know he has them?
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