neonani Posted September 17, 2015 Posted September 17, 2015 (edited) Hello guys, It was 3 years back when the most beautiful thing happened ti me, love.. I made a girlfriend in my college whom i loved to the core.. And it was the other way round too..she also loved me like mad. Bt the only problem we had betweem us was my careless attitude and taken for granted attitude..and she being really reserved.. She never made me realise that she is not liking it when i ignore her or take her fr granted.. She did a lot for me that time, which made me think that once she is there , she is not gonna leave me ever.. Bt repeated fights and hurting each other changed her and made her think that evn though she loved me , she had to me bcz it wasnt working out.. We were even living together and i could see that she had changed.. Bt we never stopped loving each other.. Later i had a knee injury around 1 year ago from now, fr which i had to shift at some other place fr my treatment.. And then we broke up ( out of sight out of mind u know).. But we kept talking, kept coming in relationship, kept breaking up.. Now its 1.5 months i have been in a no contact .. We have an exam coming up after 2 months.. And i am really not able to concentrate over my studies ( its a post graduation medical exam .. I have done everyrhing, read articles watched videos.. Bt its all heartache all tthe the day.. I really want her back.. When we met last she said we will definitely talk after exams.. Bt pls dont contact me till exams.. So what really is killing me is its still 2 months in exam, would she really come back after that, would she make a new bf in between.. I need all the suggestions and help guys.. Pls tell me how should i go from now on.. Shall i text her back now. Or shall i send her a letter , or shall i contact her after the exam only.. Theres is one book called text ur ex back.. Pls share ur reviews abt it also..... Edited September 17, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator paragraphs ~6
Tobin Posted September 17, 2015 Posted September 17, 2015 She never made me realise that she is not liking it when i ignore her or take her fr granted.. The way you write this, it's as if you are blaming HER for not making you realize that women don't like being ignored or being taken for granted. If you can't figure this out on your own, AND hold yourself accountable for the problems that result from you treating your girlfriend poorly- without her having to TELL you- then you gotta work on fixing this. This may help: "Girls don't like being ignored or being taken for granted". This applies to your exgf and any new women you may meet in your life. She did a lot for me that time, which made me think that once she is there , she is not gonna leave me ever.. Well that's rather presumptive and just.. well.. wrong. A woman in a relationship with a guy she loves will bend over backwards for him. But a woman with self esteem and self respect will expect the same in return, which is something that you really should understand without someone spelling it out for you. Nothing is forever, most relationships are not forever. Just because someone does a lot for you does not in any way relate to the amount of time they will ultimately spend with you. If you want it to be long term, you've got to contribute. Bt repeated fights and hurting each other changed her and made her think that evn though she loved me , she had to Repeated fights cause considerable damage to a relationship. Things are said that leave scars, trust is broken, tension and anxiety increase, communication breaks down. Do you know it's possible to have a relatioship with NO fighting? I've been in one for 4 years now and it's great. Sure we may disagree here and there but no fighting, yelling, screaming, even arguing doesn't happen. It's not necessary. We were even living together and i could see that she had changed. The warning signs were there. You ignored them at your own peril. she said we will definitely talk after exams.. Bt pls dont contact me till exams.... Shall i text her back now. Or shall i send her a letter , or shall i contact her after the exam only.. You seem like a reasonably intelligent guy but when it comes to the needs and feelings of your partner you are absolutely clueless, and this last part of your post to which I am responding now sort of punctuates it. The girl specifically told you to not contact her after exams. Yet here you are asking if you should contact her- because you're worried she might not come back if too much time goes by, or you can't stand not talking to her all that time, or whatever. For once, make it about what SHE needs and wants, not what YOU want.
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