Author guest569 Posted September 23, 2015 Author Posted September 23, 2015 Tossing up whether to respond to his apology or not, I want to tell him how crappy this is, but he has already admitted that and apologised, but sleeping with me and then stuffing me around, and the timing and manner which he told me its off. So hurtful.
TaraMaiden2 Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 "I respect your decision, and I understand it. But please know, I feel very messed about with. You slept with me, and you made me feel as if you had a deeper interest, so it's hardly surprising I'm very offended. Maybe it wasn't your intention, but I feel I've been used. You used me to straighten out your head, and it took getting to know me, and lead me on, to tell you that you weren't ready to date. Well, I was. What you did was manipulative and rude. Please don't do this to anyone else. Only date when you have developed indifference to your ex. Until then, you should stay off limits, and away from dating sites." Is probably, in your position, what I would reply with. If you think it's worth it. But that's up to you, how badly you feel, and whether you think him worthy of further input.
Author guest569 Posted September 23, 2015 Author Posted September 23, 2015 He did acknowledge that he didnt mean to lead me on and sorry if he hurt me etc. I'm trying to take his word for it, that its really because he's not over her. but i also feel like it is still a flat out rejection. what did i do wrong? was the sex that bad? Why does nobody want me, I have so much love to give! I'm pretty decent. Obviously really had my hopes up about this one, i still really think he is a great guy in spite of this which is stupid.
menyou Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 He did acknowledge that he didnt mean to lead me on and sorry if he hurt me etc. I'm trying to take his word for it, that its really because he's not over her. but i also feel like it is still a flat out rejection. what did i do wrong? was the sex that bad? Why does nobody want me, I have so much love to give! I'm pretty decent. Obviously really had my hopes up about this one, i still really think he is a great guy in spite of this which is stupid. you might have to date 100 guys to find the right fit. please quit the "nobody" wants me plea. Its just that this guy isn't ready for ANY relationship. Just happened that he figured that out for himself while he was with you. Could have been anyone. Depression is not an attractive trait so flip to the positive side.
Author guest569 Posted September 23, 2015 Author Posted September 23, 2015 (edited) you might have to date 100 guys to find the right fit. please quit the "nobody" wants me plea. Its just that this guy isn't ready for ANY relationship. Just happened that he figured that out for himself while he was with you. Could have been anyone. Depression is not an attractive trait so flip to the positive side. I have dated a lot of guys not quite 100. I'm very tired and have been rejected every single time i set my heart on one. if only i had an on/off switch for depression. And I think if he really liked me or I was the right person, he would be ok, although I can never begin to understand what he has been through. he is still rejecting me and would regardless of the scenario. Edited September 23, 2015 by smiley1
stillafool Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 Been seeing someone over a month and thought things were going well, getting the feeling he has lost interest and seems a bit distant (or just busy?). I check on the dating site now and then just to see if he has been on and he always has recently been on and even updated his bio. I'm already feeling hurt because I know that he is not as interested as I am. I am preparing for the rejection talk. We are scheduled to meet up again but i dont know whether to just back off or talk about it, seems a bit early and of serious a thing to talk about. I had no idea i would end up so invested. I still think maybe he is interested but I have this awful feeling that I'm about to get heart broken. I'm already feeling heart broken. The tone of your posts sound a bit depressing (which is understandable considering how you feel) and I'm wondering if you are fun and upbeat on your dates with him. If you are tense and solemn you will surely lose his interest and he will look for other women. You want to be fun to be around and stop worrying about whether he likes you or not. Enjoy yourself and it will shine through. 1
Author guest569 Posted September 23, 2015 Author Posted September 23, 2015 The tone of your posts sound a bit depressing (which is understandable considering how you feel) and I'm wondering if you are fun and upbeat on your dates with him. If you are tense and solemn you will surely lose his interest and he will look for other women. You want to be fun to be around and stop worrying about whether he likes you or not. Enjoy yourself and it will shine through. I was very fun and upbeat on dates, I was so genuinely excited and happy every time i saw him (i haven't been depressed for yonks, I'm not even depressed now, I am still in shock and my heart is broken) i think its kinda unfair to judge me on my posts where i pour my heart out seeking advice and reveal my insecurities. Of course i am not tense and solemn on dates lol wtf. If anything, he seemed kinda down and quiet compared to our initial dates, and i suppose because of the issues he is having.
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