Have to break up and unsure how...

[fitguy]

I've been dating this woman for 4 months. She's a beautiful woman and guys are always drooling after her. Within that 4 months, she's been out of a job. She applied at places online and hasn't been able to find work. She doesn't have a degree, just a high school diploma and a computer school diploma that she did years ago and she's 40. She's not very skilled in computers and can't type fast for jobs that require it. So, I've been footing the bill for everything from dinners out, lunches if we are out on the weekend, trips, etc. I was happy to be there for her while she was looking. However, she brought up that one of her "guy friends" told her about a job...at a strip joint! This was 2 months into our relationship and I was angered by this. I told her that I would not date a stripper and am upset she would even bring it up. Then she went on to tell me she was just talking...later she mentioned it again and told me that the guys don't touch the girls and can only watch. I told her I don't want her dancing nude in front of guys no matter what. She then says that it's an exclusive club and you need a membership to get in there so mainly football players and baseball players are in there. I said, "Do you think that makes it better? That makes it worse! Sports guys are some of the scummiest cheaters out there and they can afford to pay for "extra treatment". She said that she can make $500 a night and I said so what if the football player offers you $2000 for something extra? If $500 is that big of a deal to you, then what do you think will happen! We put that to bed. She needed some money so I gave her $300 and she used that to help pay her rent, first mistake.

 

Then she couldn't find work so I gave her another $200 to help her and she spent that. She was able to get something part-time for about $120 or $200/wk but needed a computer so I bought her a $320 laptop. That job ended a week later as all the work was done. Then she complained that she won't be able to cover rent and she "has to work" as in, strip! I told her I didn't want to hear that again and can't believe she's bringing that up! She starts crying and saying she's trying to work and needs money. So, I got into my savings and took out $2000! She had $500 for the rent and the rest she would have while she finds a job. I told her to apply at grocery stores, Starbucks, etc. to get a job fast! She refused as she said she doesn't want to break her back for $8 or $9 an hour! Kept on trying to apply to jobs online. Got a couple interviews but didn't have the skills necessary to get the job. She spent a lot of time at my place so I was feeding her and taking her out and occasionally pick her up at her place and bring her to my place. She said she had $850 left about 3 weeks after I gave her the $2k where it was $1500 left. I wondered how she could spend $650 in that time when she wasn't going out to work and buy lunch or anything, was at my place most of the time so she didn't need much groceries at her place, and paid $150 for insurance? By the end of August, she claimed she had $500. She said she never told me $850 and had $500 for the past 9 days and will have to strip! I told her I gave her all that money so I wouldn't hear it again and she SHOULD HAVE applied to regular job while looking for something better and that way, she would have had money now. She said that "should have" doesn't count now because she needs money! After 3 hours of arguing about it, I asked her if I helped her with her rent (stupid I know), will she drop the stripping thing once and for all! She was quiet and so I figured that was my answer and we were done.

 

The next day, I still helped her move from one apartment to another and her roommate's boyfriend gave her the money for the rent. She got upset at me later on because I let "another man" help her and I didn't step up and help her with her rent? She also said she had trouble with her car and as a boyfriend, I should have said, "Let's take your car to get it checked out." so that she would be safe. I was furious that I've helped her with over $3400 and closer to $4000 if you count the laptop and paying for her to get her hair colored, gave her money when she went to Vegas twice, and she's acting like I haven't been there for her? I broke it off and started to leave but she hugged me and begged me to stay with her. I caved and did and she didn't want to owe that guy money so I paid him back and gave her a bit more to help her.

 

A week ago she was mentioning that her phone bill will be due. She got a job that is all commission in sales but hasn't worked sales yet. So she's doing another part of that biz until she gets into the sales division which is cleaning for, $9/hr. Funny, she didn't want to work for that and now she is but it's 3 hours here and 6 hours there. She started saying she'll call all her friends to get money for her phone because she needs it to work as in, get the sales part or get other jobs that may call her. I was tired of paying for her as I have paid enough! She called me and said her phone will be cut off soon and she doesn't know what to do. Said she asked her friends and they said, "Don't you have a man?" She was upset that I wasn't helping her with support as even to say I can give her $50 and she can find the rest or saying "We can figure this out together" because we're a couple and she would do it for me if she had it. I got upset at her friends expecting a man to pay all the girlfriend's expenses etc. Mind you, it's been a few months and we don't live together. I have my own expenses like rent, car payments, insurance, cell phone, electricity, gas! My savings has slowly been declining and I've been trying to keep up but savings are taking longer to save up as I wanted to pay off my car in June but still am not able to.

 

We broke up on Friday, she was telling me she could have been with some other guy that she briefly dated before that wanted to be with her but she blew him off since she was with me. That pissed me off even more because she claims to love me to death but would say something like that? I left and then she called me crying and saying she didn't want to be alone and was depressed. That she may call a friend and have them pick her up at a local bar so she can have someone to be with. I felt bad and went down to be with her but didn't do anything as I was broken up. She thought that meant we were back together since I stayed with her. I didn't want to talk and just enjoy Saturday and I did pay her phone bill (stupidly) of $151 because I figured I am done but she can't say that she lost her job because of me and her not having a phone. Then on Sunday, she mentioned that same guy that she briefly dated called her and said she talks to him from time to time as he just calls her to say hi. I told her that's NOT cool when you are in a relationship because she said that she never hears from him as he disappears for a year or more. She then wanted me to come by and spend time with her. I said yes, only to bring her some of her things. I did and she said she knows what this is and isn't stupid or into games. We talked about the relationship and about the guy calling, about the money I've given her for help yet she's calling me stingy, and that I can't keep giving her money when we are in the early stages of dating, don't live together, not married, and this isn't going to work.

 

She cursed me, told me she hated my guts, told me she never wants to see me again. Said she'll give Told me she's a witch and curses me. She swore at me, I swore back and left and she ran to my car to stop me from closing my door and we argued for another 2 hours! I finally got out of there and within 5 minutes she was calling me saying she loves me so much and is so sorry about the whole thing. I never answered and she showed up at my apartment the next day. I never answered the door for an hour and she texted that if I don't want this it's fine, she just wants to apologize to my face. I finally opened the door and she hugged me and told me she loves me to death and is so sorry and takes back everything she said and takes back her curse. I told her it won't work, we aren't going to work, there's no future with us, I don't see us together. She begged and pleaded for 5 hours! She said that if I love her then I'll give it ONE chance and if not, then we go our separate ways. I said okay. Now after all of this, I regret it. She's already saying her car is getting worse, saying she has her last $50 to put in her account, saying she will be able to pay rent but her rent is due at the beginning of the month and she's working something this week but by the time she finishes working and gets her first paycheck, there's no way it will be this month and likely 2 weeks after this and next week? I see that she's likely going to ask me to help and because I'm "a man" I have to pay her rent and then she will probably say she'll pay me back next pay. She's the type that calls and texts all the time and if I don't get back to her in a short time, she's upset that I don't care about her. I have to call her and end it but weary of how to to about that as I said I would give it another try but after all of this, I don't see a future with her.

[mightycpa]

So your question was HOW to do it?

 

Simple. You go see her, bang her within an inch of her life, and after it's all over, and you've just returned from the bathroom to wipe the snot off of Little Elvis, you tell her to take that stripping job, because you can't afford her any more.

 

Then get your **** and tell her goodbye and good luck!

Edited September 16, 2015 by mightycpa

[warshaw]

Give her the ok to strip.

 

I'd be proud to be with a girl who has the type of body that other guys drool over and pay money to see.

 

At least give it a try, until she makes enough money to pay you back everything you've given her.

 

What do you have to lose?

[fitguy]

Well, that's all funny but I haven't had sex with her for her to use that against me (she did during a different break-up as in, "You're a guy and I know guys want sex but I'm such an idiot for believing in this") or have any possibility of pregnancy. I don't want to be alone with her because seems each time I am, she begs and doesn't take no for an answer and manipulates me into thinking I'm making a mistake. I just need to call and just figuring out the talk. She did say after that last time we made up that she would never mention stripping again and hasn't but I wonder what will happen if the going gets tough again.

 

She's been calling/texting me and I'm at work. Not sure if I want to sit in a conference room and have the talk or call her when I get home. She's going to be working nearby my place tonight and I don't want her showing up when I walk to my front door.

[fitguy]

Give her the ok to strip.

 

I'd be proud to be with a girl who has the type of body that other guys drool over and pay money to see.

 

At least give it a try, until she makes enough money to pay you back everything you've given her.

 

What do you have to lose?

 

Yeah, not wanting to sit on a Friday or Saturday night wondering what she's doing in there. She had said that they said the other girls do have sex for extra money but she doesn't have to do anything she doesn't want to and can be in "the cage" dancing. No thanks. I'd rather eat my money loss. Problem is the constant arguing. I didn't even get into some other stuff, for example, her getting angry when she came to bed after me and I wanted her to turn out the light but she didn't want to even thought it was next to her and she wanted me to climb over her? I just told her to do it and she said if she did, she would not return. I'm thinking it's all a joke and she was serious and furious when she turned out the light. I was pleading with her to just calm down and forget it. Getting upset at several things like that over the last month just added unnecessary stress to the relationship.

Edited September 16, 2015 by fitguy

[warshaw]

Yeah, not wanting to sit on a Friday or Saturday night wondering what she's doing in there.

 

You could be there getting free lap dances.

 

She had said that they said the other girls do have sex for extra money but she doesn't have to do anything she doesn't want to

 

I've been to strip clubs and conversed with the girls grinding away in my lap. They too, are classy women most of whom are stripping to pay for college or professional school and they'd never do anything illegal. For some reason it's hard to believe a woman who's grinding away on my hard cock telling me she's going to be an attorney but I really do try to give them the benefit of the doubt.

 

and can be in "the cage" dancing. No thanks. I'd rather eat my money loss. Problem is the constant arguing.

 

Constant arguing is definitely a relationship breaker, at least for me. Some seem to thrive on it, go figure.

 

All I'm saying is, she sounds nutty but she's a hottie, so enjoy it for the sex and stick it out long enough to get some money back.

[dumbass2]

Just what exactly was/is she giving YOU in this on and off relationship? What is it about her? I'm guessing it is mostly about her looks, but did you say you haven't had sex with her?

[mightycpa]

she has her last $50 to put in her account, saying she will be able to pay rent but her rent is due at the beginning of the month and she's working something this week but by the time she finishes working and gets her first paycheck, there's no way it will be this month and likely 2 weeks after this and next week? I see that she's likely going to ask me to help....

 

She did say after that last time we made up that she would never mention stripping again and hasn't but I wonder what will happen if the going gets tough again.

First of all, the going IS tough again. So, you're there already.

 

As for the rest of it, she's 40, so you're probably older, hopefully you don't need internet strangers to tell you to handle your **** like a man.

 

If you don't want that farewell bang, then just man up and tell her she's out of the lineup. How hard can that be? Ever heard of the broken record technique? Google it.

[fitguy]

Yes, I'm older but that's a moot point. It's hard regardless of age. I'm trying to be civil and she's been acting sweet for the past 2 days. I hate hurting people and don't like break ups. I always try as long as possible. Just the conversation of what to say is the difficult part. How to word it so it's not too bad...

[thejabberwocky]

She is using you for money. Sorry to tell you. It doesn't matter how you end it, just do and run far away.

[Craftydre]

Wow you got played man. She's Def using you for money. The fact that you haven't had sex (I think I'm I read) or even too little means you are being used for your money. And do you know why all that money is going so fast? Because you are also paying for her jobless bf that she enjys having great sex with.

 

 

Dump her now she has no respect or love for you.

 

It hurts but never spend money on woman without a return.

 

Don't believe me? Don't pay for her for a month and don't break up with her and see if she stays. You would think after all you've done she'd let you get away for atleast a month if she loved u right?

[ChicagoSparty]

Block her number, never look back. Doesn't get much easier than this one, bud.

[fitguy]

I have had sex with her, many times. I'm talking we haven't had sex since last week either Wednesday or Thursday. When I saw her last Friday, we fought and it ended. I went back after the called me crying and just wanted company as she was depressed about the whole thing and I never slept with her. The next day she flirted and figured we were back together and I still never slept with her because I felt it was over. The day after she asked me to come over to see her for a bit as she couldn't leave to come to my place because of her dog and I went down and brought a few of her things and she let me have it and then we argued about the money that she felt I should help her since we are a couple and I'm her "man" and if we are planning on spending our lives together then that shouldn't be a problem. I never slept with her then, obviously and we broke up with her screaming and cursing me with her "witch" powers while telling me she didn't want to resort to that but I hurt her so she curses me. Then she called 5 minutes after I left saying she loves me and she's sorry and I never answered. Then she came to my house the next day and begged and said one chance and if not, then we can end it and I was thinking maybe one more time. She stayed the night but I didn't have sex because I didn't want her to use it against me and tell me that I used her and am just being a jerk guy like all the rest. I decided I can't do it anymore and that's why I was talking about the breakup because this relationship is too rocky for only a 4 month relationship. I can't see a future and marriage if there are so many problems now and her expecting me to pay for everything even though she said that she's not expecting me to do that and is just "in a situation" right now and needs my support while she finds work thereby, guilting me into feeling like I have to be there and help her out financially.

[fitguy]

Wow you got played man. She's Def using you for money. The fact that you haven't had sex (I think I'm I read) or even too little means you are being used for your money. And do you know why all that money is going so fast? Because you are also paying for her jobless bf that she enjys having great sex with.

 

 

Dump her now she has no respect or love for you.

 

It hurts but never spend money on woman without a return.

 

Don't believe me? Don't pay for her for a month and don't break up with her and see if she stays. You would think after all you've done she'd let you get away for atleast a month if she loved u right?

 

When I told myself "no more" and wasn't going to pay her phone bill she kept telling me she's going to call her friends. Then said she would ask her roommate's boyfriend (that she hates and had a fight with recently). Then said that she's been crying all day. Then said that she will lose her job and not able to get other jobs because she has no phone and will have no money. Basically telling me that it will be all my fault because her guy friends won't help her since she has a man. If they only wanted to be friends, why would it matter if she has a guy or not? She's thinking that even if we aren't married, living together, and have been together for a short period of time, that we should help out each other financially because she would do it for me if I were in her situation. She really hasn't worked ever since I started dating her except for that short part-time thing where she only made $120 - $200 in a week. That lasted for a month.

[fitguy]

I called her last night to end it. I had some gin and crystal light to deal with it. I hate breaking up because I hate all the crying and guilt trips making you feel like the biggest ass in the world.

 

The problem is, the gin backfired as I called her and talked briefly but I really don't even recall the conversation. She said she wanted to FaceTime but I said I couldn't?? Then said I told her I'll take a shower and call her back and I didn't because I don't remember anything? All I remember is waking up this morning to a ton of text and missed calls. I called her back this morning and she came to my place last night and all the lights were out which I did have them off and was just talking on the phone earlier in the night. She was calling and texting me and peered through my window and said that I wasn't home and my room was empty...but I was in bed! She said that she saw me leave and even talked to a guy in an adjacent garage and he said I left??? I was at home the whole time! I blacked out and don't remember even the conversation I had with her? She told me to open my door and there was a note that fell and she should have heard the paper fall. I told her that I obviously didn't leave because how would that paper still be there? She said she came by with her hair all done, makeup, nice dress and two glasses with a bottle of wine. I told her I was passed out asleep and told her I had some gin and crystal light to drink and it hit me harder than I realized. Never heard the phone or anything. She said I only had the bottom lock locked on the door but I had it double locked as I was home!?

 

So, this call went from a breakup to me trying to prove I wasn't a lying cheater?? I told her that this isn't meant to be and she said that she's been trying and doing everything right yet I'm breaking up with her?

 

I told her it isn't working and she said she knows I was with someone last night. I took a picture of myself showing that I just woke up and she said I could have messed up my own hair after I got home. I didn't have anymore time for this and told her that I have to go to work. She said that she wants to meet with me face to face as she wants to see my expressions. I told her we could FaceTime and she said no, she wants to in person and I said we can meet somewhere as I don't want to be in her place. She is good at twisting things to make me into the bad guy and thinking I did something wrong. I did mess up and fell asleep! I say I have to go and we'll talk later and then she tells me she loves me? She's really manipulating me and it's driving me nuts and I'm not going to have any more long conversations that last for hours and not meeting her face to face.

 

I know she got back together with an ex before me and she said she did it only to make him pay for hurting her. I don't want to be that guy.

Edited September 17, 2015 by fitguy

[pidgeon1010]

Oh gosh. You don't need to explain anything to her. It's over. The breakup was long overdue. You were enabling her laziness by giving her money. She needs to get her 40 year old ass to McDonald's and fill out an application. She was using you and would have wiped you clean if you gave her the chance. Now she is free to be a stripper. Find someone else who not a leech! She sounds TOXIC. At 40, when is she ever going to get it together?!

[fitguy]

Thanks pidgeon1010, I do agree and put up with this toxic relationship way too long. I did the deed and broke up with her yesterday afternoon. I called her and she kept on trying to say my phone was breaking up and she couldn't understand what I was saying so we would have to meet face to face. I told her that's not an option and she then said she knows what this conversation is about and that we can't do this over the phone. I've done it in person a couple times already but she always twists things and we end up having a 3 hour conversation where I "try again". This time, it was just to cut it off. I know her car is having trouble as she's been hinting that it's not going very fast and that if I care about her and want her to be safe, I should take it to get it checked out. Her rent will be due by the beginning of the month as she shares with another girl and she won't have enough to cover it as it's a more expensive place than her last place. So I'd have to pay for my place and her place because I don't "want her to worry" since I'm her man.

 

She started saying that if I claim I wasn't with a woman the night before and was in fact asleep, then she believes me. That we need to work this out and I told her straight up that there are too many issues here with us and we have to be honest that there's no future. She said "What Issues?" I told her I wasn't going to go through a list of issues and that this isn't working. She said that she has no issues and that the issues are my issues and I said, "So, if I have so many issues, why do you want to be with me?" I figured this call has gone on long enough. She said she wanted to meet me and I said no, this is over. I'll drop off your stuff and I wish you the best.

 

I just couldn't do this anymore and it took a while and I was seeing the signs but didn't want to believe that I was being used. Right after the call, I deactivated Facebook and blocked her number. Going NC for real this time!

[mightycpa]

Yes, I'm older but that's a moot point. It's hard regardless of age. I'm trying to be civil and she's been acting sweet for the past 2 days. I hate hurting people and don't like break ups. I always try as long as possible. Just the conversation of what to say is the difficult part. How to word it so it's not too bad...

UFB! You think that anybody of any age likes to break up or hurt people? It is hard regardless of age, but also, with age your balls get bigger and your skin thicker. You are supposed to be able to do the hard stuff. Grow up!

 

Here's what you say:

 

Matilda, I've been thinking. You need to take that stripper job. In fact, get as many hours as you can, because you're going to need the money. I'm not going to come around because I don't want to see you anymore.

THE BROKEN RECORD TECHNIQUE: Whatever she says, or asks, or if she starts crying, or whatever, that doesn't matter. You don't want to respond to her questions, no. You just keep repeating the following, word for word, over and over again, until she says OK or throws you out:

 

I know it's hard to understand, and I know you feel bad, but I'm just not feeling it with you anymore, and I want out. I don't want to date you anymore, and nothing is going to change my mind, OK?

That's how you deal with people who resist. This is how you do it.

[fitguy]

UFB! You think that anybody of any age likes to break up or hurt people? It is hard regardless of age, but also, with age your balls get bigger and your skin thicker. You are supposed to be able to do the hard stuff. Grow up!

 

Holy cow man, relax. I, like others, come for advice and not ridicule. No, no one wants to hurt people but when you are emotionally manipulated as I have been for a while and wasn't in a relationship situation where I was, then it's more difficult. Not to mention, I did do it and it's over. I was firm yesterday as it didn't make any sense since she wouldn't let it go like I've dealt with in the past where either I broke up or they broke up with me, we kept it civil and adult and moved on.

 

When I read this article: http://www.wikihow.com/End-a-Controlling-or-Manipulative-Relationship

 

It hit home because this is exactly what I've been dealing with!

[mightycpa]

Holy cow man, relax. I, like others, come for advice and not ridicule. No, no one wants to hurt people but when you are emotionally manipulated as I have been for a while and wasn't in a relationship situation where I was, then it's more difficult. Not to mention, I did do it and it's over. I was firm yesterday as it didn't make any sense since she wouldn't let it go like I've dealt with in the past where either I broke up or they broke up with me, we kept it civil and adult and moved on.

 

When I read this article: How to End a Controlling or Manipulative Relationship

 

It hit home because this is exactly what I've been dealing with!

Atta pepper! See? It wasn't so hard after all. Good for you.

[fitguy]

After I broke up, brought all her things to a friend of hers and was done. She had some food in my freezer and called me a few days later and texted me that she wanted it. I ignored it. She shows up banging on my door asking for them stating she has no money and needs the food item. This is something she can get from the store for a few dollars, yet drives 30 min to my place to get it? She texted that she just wants the food and doesn't want to get back together. She will just shake my hand and that's it. I felt bad about the food hunger thing and opened the door and gave it to her. She said that we were good to each other and wanted to at least get in from the heat as she's a lady and I didn't meet her on the street and at least have decency. Then sits down and proceeds to ask me why we ended and how could I end it on the phone, hang up, and not meet face to face to discuss it. I told her we discussed it a couple times before which is why I said we must both just face it and realize it's not working. She wanted to try again and I said we didn't work but she says its me that didn't want it to work. She tried and I didn't. Says that I'm a player and played with her heart and I made her fall in love with me based on us talking about the future. Tells me I left her when she's in a situation. She hopes to be paid from her odd jobs by the 30th and can cover rent and would even take me to dinner. Kisses me and says she wants to try again. I said no, we aren't going to work, there's no future here. She said I don't know that. She shows me her bank account with peanuts in it. That tells me this is because she needs my monetary support. Why show me that? Tells me about all these guys texting her to go out but she can't because she's in love with me. She told me I only gave it 4 months and didn't even give it a year. I told her why would I do that if its not working in 4 months with all these problems. This went on for 5 hours! Says I'm known in the club area that guys say I'm a player and have different girls at all the clubs but I rarely go to those?? What the hell?? I finally had to leave and she hugged me and asked me to think about it. Gave me a kiss and left. Called me shortly after that to see that I got to my destination safely. Called me several times the next day and I was busy working and didn't answer. Called at night and texted begging me to call as she just needs a friend and is going to die. Said that she won't talk about "us".

 

Proceeds to tell me she owes for her dog at the apartment she's in because she snuck it in. Her roommate gave her dog to her mom but she still has hers. She can't lose her dog. I tell her she can find it a good home, give it to her parents, friends, etc. she couldn't do any as parents are too far and she can't afford to send it, too costly. Her friends have dogs and can't take another, it's her baby and she can't part but can't pay the bill. I just said then you'll have to find it a good home or they can kick you out of your apartment. I think she was hoping I'd give her the $450 to pay the apartment. We aren't even together nor do/did we ever live together. We were together 4 months! She thanks me for my time and suggestions and says she wishes she wasn't in love with me because it hurts too much. Says she feels like killing herself. Says she was driving around thinking of how to make the money. I said, "so you're broke and using gas to drive and think?" She says yes. Says she's hurting so bad. I say I'm sorry you are hurting. She said I'll experience it because the next girl will hurt me like I hurt her. I told her we've all been hurt and I'll say again, I'm not a player and wanted a relationship but if it doesn't work then that's it. She says she wishes me the best and goodbye. I think that's it but she calls last night but I was asleep and calls today while I'm in a training class. What more does she want? This breakup is hard enough on me because I still have feelings for her and miss the good times but we weren't working and I was used!

 

Her text was saying she hopes I feel better from my cold and doesn't understand her being blocked from me but she guessed it makes me feel better. Trying to be nice and saying that for a response.

[oldshirt]

Encourage her to take the strip job. She's already prostituting herself only you are the john that's paying for it.

 

At least if she was giving hummers in the parking lot she could pay for her own crap and maybe you'd be off the hook for her expenses and you could bang her for free. She may even be able to take you out and treat you to dinner and pick up some of your tabs.

[oldshirt]

Now to address your question legitimately, you are going to have to impose some personal boundaries and stick to them even though it will get rough. You are going to have to grow some balls and are going to have to be strong and stop trying to be "nice" and you are going to have to risk her being mad at you and thinking you are a dick.

 

You have said all that needs to be said so STFU from now on. Block her phone and electronic communications. Don't answer or return her calls/texts.

 

Inform your workplace about her and do not allow her to enter your workplace or wait for you to get off work.

 

Don't answer your door if she comes to your house.

 

Call the police if she doesn't leave.

 

File a police complaint if she keeps coming around or is bugging you repeatedly after you have told her not to.

 

If she continues, have an attorney draw up a formal no contact order.

 

If she violates it, report it to the police and have her arrested.

 

If she continues, get an actual restraining order from the court and if she violates that, call the police and testify at her trial and watch her go to actual jail.

 

Draw a line in the sand and don't be nice and don't be a pussy.

 

She is a skanky ho that uses men to get what she wants. Stop letting her use you.

 

This WILL get worse before it gets better. She will probably vandalize your car and/or your property. She will probably steal something of yours. She will likely slander your name to whoever will listen and may even file a false report of abuse or sexual assault.

 

Above all else DO. NOT. FCK. HER!!!!! She will try to get pregnant and can also use your sperm in her as evidence of sexual assault.

 

She is a whacko, crazy, skanky ho. It can't be reasoned with and it can't be appeased. The only thing you can do is build a fortress around yourself to keep it away.

 

You can't be nice and you can't reason or negotiate with it.

[oldshirt]

Watch the movie "Gone Girl," with Ben Afleck. That is what you are going to be dealing with.

[fitguy]

When I said "Trying to be nice", I meant her asking how I'm doing and trying to elicit a response from me but I never responded. I blocked her number but I was typing on my PC last night to respond to your post and there was a banging on my door. I live in an apartment building and I never get knocks at my door unless it's during the day but it's still rare. It's usually apartment personnel for a repair etc. but this was at 9pm. My place was quiet and I never went to the door for several minutes. I never heard anything on the outside and when I looked, there was no one there. I checked this morning and there was nothing on my door, no note or anything. It had to be her and that's a little creepy. Almost can see her standing over my bed like a bad movie.

 

You make a lot of good points as I never expected this. I guess because she couldn't get a hold of me via the blocking she came by? I will go through legal matters if it becomes harassment! Some people just never grow up! I also work in a secure government building, park in a secure garage, and have a garage at my building so not worried about the car and I'm not worried about her showing up at my work.

Edited September 25, 2015 by fitguy