One_Made_of_Silver Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 (edited) I met a very attractive girl today on my lunch brake. We were eating at the same restaurant and somehow struck up a brief conversation. She seemed very friendly, so I couldn't resist asking for her number before we headed our separate ways. I tend to be very socially awkward, and this was certainly no exception, but she gave it to me. I'd like to see her again, but I'm not sure exactly the best way to proceed. I don't want to move too fast, but I don't want to appear too timid either. What should I say? Should I chat with her for a while and get to know her through text and get her comfortable, and then ask her to lunch? Or go straight to asking if she'd like to hang out? She's a bit younger than me. I'm 30 and she's 23. Edited September 16, 2015 by One_Made_of_Silver
kendahke Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 you asked for her number. She gave it to you thinking that you're interested and you want to play games now? Just call her up and ask her to meet you for coffee on a specific day at a specific time.... and have 3 other days and times you are available in case her life is up around her ears that day. Get to know her face to face, not by text.
Author One_Made_of_Silver Posted September 16, 2015 Author Posted September 16, 2015 you asked for her number. She gave it to you thinking that you're interested and you want to play games now? Just call her up and ask her to meet you for coffee on a specific day at a specific time.... and have 3 other days and times you are available in case her life is up around her ears that day. Get to know her face to face, not by text. Not trying to play games, and I really am interested in her. She seems like a nice person. I've just been out of the dating game a while and I wanna make sure I do this right.
kendahke Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 Not trying to play games, and I really am interested in her. She seems like a nice person. I've just been out of the dating game a while and I wanna make sure I do this right. Call her, don't text her, and ask her out for a casual meet up like coffee.
Author One_Made_of_Silver Posted September 16, 2015 Author Posted September 16, 2015 How about an evening coffee date? I think if we did lunch, I'd feel rushed.
kendahke Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 Why? Do it on a day when you're not going to be rushed. Go for ice cream or dessert in the evening, not a full on dinner. Keep it light until you figure out you two like one another enough to wade in deeper.
Maggie4 Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 Why not ask to meet at the same place you met for lunch? It's obviously convenient for both of you, and less like a date. This gives you a chance to talk more face to face and get to know each other without the pressure.
fitnessfan365 Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 (edited) Some women will give their number just to get rid of a guy. Also, she doesn't have your number and most people won't answer unrecognized calls. That's why it's always smart to send an initial text. It'll let her know who's contacting her and if she responds, you proceed. If she doesn't respond, then you don't have to waste time calling her. Assuming she responds, tell her that you'll give her a call and ask when a good time to talk is. When a woman gives you a call time, your 10x more likely to get her on the phone. Otherwise, you'll most likely end up playing voicemail phone tag. But..whatever you do..DON'T try to get to know her via text. Make plans for a date on that call and meet up ASAP. Why not ask to meet at the same place you met for lunch? It's obviously convenient for both of you, and less like a date. This gives you a chance to talk more face to face and get to know each other without the pressure. Terrible advice IMO. He should make it clear that it's a date and romance happens at night. Not on a lunch hour where you're forced to spend less time together. Lunch hours are for friends and co-workers. Not potential lovers. Edited September 16, 2015 by fitnessfan365
Author One_Made_of_Silver Posted September 16, 2015 Author Posted September 16, 2015 Some women will give their number just to get rid of a guy. Also, she doesn't have your number and most people won't answer unrecognized calls. That's why it's always smart to send an initial text. It'll let her know who's contacting her and if she responds, you proceed. If she doesn't respond, then you don't have to waste time calling her. That's actually what we did, kinda. She gave me her number, and I texted her mine while we were together, so we got each other's numbers then and there.
fitnessfan365 Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 That's actually what we did, kinda. She gave me her number, and I texted her mine while we were together, so we got each other's numbers then and there. Well if that's the case, send her one more text saying what a good time you had meeting her. Then say you'll call her and ask when a good time is. She'll get back to you with a good time to talk, and then call and plan an actual date at night. No lunch hours...
Author One_Made_of_Silver Posted September 16, 2015 Author Posted September 16, 2015 Well if that's the case, send her one more text saying what a good time you had meeting her. Then say you'll call her and ask when a good time is. She'll get back to you with a good time to talk, and then call and plan an actual date at night. No lunch hours... That's kinda my thinking regarding lunch. With lunch, you gotta eat, then get your ass back to the office. It would feel rushed.
Author One_Made_of_Silver Posted September 16, 2015 Author Posted September 16, 2015 You work 7 days/week? My thinking is I could meet her for coffee or ice cream or whatever someplace some evening where we could sit at a table outside and chat. That's nice and casual. 1
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