Celeste.Carol Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 I broke up with a guy who was not great for me. The beginning of the day I felt absolutely nothing, like a complete void. This afternoon, happy, felt like sunshine and as if an omen was released from me! I have never felt like this after a relationship ending. Even if there was not heartache, there were always some residual sad feelings.
Redhead14 Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 I broke up with a guy who was not great for me. The beginning of the day I felt absolutely nothing, like a complete void. This afternoon, happy, felt like sunshine and as if an omen was released from me! I have never felt like this after a relationship ending. Even if there was not heartache, there were always some residual sad feelings. IF you had been stressing and feeling insecure in the relationship for a while, sure you'd feel relief. And, don't forget, going through a break up is like grieving a death. A person goes through various emotions and states of mind at different points and will vacililate between them as well. So, tomorrow, you may feel some sadness, the next day you might feel anger, etc. When you are feeling pretty good about it, go with it as much as possible. Go out and have fun, see some friends, etc. Enjoy it while it's there. If you stay like this for a while or at least most of the time now, it means you made a good decision, that's all 2
scooby-philly Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 hey Celeste I agree with redhead14. Breakups bring about all kinds of emotions. It's important to recognize them as they come and just accept them. Don't fight them and don't be afraid of them. If it's different than before it shows you that you've changed. It may also tell you that it wasn't going to work out for you in the long run anyway. I used to be afraid of ending up alone - now that I date - I'm not. I just ended a relationship 2 months ago and I've been NC for 6-7 weeks now and i'm great. I'm lonely from time to time - but just today I checked her twitter feed - I've blocked everything else and will block this one - she just joined a week ago, and eyp - the same selfish, careless, irresponsible behavior is there. 39 year old with 3 exes, 3 kids, and she doesn't take care of any of them. 1
menyou Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 (edited) You most likely went through the motions during the lead up to the break up. I was in a ltr that the last 4 months or so was me dealing with already knowing it was over. Never looked back since the day of breakup. Just be mindful that if you start feeling sad, mad etc., it's probably not because you miss being with your ex, you just miss a relationship and all the good things that come with one. Edited September 16, 2015 by menyou Grammar 2
Author Celeste.Carol Posted September 16, 2015 Author Posted September 16, 2015 IF you had been stressing and feeling insecure in the relationship for a while, sure you'd feel relief. And, don't forget, going through a break up is like grieving a death. A person goes through various emotions and states of mind at different points and will vacililate between them as well. So, tomorrow, you may feel some sadness, the next day you might feel anger, etc. When you are feeling pretty good about it, go with it as much as possible. Go out and have fun, see some friends, etc. Enjoy it while it's there. If you stay like this for a while or at least most of the time now, it means you made a good decision, that's all Thanks Redhead and Scooby: It feels like a 100lb weight has been lifted. I am happy with my decision. I believe it also helps although I was quite decisive but kind, that he did not even take the time to follow up with a kind note himself, it was the correct decision. He was a player and it meant nothing, so be it! 1
Redhead14 Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 Thanks Redhead and Scooby: It feels like a 100lb weight has been lifted. I am happy with my decision. I believe it also helps although I was quite decisive but kind, that he did not even take the time to follow up with a kind note himself, it was the correct decision. He was a player and it meant nothing, so be it! When I divorced my husband (although it was amicable and we are still friends), I quipped that I had lost 220 lbs on the Legal System 1
Maggie4 Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 (edited) Ha ha, yeah, all the time, even when I'm the one being dumped ;-) Edited September 16, 2015 by Maggie4 typo
Redhead14 Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 I look at the ending of shorter term dating scenarios like this: When they end, it's not about the person you've ended it with that causes sadness, etc. It's about the thought of what you hoped or wanted for yourself out of it -- a relationship. Since that didn't happen, you haven't lost anything so nothing to be sad about.
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