jam.over.jelly Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 You're not obsessing and "don't give a flying f*ck" yet u seem pretty upset about her not taking up on your offer right away and created a thread to ask for advice. Hmmmm
smackie9 Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 Actually I did ask her something firm. I asked if she wanted to get togehter on Saturday to see my brother play at a bar where they're having a birthday bash. Then if she skirted around/ no response she is just giving you the old "I'm gonna avoid him so he will just give up." Give up she ain't that into you to merit anymore effort from you. 1
DiimpleDoll Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 Just take it easy. You just met her. Maybe she has a zit or wants to get her nails done before seeing you again You let her know you're into her, your job there is done. Give her some breathing room and text her this wknd if you haven't heard from her.
ExpatInItaly Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 OP, if you haven't heard from her by the weekend I would assume she's not overly interested. (This is coming from another woman here) We accept invitations that we are excited about, plain and simple. You have reached out to her a couple times. Let her come to you now. If you don't hear anything, then you have your answer. It might not be anything personal. 1
joseb Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 (edited) Don't be wise a** with the 15 stuff. In NO WAY am I smothering her. I called her babe once. Don't know where you're getting twice from. If that bothered her she wouldn't respond back anymore. You're not understanding the context of our interaction. She is happy and doesn't think I'm smothering her at all. This much I know. She would let me know that if I were. She wouldn't text me or wait hours or days to text me back. We've only texted 3 times. Two of which I initiated. I'm not obsessing. Just don't feel like wasting time. I don't give a flying F one way or another. I can get another pretty chick in 5 minutes. I'm trying to give her a chance or benefit of the doubt because I'm not sure at this point. I'm not texting her 3 times a day. Not happening. I was basing my response partly from your other post - http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/547844-should-i-contact-her#post6544989 where you list your initial few text messages - looks like 9 messages from you there alone (including the babe mention twice, first and last text) and sounds like quite a few texts since, so not sure why you are saying you only texted 3 times. "Me: I did as well babe. That conversation ended at 3:00pm yesterday. I haven't heard from her since. I know it's only been since yesterday afternoon that we spoke, but I would've thought she would say goodnight or contacted me today, but she hasn't. I don't know what to make of it" So after the second babe reference you didn't hear from her for quite a while. That, to me, leads me to think she thought - ooh - this guy is calling me babe already, I'll just give it some space". Or maybe not. Maybe she just was busy. Either way though, it seems like you were getting pretty wound up by the fact she didn't respond quickly. That is why I think you are displaying needy behaviour. Sorry, but that's how I see it. Not trying to be smart. (OK maybe the 15 thing was a bit cheeky ) In your other thread you also say: "I miss my home life with a sweet lady. If I could, I would get married again." Nothing wrong with that, but comments like this are why I get the feeling you are a little over anxious in your search. If you really didn't care, you would not be getting this upset. If you are not sure, then go and meet up with other girls and keep your options open. You can still do that while giving her the benefit of the doubt. And it might mean you are not as concerned about the outcome of this one, which may be to your advantage. Edited September 16, 2015 by joseb
ZA Dater Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 I think inherently most of these sort of thread have one thing in common, communication. There just doesn't seem to be decisive communication coming from the ladies. If you are not interested than simply say so. Don't leave guys to try and figure out what you are saying. To the OP, my advice will be to phone her and then try get a sense of where her interest level.
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