Johnson1 Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 Met her on Saturday night, hit it off great. I texted next morning (noonish) and asked if she'd like to get together later on. She sounded interested, but wasn't sure if she was suppose to go out with her friend. A day goes by and nothing, then she texts me to ask how my day was (yesterday). We had a short but brief conversation that ended well. The next morning I texted her to let her know that I may be getting into a tribute band making good money and can get her VIP backstage passes to our show. She liked that a lot. I asked her again if she wanted to get together either this Thursday or Saturday. My text was a little long with a couple of minor typos because of my phone, so right after I added, 'excuse the grammar, I hate my phone, lol'. She said 'that's okay '. No response back about getting together. She's definitely interested, this much I know. We made out on our first date and were very close and hit it off well. I don't know why she's putting off getting together again. Perplexed.
TunaCat Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 If she was interested in you, she wouldn't be putting you off. She may not have felt a romantic connection with you even if you felt one for her. 1
Jules Dash Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 You made this thread already. You should really chill and go play music. Relax.
Author Johnson1 Posted September 16, 2015 Author Posted September 16, 2015 If she was interested in you, she wouldn't be putting you off. She may not have felt a romantic connection with you even if you felt one for her. She invited me back to her place with her friend for a while, then when I left we kissed passionately then she asked me to text her when I got home. She ended one of our conversations with 'sweet dreams' and smiley faces because I did. She thinks I'm sweet, whatever that means. I told her I'd learn a song that she likes and sing it for her at open mic night and she went 'Awwww'. How pushy should I be with this, or should I just start ignoring her texts or wait a long time to respond back so she gets the message that I'm not going to wait around forever. I really like this lady, and she told me the same on Saturday night at the bar. She's the one who wanted me to come home with her and her friend.
Author Johnson1 Posted September 16, 2015 Author Posted September 16, 2015 You made this thread already. You should really chill and go play music. Relax. I know brotha. Great talking to ya again. She IS still on the line and is interested, just don't understand why she's putting off hanging out and dodging the question. I don't know if I should just start putting off her texts (especially since she'll have backstage passes to my shows, which she loves the idea of) so she gets the hint that I'm not waiting around forever. As a lead singer meeting women is NOT a problem. She knows this. I'm like 'WTH"? I am going to open mic night Thursday with or without her.
smackie9 Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 You need to suggest something firm not"let's get together on one of these days". You are being too weakish. A woman like an assertive confident guy.....YOU pick up the phone and call her for a date. You tell her I want to take you out for dinner at such and such a place are you free Friday. Stop with this texting crap and ask her out properly.
Author Johnson1 Posted September 16, 2015 Author Posted September 16, 2015 (edited) You need to suggest something firm not"let's get together on one of these days". You are being too weakish. A woman like an assertive confident guy.....YOU pick up the phone and call her for a date. You tell her I want to take you out for dinner at such and such a place are you free Friday. Stop with this texting crap and ask her out properly. Assertiveness is also mistaken a too many times for neediness. I don't want to come across that way. I'm trying to take the 'whatever' approach. Confidence definitely is not a problem. Personally, I hate the texting crap. Always did. It's the worst form of communication, but it seems for the moment that's what she'd rather do. I've already mentioned to her I want to get together. She bypassed what I asked. What would change if I called? That would put her on the spot. Actually I did ask her something firm. I asked if she wanted to get togehter on Saturday to see my brother play at a bar where they're having a birthday bash. Edited September 16, 2015 by Vocals5 1
jam.over.jelly Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 Trust me if she really wanted to see you again she would grab that chance, and you never have to ask her twice. You did what you could, the ball is in her court. Let her come to you now. 2
Author Johnson1 Posted September 16, 2015 Author Posted September 16, 2015 (edited) Trust me if she really wanted to see you again she would grab that chance, and you never have to ask her twice. You did what you could, the ball is in her court. Let her come to you now. Agreed, but how long do I continue the text waiting game? I'm about ready to start ignoring her texts and see how she reacts. I really like this lady. I don't want to lose her by not playing the game right if it pays off big time in the end. Trying to figure out what she's thinking. This is a test. I know it is. Driving me nuts in the process. lol......women. Oy! Edited September 16, 2015 by Vocals5
menyou Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 Agreed, but how long do I continue the text waiting game? I'm about ready to start ignoring her texts and see how she reacts. I really like this lady. I don't want to lose her by not playing the game right if it pays off big time in the end. Trying to figure out what she's thinking. This is a test. I know it is. Driving me nuts in the process. lol If you are interested why would you think about ignoring her texts? If she responds or initiates, follow suit. Just don't go loco on her if it's not as timely as you would like.
jam.over.jelly Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 Cut back on the texting, and just text her the day right before the show, or whenever it is you want to take her out again, and ask her to confirm. You wouldn't want to overwhelm her with texting too much when apparently she isn't giving you a straight answer whether or not she will meet you again. But don't ever ignore her texts. She would think you're not interested.
Author Johnson1 Posted September 16, 2015 Author Posted September 16, 2015 If you are interested why would you think about ignoring her texts? If she responds or initiates, follow suit. Just don't go loco on her if it's not as timely as you would like. I know. I'm trying not to. Maybe she wants to see how much patience I have. Not having patience indicates clingyness and neediness. I'm trying so hard to play it cool , but I don't want to be taken for a ride either.
Author Johnson1 Posted September 16, 2015 Author Posted September 16, 2015 Cut back on the texting, and just text her the day right before the show, or whenever it is you want to take her out again, and ask her to confirm. You wouldn't want to overwhelm her with texting too much when apparently she isn't giving you a straight answer whether or not she will meet you again. But don't ever ignore her texts. She would think you're not interested. I don't think I could anyway. I like her too much.
menyou Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 I know. I'm trying not to. Maybe she wants to see how much patience I have. Not having patience indicates clingyness and neediness. I'm trying so hard to play it cool , but I don't want to be taken for a ride either. BTW- text text text. Do you speak on the phone?
Author Johnson1 Posted September 16, 2015 Author Posted September 16, 2015 BTW- text text text. Do you speak on the phone? I know. I hate it. I'm hesitant to do that, especially since she won't give me a straight answer about getting together. I asked her through text point blank if she would like to get together on Saturday. Either she overlooked or dodged the question. Not sure why.
menyou Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 I know. I hate it. I'm hesitant to do that, especially since she won't give me a straight answer about getting together. I asked her through text point blank if she would like to get together on Saturday. Either she overlooked or dodged the question. Not sure why. Call, call, call. And then you can move on one way or another! 1
Author Johnson1 Posted September 16, 2015 Author Posted September 16, 2015 Concerned about calling and having it go straight to voicemail. I've had that happen.
Author Johnson1 Posted September 16, 2015 Author Posted September 16, 2015 (edited) Call, call, call. And then you can move on one way or another! I may just do that. F*** it. I'll call her tomorrow night. Why do women have to be so difficult!?!?!?! Jeez. Edited September 16, 2015 by Vocals5
menyou Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 I may just do that. F*** it. I'll call her tomorrow night. Why do women have to be so difficult!?!?!?! Jeez. Ummm... You're the one freaking about voicemail. Leave a message. Lol
Author Johnson1 Posted September 16, 2015 Author Posted September 16, 2015 Ummm... You're the one freaking about voicemail. Leave a message. Lol LMAO.....50 bucks that's what will end up happening. I don't care, as long as she calls me back. Not sure what to do if she texts me back instead of returning the call. Cell phones are the worst thing ever invented. It gives people the option of playing games.
joseb Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 I don't think I could anyway. I like her too much. Dude, seriously, chill out. Are you sure that your are 51 and not 15? You seem really needy- calling someone babe (twice) the day you met her. Sending her good morning texts the next day. Apologising for typos. Apologising for missing a text for a while. Creating two threads here about it all. Just relax. Honestly, if a girl I had just met starting calling me babe (and it wasn't a joke) I would wonder what the fookack she is thinking, and if she is a stage 5 clinger. Others seem to not see it as a big deal, so maybe it isn't in the U.S. but for me it would be. If you keep up with the needy behaviour, you may very well drive her away, despite the fact she may well like you. Stop obsession about her and get on with your life. If you don't here from her for a bit, you could try calling her. But not right now. Stop smothering her. 2
menyou Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 LMAO.....50 bucks that's what will end up happening. I don't care, as long as she calls me back. Not sure what to do if she texts me back instead of returning the call. Cell phones are the worst thing ever invented. It gives people the option of playing games. Babe/dude, whatever.... You leave a message and if she texts you she has issues. And you move on. There is only so much you can do to try. You won't always succeed. I would call and if by chance she does not answer then that's it. Ball is in her court. 1
Author Johnson1 Posted September 16, 2015 Author Posted September 16, 2015 (edited) Dude, seriously, chill out. Are you sure that your are 51 and not 15? You seem really needy- calling someone babe (twice) the day you met her. Sending her good morning texts the next day. Apologising for typos. Apologising for missing a text for a while. Creating two threads here about it all. Just relax. Honestly, if a girl I had just met starting calling me babe (and it wasn't a joke) I would wonder what the fookack she is thinking, and if she is a stage 5 clinger. Others seem to not see it as a big deal, so maybe it isn't in the U.S. but for me it would be. If you keep up with the needy behaviour, you may very well drive her away, despite the fact she may well like you. Stop obsession about her and get on with your life. If you don't here from her for a bit, you could try calling her. But not right now. Stop smothering her. Don't be wise a** with the 15 stuff. In NO WAY am I smothering her. I called her babe once. Don't know where you're getting twice from. If that bothered her she wouldn't respond back anymore. You're not understanding the context of our interaction. She is happy and doesn't think I'm smothering her at all. This much I know. She would let me know that if I were. She wouldn't text me or wait hours or days to text me back. We've only texted 3 times. Two of which I initiated. I'm not obsessing. Just don't feel like wasting time. I don't give a flying F one way or another. I can get another pretty chick in 5 minutes. I'm trying to give her a chance or benefit of the doubt because I'm not sure at this point. I'm not texting her 3 times a day. Not happening. Edited September 16, 2015 by Vocals5
Jules Dash Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 Dude, seriously, chill out. Are you sure that your are 51 and not 15? You seem really needy- calling someone babe (twice) the day you met her. Sending her good morning texts the next day. Apologising for typos. Apologising for missing a text for a while. Creating two threads here about it all. Just relax. Honestly, if a girl I had just met starting calling me babe (and it wasn't a joke) I would wonder what the fookack she is thinking, and if she is a stage 5 clinger. Others seem to not see it as a big deal, so maybe it isn't in the U.S. but for me it would be. No, it's a big deal, man. In the US we call this behavior "cringe-worthy." Vocal, sometimes not obsesssing is an active process. You have to put effort into it.
Jules Dash Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 Don't be wise a** with the 15 stuff. In NO WAY am I smothering her. I called her babe once. Don't know where you're getting twice from. If that bothered her she wouldn't respond back anymore. You're not understanding the context of our interaction. She is happy and doesn't think I'm smothering her at all. This much I know. She would let me know that if I were. She wouldn't text me or wait hours or days to text me back. We've only texted 3 times. Two of which I initiated. I'm not obsessing. Just don't feel like wasting time. I don't give a flying F one way or another. I can get another pretty chick in 5 minutes. I'm trying to give her a chance or benefit of the doubt because I'm not sure at this point. I'm not texting her 3 times a day. Not happening. It's tough love, Vocal. Try not to take it too tough. Try to read your post objectively and maybe you can see what picture is being painted here. 1
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