Zerdux Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 Hello everyone I had a few posts before about my break-up before.Here's the situation now. Me and my ex broke up 3 months ago now.Recently we talked about us and how we should maybe try to get back together.She told me she misses me and she said she was sorry about everything.I find it very hard to believe anything when she says anything anymore as she jumps about in hot and cold conversations with me.When I asked her if we could speak on phone,she said she'll try as she was in the gym and had work later.Got no call or not even a message saying I couldn't manage or anything.Later that evening I see photos of her going partying and so on.So I said to her "you find time for partying,but not even for a few minute phone call,never mind seeing each other".Just said I am done with her b******t and games like that,and then she blames me for putting her in a bad mood etc. I am so confused.I loved this girl so much and cared for her and still do.I would like some advice on what I should do?Why is she doing this? Thanks.
disbelief Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 she doesn't care and probably has a few guys after her. if you were high on her list she would make it known. move on.
mightycpa Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 I agree. Next time she says that she misses you, just say this: Shut up! I don't want to hear that ****. Don't ever say that again! She'll ask you why you're being so mean. That's when you say this: Because I don't ever want to ****ing see you again, ever. Don't call me anymore, I'm sick of your ****. Whatever she says next, just interrupt her and say You are so ****ing stupid! I just told you I'm sick of you. UGH! Goodbye. And that, my friend, is how you get rid of the girls who don't know how to properly dump you.
warshaw Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 And that, my friend, is how you get rid of the girls who don't know how to properly dump you. Thats terrible advice. Best thing to do is block all means of contact and simply go dark on her. There is no need for verbal abuse. None. 1
mightycpa Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 Thats terrible advice. Best thing to do is block all means of contact and simply go dark on her. There is no need for verbal abuse. None. :lmao: You know, if I was the over-sensitive type, I'd join the small chorus of people who have called you uncharitable things tonight. But I'm not. What I am is quite sure that in this case, she continues to torment him in the breakup just as she did when they were together. That's partly his fault; he has ignored the good advice that he sought, because he is addicted to this girl. She doesn't have the character to help him out and he doesn't have the strength to pull the NC trigger either. I have no doubt he will not utter these words. He's not there mentally. But, hopefully, when she torments him the next time, he'll think about what I said, and with any luck, he'll be able to begin to perceive the insincerity she's delivering. Maybe, just maybe as she's yammering about how much she cares about him, he'll fantasize about telling her off. It's a great way to recovery. Too bad you can't see it. Oh well, it's not for you. 1
Author Zerdux Posted September 16, 2015 Author Posted September 16, 2015 :lmao: You know, if I was the over-sensitive type, I'd join the small chorus of people who have called you uncharitable things tonight. But I'm not. What I am is quite sure that in this case, she continues to torment him in the breakup just as she did when they were together. That's partly his fault; he has ignored the good advice that he sought, because he is addicted to this girl. She doesn't have the character to help him out and he doesn't have the strength to pull the NC trigger either. I have no doubt he will not utter these words. He's not there mentally. But, hopefully, when she torments him the next time, he'll think about what I said, and with any luck, he'll be able to begin to perceive the insincerity she's delivering. Maybe, just maybe as she's yammering about how much she cares about him, he'll fantasize about telling her off. It's a great way to recovery. Too bad you can't see it. Oh well, it's not for you. I am pretty much happy without her.But I always had a philosophy people deserve a second chance because we are human,no one is perfect.All I wanted to know what she is trying to achieve by this and how her feelings and mind work.I really won't have any trouble going NC,as I am about the border line of having heard her bs.I am happy the way my life is going,but I just care for this girl and trying to kick some sense in her empty head.I set an ultimate my self of a few last weeks,if this is going to keep happening,just to completely remove her from my life.Thanks for comments guys
ExpatInItaly Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 I am pretty much happy without her.But I always had a philosophy people deserve a second chance because we are human,no one is perfect.All I wanted to know what she is trying to achieve by this and how her feelings and mind work.I really won't have any trouble going NC,as I am about the border line of having heard her bs.I am happy the way my life is going,but I just care for this girl and trying to kick some sense in her empty head.I set an ultimate my self of a few last weeks,if this is going to keep happening,just to completely remove her from my life.Thanks for comments guys I don't think she's all that interested in getting a second chance, OP. She would be a lot more communicative with you if she wanted to reconcile. She's enjoying the single life. People prioritize what's important to them. Plain and simple. Sorry man, but she's moving on.
theredpill Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 If you really want her back, block and move on..... it's your best chance of both getting her or finding someone even better. Anything else is you rationalising to yourself and believe me, you'd be wrong and I am right 1
thunder777 Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 (edited) shes a floozy, getting bored inbetween her skank adventures and contacting u is cos she is bored some chicks belong in their chosen paths (in the sh#tlands) leave her there man, find a girl who chooses honour, loyalty devotion piss her off, youll only get the run around Edited September 16, 2015 by thunder777 1
Author Zerdux Posted September 16, 2015 Author Posted September 16, 2015 If you really want her back, block and move on..... it's your best chance of both getting her or finding someone even better. Anything else is you rationalising to yourself and believe me, you'd be wrong and I am right Thank you,I very much agree with that,thanks 1
Author Zerdux Posted September 16, 2015 Author Posted September 16, 2015 Just to let you guys know I deleted her from my facebook,her phone number,everything today
warshaw Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 Just to let you guys know I deleted her from my facebook,her phone number,everything today Well done. I'm glad that you didn't take advice that suggested you become verbally abusive to her. Much cleaner break this way and you'll move on faster.
quattrob Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 I am pretty much happy without her.But I always had a philosophy people deserve a second chance because we are human,no one is perfect.All I wanted to know what she is trying to achieve by this and how her feelings and mind work.I really won't have any trouble going NC,as I am about the border line of having heard her bs.I am happy the way my life is going,but I just care for this girl and trying to kick some sense in her empty head.I set an ultimate my self of a few last weeks,if this is going to keep happening,just to completely remove her from my life.Thanks for comments guys You are right that people do deserve second chances but only when they sincerely have proven that they "deserve" it. Based on her actions and her hot cold behavior, she has proven that she didn't deserve or value the second chance that you have given her. So what do you do? You cut her out of your life for good and find someone else who values and appreciates you. You deserve a second chance to meet someone that will treat you right, but you're not giving yourself that second chance if you don't let go of this girl. 1
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