MoreAmore Posted September 16, 2015 Share Posted September 16, 2015 How much affection do you show your partner? How often do you say I love you? Randomly compliment them - whether for looks or accomplishments? Buy little gifts? Do something for them without being asked? Anything else? Are you more affectionate in some relationships than others? Does the intensity of your emotion effect how affectionate you are, or are you just who you are in a relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
DrReplyInRhymes Posted September 16, 2015 Share Posted September 16, 2015 How much affection do you show your partner? How often do you say I love you? Randomly compliment them - whether for looks or accomplishments? Buy little gifts? Do something for them without being asked? Anything else? Are you more affectionate in some relationships than others? Does the intensity of your emotion effect how affectionate you are, or are you just who you are in a relationship? I'd like to answer your question, but I first would like make an observation to you, We are praised by the affection we show, but we are judged by what we don't do. For instance, a lifetime of support can be thrown away when asked about our latest trial and error, Or how even Great men who lead full lives are 'scum' after 1 mistake was made in terror. It goes both ways, but I guess I'm playing a misogynist in my reply, Seems like all the little things don't matter when the decision is between on 'move on' or 'try', For some, those factors may come into view, But for most, it seems those factors are legitimate dealbreakers or two. Link to post Share on other sites
BlueBlood Posted September 16, 2015 Share Posted September 16, 2015 I love you is said five to ten times a day, maybe more. Every time we talk and just at random times. I give more compliments, he does more acts of love like cooking or bringing me a glass of wine and telling me to put my feet up. Love languages are different with us. Gifts? Weekly, often just some small token, a favorite snack we saw while out or a little something the other likes to drink. A favorite wine. I get flowers every week, always a different bouquet than before. I give back rubs to him. We do dinner together at night, usually home cooked as we eat pretty clean but occasionally a healthy take away. We go to bed at the same time, together, every night. We cuddle in the am, he sets the alarm early to allow for it unless it's a weird sort of mega early day schedule. I think we both are who we are, we're committed for forever, it's a relationship I treasure above any romance before it. Every year it grows better. He becomes more handsome to me as time passes, and he was stunningly handsome and great to start with. I love his hands, they're strong and very tan and capable, so I enjoy watching him work or type or slice tomatoes lol. He likes my nose. He kisses the tip of it and always smiles when he does. Same with my ears but that tickles so we have a slight ongoing dispute about thou shalt not kiss the ears! He still does, the scamp. I make sure his knives are well tended, he loves them, had them made in Japan. I make sure the dishes and laundry are done during the week and he cooks all weekend so we each get a breather from chores. We call each other if we are out and are thinking of spending over a certain amount of money. I just feel it's respectful to acknowledge its our money and discussing large purchases. We are doers not given to morose thought or stagnation. We talk best in bed or when hiking so I protect those opportunities. We make sure to see family/friends throughout the week to keep our support group strong. It can be a cookout or meeting for a glass of wine or mojitos.. Nothing wild or crazy just time to talk. He goes to sporting events with his best friend. I decorate our home with the help of my best friend, or we grab lunch together and talk as only BFF ladies can, for hours. So we nurture each other but our second circle, too. Link to post Share on other sites
autumnnight Posted September 16, 2015 Share Posted September 16, 2015 I say I love you at least daily. Usually more than one time...sometimes profusely. If I am in the same room with them, I tend to always want to be touching in some way. A brush, a hug, a kiss, a massage, a squeeze, a hug, or just stroking up and down his arm. I express appreciation liberally. For me, I love to have the freedom to love with abandon, and touch and words of affirmation are my primary love languages. As far as the negative side that was brought in....I would never dump someone for a lapse......but go months without touching me or saying I love you? Yeah, that's a problem, and it will need to be fixed. Most women are not as high maintenance as some men think they are. If the men just make a habit of words and affection, then they'll be amazed at how easy their women are to "please." In other words, be proactive and you won't have to worry about "lapses." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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