menyou Posted September 15, 2015 Posted September 15, 2015 Guy I'm dating is on business trip in which we rarely communicate while he is away. I use the time wisely and become very busy and I know he is as well. He called and before the conversation concluded he says " I wanted to give you a courtesy call as we haven't communicated much the last few days". Normally I wouldn't give this a second thought, but the use of the words courtesy call kind of made it sound like he was a telemarketer. Why is this bothering me?
BlueBlood Posted September 15, 2015 Posted September 15, 2015 Where is he from? Maybe it's a culturally based turn of phrase? On the other hand...Does he sell life insurance over the phone? (Just teasing!)
Author menyou Posted September 15, 2015 Author Posted September 15, 2015 Where is he from? Maybe it's a culturally based turn of phrase? On the other hand...Does he sell life insurance over the phone? (Just teasing!) Haha! I actually laughed a little when he said it. He's from the Midwest. He does have a "proper" streak which is not what you'd think unless you knew him. Just threw me off thinking of what a courtesy call really is as I don't think I receive many.
TB Rhine Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 Probably a bit peevish because it sounds kind of stilted and formal (which, depending on how far your relationship has progressed, may have rubbed you the wrong way), but I doubt he meant anything by it. He was fulfilling an obligation: he felt the two of you had reached the point where it might be considered rude or inappropriate or hurtful if he didn't check in with you.
Author menyou Posted September 16, 2015 Author Posted September 16, 2015 Probably a bit peevish because it sounds kind of stilted and formal (which, depending on how far your relationship has progressed, may have rubbed you the wrong way), but I doubt he meant anything by it. He was fulfilling an obligation: he felt the two of you had reached the point where it might be considered rude or inappropriate or hurtful if he didn't check in with you. Eek! Lol the word "obligation" makes me feel the same way as "courtesy call"!!
losangelena Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 You're reading too much into it. Be happy he got in touch!
Author menyou Posted September 16, 2015 Author Posted September 16, 2015 You're reading too much into it. Be happy he got in touch! I definitely am. I like this guy. A lot. I smile as I type those words.
Versacehottie Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 it's pretty funny in a dorky way. If that's the biggest problem you have, i wouldn't sweat it.
Author menyou Posted September 16, 2015 Author Posted September 16, 2015 it's pretty funny in a dorky way. If that's the biggest problem you have, i wouldn't sweat it. If I had to classify it as a problem, it would be the only one. Not a bad thing, eh? 1
Taramere Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 Guy I'm dating is on business trip in which we rarely communicate while he is away. I use the time wisely and become very busy and I know he is as well. He called and before the conversation concluded he says " I wanted to give you a courtesy call as we haven't communicated much the last few days". Normally I wouldn't give this a second thought, but the use of the words courtesy call kind of made it sound like he was a telemarketer. Why is this bothering me? Because marketing speak is a bit of a turn off?
TaraMaiden2 Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 menyou, when he begins using phrases like 'pushing the envelope' when seeking intimacy, 'running it up the flagpole' when discussing exclusivity or and 'touching base' when agreeing to another date....THEN start worrying.... 1
Taramere Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 menyou, when he begins using phrases like 'pushing the envelope' when seeking intimacy, 'running it up the flagpole' when discussing exclusivity or and 'touching base' when agreeing to another date....THEN start worrying.... I think she should discuss her concerns with him on their next date, so that he can take them on board while she nips away to take a comfort break. He'll appreciate the opportunity to collect and collate data. 1
TaraMaiden2 Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 She needs to get all her ducks in a row and go forward on this together, in order to negate a paradigm shift, though... .....Anyone want to attempt making up a whole 'dating you' paragraph by using any of those examples...?
Author menyou Posted September 16, 2015 Author Posted September 16, 2015 I think she should discuss her concerns with him on their next date, so that he can take them on board while she nips away to take a comfort break. He'll appreciate the opportunity to collect and collate data. Hey, you Tara's are pretty witty. I'll take this one for the team.
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