Trane Posted September 15, 2015 Posted September 15, 2015 I went out on a couple of dates with a girl I was feeling really good about and I honestly thought she felt the same way about me. It sure seemed like their was a common interest and attraction on both sides. WE.... #1 Planned our next date to have a nice dinner together after work. #2 Planned to get away on a mini-vacation out of the city. #3 Planned to see a couple of live music shows together. #4 Planned to go to the gym and work out together. All of this was confirmed on her return from her own vacation with her room mate and friends. So, I buy her a couple of gifts to surprise her and the next thing she disappears from my world. I tried reaching out to her with a text and a phone call. She responds saying she should have been more clear to me about her personal life which I could never have changed or affected. Basically, I got the "it's not you, it's me line," from her. Never heard from her again. Totally left me in the cold and I'm wondering what to do with the gifts(purse, jacket, pair of sandals) I bought her? Sell them on ebay? Wait to give them to another girl that is worthy of them? Garbage them completely from my memory? Donate them to charity? It's a given that she doesn't want them and I'm past the point of holding out hope that she will want them and I will see her again.
madjac74 Posted September 15, 2015 Posted September 15, 2015 take them back to the store. You don't want to give gifts you bought for someone else to a future girl. Even if she doesn't know, you seem like the sensitive type that it will bother you
Vintage79 Posted September 15, 2015 Posted September 15, 2015 Return - don't know why you haven't already. As an FYI - total overkill, needy, and trying to hard after a "couple of dates" - I.e. 2 dates. Throttle back next time - you probably shouldn't be making weekend getaway plans together on the first or second date...
TB Rhine Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 And just cause no one's taken you to task for this yet... absolutely NO gifts from now on until you're officially an item (like, boyfriend/girlfriend). You never want to appear to be moving faster than she is, in the emotional investment department. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 I'm curious. Why would you make so many future plans w/a girl you only had two dates with? That on top of you buying her gifts makes you seem really over anxious and needy to be honest. My advice for future women is to be in the moment a lot more and take it date by date. Then once you're exclusive and getting a bit more serious, you start making more future plans.
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