AlurOne Posted September 15, 2015 Posted September 15, 2015 (edited) I'm never in a straight-forward situation lol... A few months ago I get a request on LinkedIn from this super fly cutie (I'll call her J) who works in the same industry. As soon as I added her, she asked to get together for lunch. That was quick, but not so out of the ordinary for my profession. She's a sales rep for a vendor, and I'm in a position where I could potentially refer business to her. As we were trying to arrange lunch, the conversation moved off of LinkedIn and over to our personal email because it was easier to communicate that way. So we get together for lunch and seemed to hit it off right away. We talked about business for about 45 seconds, during which time it became clear to us both that I could realisically help her very little if any in that realm. The conversation quickly turned personal, and it wasn't long before she was showing me pics of her cat and stuff like that. We spent almost 2 hours together, agreed that we should get together again soon, and exchanged personal phone numbers. She paid the bill as is usual in this scenario. The next day I texted her to say thanks for lunch, and next time we get together I'll buy, which would clearly make it a personal date IMO. She was very receptive, and started adding smiley and winky faces, etc to her texts. We were both very busy, but trying to make arrangements to get together, and I specifically asked her to dinner. She gave me options for nights when she was free, but our schedules weren't matching up, so we decided to have lunch again. She texted me the day before and said she was looking forward to it. Then about 30 min before we met, she texted me to say that she was bringing a friend who works in the same industry. So I'm like ok, there's my answer lol. Even though she already knows I can't be of much help business-wise. So I have lunch with them, 2 cuties, and they pay. I figure there's worse ways to spend a few hours. I arrive after them and they seem to have everything set up at the table so I sit next to J, who greets me with a hug this time. There was very little business talk, and J is very engaging... Touching my arm and whatnot. Her friend had to leave after about 45 minutes, and made a joke about me and J sitting on the same side of the table with nobody on the other side (a la Seinfeld episode), to which J responds "I dont mind that." We sat next to eachother and talked for a while. As we were getting ready to leave, she asks if I want to walk over to the bakery with her. So I do, and in passing, she slips the words "my boyfriend" into the conversation (again reminds me of a Seinfeld episode). So in my head I'm thinking ok that's that, forget about anything personal. But then as we are leaving the bakery, she invites me to meet her and a few friends the next night for happy hour. I couldn't go, but in any case I'm thinking "boyfriend" so just let it be. She gave me a big hug and says lets get together again soon. I told her reach out to me anytime. I left thinking ok whatever... Confusing but nothing for me to see here. I wasn't going to initiate anything further. Then a month passes, and we come to today, when she texts me "Good morning! How's it going?" I respond and she quickly comes back saying we should get together again soon. Now I'm like wtf lol. It's clear that there is little if any opportunity for a business relationship, and she mentioned a boyfriend, yet hits me up to get together. I was watching out from the start for signs of her being just a flirty salesperson to help get business, but she knows I can't really help her. Anyone wanna take a crack at this one? My friends think she sounds like some crazy chick who's looking to cheat on her boyfriend, but then again my friends can be idiots. Would you get together with her again? What would your approach be? The situation does intrigue me somewhat and I'm curious, can't lie. Edited September 15, 2015 by AlurOne
mrldii Posted September 15, 2015 Posted September 15, 2015 Reads like she's interested in you "in that way" and has either just broken up with her boyfriend or is interested enough in you to cheat on him to see what happens with you. If she hasn't broken up with him, she's cheating (if they're not in an open relationship) and appears to be a d*ck-swinger...i.e., a girl who won't let go of one d*ck 'til she's a firm grip on the next one. If you're OK with being with a [possible] cheater, go for it! 1
Author AlurOne Posted September 15, 2015 Author Posted September 15, 2015 Reads like she's interested in you "in that way" and has either just broken up with her boyfriend or is interested enough in you to cheat on him to see what happens with you. If she hasn't broken up with him, she's cheating (if they're not in an open relationship) and appears to be a d*ck-swinger...i.e., a girl who won't let go of one d*ck 'til she's a firm grip on the next one. If you're OK with being with a [possible] cheater, go for it! Lol @ dick swinger. Maybe my friends aren't such idiots after all... Definitely not trying to be on the other end of a cheating scenario, IMO that's a big withdrawal from the karma bank. However we did just make plans for next week to meet for happy hour, so I'll see how that goes.
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